Another couple, the wife always uses a "lube shooter" and fills he anus with a thick gel, then uses a "more watery" lube on her anus and butt cheeks. Once she is "wet" (her hubby always just lay's there and watches...getting hard at the sight), then steps up, and she sucks him for a while, then rubs the watery lube on his tool and then "turns around and guides him in".
In our case, my hubby tends to do the lubing while playing with me anally and vaginally with his fingers. It is rare indeed for me to touch the lube, now that we think about it.
One other couple both lube themselves and then go at it, and finally, one other couple said they always hug while he reaches around and lubes her butt and she reaches down to lube him up. Anal, for them, always then goes to her sitting in a rocker and him kneeling in front of her and penetrating her from the front like that, with her legs over her shoulders. The actually use the rocker for creating an "in and out" motion!!! (we are now considering buying a rocking chair).
One final couple "never" puts lube on or in "her". (Interesting). The husband just slathers on a glob (their words) of lube on his penis and uses a "tube" of lube to keep adding more where they "meet", once he has penetrated" her. She swears it is both comfortable and she enjoys it "far more" then having her butt "prelubed" and not feeling enough intensity as he pushes in. To each their own.
SO...how about in YOUR anal love relationship. Who put's on the lube and WHERE?