Any tips from guys and girls alike...please

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Any tips from guys and girls alike...please

J's Alley J's Alley
Ok, so I am not new to oral sex. I have been giving my husband oral for the past 7 years. The issue is...he is the only one I have done it to. While he says I am doing a good job and throws in his own little ideas, I still have little confidence that I am doing as well as he says. I know I should listen to him, but I really want to try something new and impress him. Anyone have any tricks they can let me in on. I don't do anything spectacular...just basic oral. So anything at all would help me.
07/29/2009
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Valyn Valyn
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Originally posted by J's Alley
Ok, so I am not new to oral sex. I have been giving my husband oral for the past 7 years. The issue is...he is the only one I have done it to. While he says I am doing a good job and throws in his own little ideas, I still have little confidence ...
Have you tried Googling "oral sex tips"? I just did and found tons of how-tos. There is plenty out there!
07/29/2009
Backseat Boohoo Backseat Boohoo
As previously mentioned, Google loves you. You can also look up "blowjobs" on free porn video sites, or check out an instructional video. Nina Hartley and Pinky have both done blowjob-oriented videos.

A few things I like to do that are MAYBE not "basic"...not sure?...include licking from the balls to the tip, holding the base of the penis firmly in one hand while moving the other hand up and down the shaft and sucking on the head, face-fucking, playing with the foreskin (if there is one), and carefully slapping his dick (if he's in to that). One guy I know is especially fond of the "blowpop" technique, which is basically when you put the dick in your mouth, suck hard and pull up, so it should make a loud popping noise. You can also hold a vibrate up against your cheek while you blow, kind of like an industrial-powered hummer; just watch your teeth.
07/29/2009
Backseat Boohoo Backseat Boohoo
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Originally posted by Backseat Boohoo
As previously mentioned, Google loves you. You can also look up "blowjobs" on free porn video sites, or check out an instructional video. Nina Hartley and Pinky have both done blowjob-oriented videos.

A few things I like to do that ...
Er, "hold a vibratOR." I suck tonight.
07/29/2009
J's Alley J's Alley
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Originally posted by Backseat Boohoo
Er, "hold a vibratOR." I suck tonight.
That sounds like something he'd really enjoy...Ok, I need to try that one
07/29/2009
Alan & Michele Alan & Michele
This one's really hard to explain, but it's a technique that drives my hubby wild. Put him in your mouth as far as you can and suck fairly hard, then "blow" (without actually letting any air out around your lips), and then alternate that as fast as you can manage suck-blow-suck-blow, so you get like a f-ing motion using only your mouth (no head-bobbing and no hands allowed!). "Blow" isn't exactly the right word there, since there's no air involved, but try it out on your thumb or something and you should be able to get the idea. Ideally, you want to practice until you can get a quick and consistent rhythym going with that.

Also, some guys really like it if you tongue the split a bit (ask your partner to let you know if that's good for him) and almost all guys love a good deep throat.
07/29/2009
NuMe NuMe
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Originally posted by Backseat Boohoo
As previously mentioned, Google loves you. You can also look up "blowjobs" on free porn video sites, or check out an instructional video. Nina Hartley and Pinky have both done blowjob-oriented videos.

A few things I like to do that ...
I have the Nina Hartley one and I wasn't impressed.
07/29/2009
MattBryant MattBryant
while stroking him twist your hand a little, on the way up, or down. licking under the ridge of his head. sucking on his head and stroking when he gets close. all guys are different. the main thing is enthusiasm, make him believe you wanna suck him more than anything else in the world.

as for balls, sucking/nibbling/licki ng doesn't do much for me. but a nice gentle squeeze and tug does wonders.

try watching some online porn sometime. just for ideas.
08/29/2009
Sir Sir
Penises are very fun to work with and you can do a lot of things with them, especially if you enjoy giving your partner oral. I enjoy things like: licking under the rim, having my stomach stroked while my little girl's giving me head, light brushes of the tongue on my shaft, slow but tight sucking, having her roll her tongue around my shaft, moving into her mouth very roughly, etc.

Any of these things, you can adapt to do with your partner and see what reaction you get. If he's into being penetrated or touched anally (I'm personally not), then you may want to take that route. The testicles being touched is a very "touchy" subject; some people like it, some people would rather not because they're very sensitive. If your partner allows you to go there, then go ahead and see what happens.

