I like both. There's no way around it, a tighter sensation feels so much better...and anal is without a doubt...the tightest entry point in a woman's body.
However, with that said, if she's not into it then I can skip anal. I do give respect to my lovers.
For women, this is a really tough situation. A woman's vagina can change over time for several reasons. Giving birth has been known to enlarge the vagina, but so can living la vida loca--having multiple partners. Both are considered taboo to talk about, but it does occur. There is also the phrase a "dropped vagina/uterus" that explains an extreme condition of this. Porn actress Sasha Grey performed with porn actor Diesel in one porn video in where near the end of a scene he yells out "...make that pussy tighter!" and begins to stimulate her clitoris with his fingers because her vagina was too wide. He was hoping that would tighten her vagina. He is about 6 feet tall, with an estimated 11 to 14 inch erection, and she about 5 feet 2 inches tall and weighs around 110 pounds. Again, it is taboo and medical experts, pastors, and counselors immediately jump in to say that isn't so...but it is true...I've got buds that talk about this sort of thing. Their sex lives are no longer fun, BUT those men don't want to go to another woman. So they ask what can they do. Read on for my suggestion. Please note, I do not guarantee that this will work but it is worth a try.
About 9 nine years ago I had a lover that was so talented in bed that I still remember her movements while she rode on top of me cowgirl style. She could squeeze and maneuver her PC muscles around my erection like no other lady I have had the pleasure of making love to. So, I asked her where did she learn those techniques...the answer was not what I expected. To my surprise, she had read a HOW TO book, a guide for women on how to satisfy their man...however, it was advice, yes mostly from a female author, but some of that advice was from a gay man that gave insights on what the female reader could do with her vagina to have maximum effect on the male shaft. The book also gave advice on oral sex. She was excellently skilled at that as well. Apparently, there were 2 competing books that were released at the same time. She read them both to gather as much info on techniques to satisfy her man.
She said it was the best money she had ever invested in. I don't doubt it for a second.
I bring that up because it could be VERY useful for couples that are on opposite ends of the question "to have or not to have anal." If she can learn new techniques...it may save a relationship.
Perhaps, Eden Fantasys can look into it and locate those books for our members to purchase.