Sex Fact: Female-Led Domination

Kayla Kayla
In “The Mistress Manual”, Mistress Lorelei has some tips to make sure that all of your female-led domination goes as smoothly as possible. The tips could also be applied to male-led domination relationships/play:

She talks about keeping Dominance in its Place. You should talk about and understand how far your Domination and submission will reach. Will it be in the bedroom only? How often will you participate in it? You should never use Domination and submission to work out anger in the relationship.

She also talks about making sure that you keep it Safe, Sane, and Consensual. Despite the appearance of non-consent, all play should be discussion and agreed upon in advance. Either one of you has the right to say “no” at any point in time.

Mistress Lorelei also stresses the importance of talking to one another. Communication is the key to success in any relationship, and it's especially important in a relationship where power-play is present.

To find more sex facts like this, check out The Mistress Manual, sold on EdenFantasys, which is the book where this sex fact came from.

Which one of these tips do you obey? Do you have other tips you'd want to recommend for those involved in D/s relationships?
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
Domination in its Place
33
Safe, Sane, and Consensual
40
Communication
34
Other
4
Total votes: 111 (47 voters)
Poll is closed
10/10/2011
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unfulfilled unfulfilled
That's some great advice. We're just starting a little BDSM (spanking, handcuffs, me dressing in leather etc.) but we always communicate what's going on before and during and make sure the other is comfy.
10/10/2011
AndroAngel AndroAngel
All three of the above and don't get too caught up in the media picture of BDSM, there's so much more to it, and most of it doesn't look like that.
10/10/2011
Ivy Wilde Ivy Wilde
It's on my wish list.
10/10/2011
Ciao. Ciao.
Definitely good advice, especially the bit on communication. The most successful relationships are all built on this and especially when you start bringing power dynamics and sexuality into the equation that is the key.
10/10/2011
Diabolical Kitty Diabolical Kitty
Going to check this book out now and buying it for my fiance.
10/10/2011
Sweet-Justice Sweet-Justice
I would have to say, safe, Sane, and consensual over all.
10/10/2011
EJ EJ
We haven't gotten into any domination play at this point, so I had to check other.
10/11/2011
carenautilus carenautilus
RACK is more my style than SSC, but I very much agree about importance of communication and defined limits about where relationship takes on D/s dynamics.
10/11/2011
LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
Quote:
Originally posted by Ivy Wilde
It's on my wish list.
Mine too!
10/20/2011
geliebt geliebt
I follow all those tips, myself! I just can't have BDSM without a deep level of trust, and this all feeds into it substantially.
10/20/2011
panthers panthers
Thanks for the great advice.
01/15/2012
AHubbyof2SexualMinds AHubbyof2SexualMinds
All are good things for a relationship, not just a female-led one, I've been meaning to read this book.
01/16/2012
ASpiritedSlut ASpiritedSlut
I love, love, love that book! It's fantastic and I recommend it to anyone interested in kink or the BDSM lifestyle.
12/13/2012
xcapricax xcapricax
Might read more of this.
12/14/2012
novanilla novanilla
I'm not sure what is meant by not using dominance and submission to resolve anger. Does that mean in the bedroom? I think bdsm often helps us get past our fights, but I don't think it's right for arguments to be settled because one person is in charge.
12/16/2012
gwenevieve gwenevieve
Quote:
Originally posted by Kayla
In “The Mistress Manual”, Mistress Lorelei has some tips to make sure that all of your female-led domination goes as smoothly as possible. The tips could also be applied to male-led domination relationships/play:

She talks about keeping ... More
Sounds like a great book, this is all very good, sound advice that is very important to know when entering BDSM.
12/17/2012
Total posts: 17
Unique posters: 17