Good luck and have fun.
08/29/2009
flirt flirt
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Originally posted by J's Alley
Ok, so I am not new to oral sex. I have been giving my husband oral for the past 7 years. The issue is...he is the only one I have done it to. While he says I am doing a good job and throws in his own little ideas, I still have little confidence ...
The best blowjob I EVER had was when my girlfriend got up in the middle of it, went to the freezer, got some icecubes, and returned to the job with an icecube in her mouth. Truly astonishing.
08/29/2009
MattBryant MattBryant
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Originally posted by flirt
The best blowjob I EVER had was when my girlfriend got up in the middle of it, went to the freezer, got some icecubes, and returned to the job with an icecube in her mouth. Truly astonishing.
i totally agree. one of my favs was when my gf got out some ice cream.. i had mentioned it months and months before, so it was quite a surprise, we even had to hurry so we wouldn't get caught cos i was expecting people over for a party.
09/03/2009
Luscious Lily Luscious Lily
There are a lot of great suggestions here. One thing I do that I haven't seen mentioned doesn't take much work, but it drives my boyfriend crazy. I tilt my head back a bit, so the head of his penis is pointed at the roof of my mouth, then slide the head back and forth (sort of in and out) along the ridges on the roof. There's a lot of texture up there, and he loves it.
09/03/2009
Backseat Boohoo Backseat Boohoo
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Originally posted by NuMe
I have the Nina Hartley one and I wasn't impressed.
Oh no! Nina failed?! D:
09/04/2009
Backseat Boohoo Backseat Boohoo
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Originally posted by Luscious Lily
There are a lot of great suggestions here. One thing I do that I haven't seen mentioned doesn't take much work, but it drives my boyfriend crazy. I tilt my head back a bit, so the head of his penis is pointed at the roof of my mouth, then ...
Most guys I know love that, too, but it's hard for me to do because my teeth are so big.
09/04/2009
flirt flirt
Oh another one is the old standard - eat a strong mint before or during. That tingly cold sensation transfers to the penis very nicely indeed.
09/05/2009
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
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Originally posted by J's Alley
Ok, so I am not new to oral sex. I have been giving my husband oral for the past 7 years. The issue is...he is the only one I have done it to. While he says I am doing a good job and throws in his own little ideas, I still have little confidence ...
For me the ultimate BJ is hands free - that is my wife uses her hands to caress my shaved skin - not 'cheat' by stroking me off. Depending upon her mood hew fingers will lightly caress my abdomen, legs, balls, perineum and/or anus. She plays my like the proverbial skin-flute!

Don't get me wrong - I get plenty of great hand-jobs - but one should not masquerade as the other. For me, both are equally enjoyable - probably because I get plenty of both.

Back to oral tips - over time my wife has gradually increased how deeply she takes me - I think just by gradually desensitizing her gag reflex. Again I've never pressed her to do it - the fact that she's done this solely as a way to enhance my pleasure says a lot about the value of making your partners pleasure the focus of your intimate time together.

Recently she's been getting more aggressive - first with her fingers, them moving to some of our smaller dildos and vibes to add prostate stimulation - boy does that work!

There's always the question of whether to swallow or not. I've never asked my wife to do it - but she always has - like she thinks that's just part of the deal - who am I to complain!

It would fun to do a facial once in a while - but that's not her thing and I respect that.

I suggest experimenting with new things - don't wait for him to ask you.
09/07/2009
Liz2 Liz2
I love to give a BJ and by b/f so enjoys them. I too was looking for a different technique so I practiced with a dil, enjoying all the sensations in my mouth and tongue w/o a concern about time. I get so turned on, then I just use the dil with some vigorous thrusting in my vagina for an orgasm. The practices certainly enhance my oral skills; new positions, sensations and a super way to develop a deep throat technique.
09/08/2009
♥ Amanda ♥ ♥ Amanda ♥
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Originally posted by J's Alley
Ok, so I am not new to oral sex. I have been giving my husband oral for the past 7 years. The issue is...he is the only one I have done it to. While he says I am doing a good job and throws in his own little ideas, I still have little confidence ...
You can add a little vibration stimulation. My hubby loves it. I take a small bullet... like the kind that comes with a cock ring, and caress his cock with it. And then rest it on his balls. I take a pleasant tasting lube and smother his cock in it and then lick from bottom to top. I tease him slowly and after a while... I go for it, and his orgasm is so extreme! Give it a try.... he will be lying at your feet I promise!
10/14/2009
KinkyShay KinkyShay
A couple things.

When I'm using my hands, in between straight oral, a make a movement like I'm opening a jar, except both hands are in use. one holds the penis, the other twists, then the reverse, and then both hands in both directions. Another is the over the top movement. One hand holds the base, the other moves up the shaft and over the tip, then down the other side. Soon as it gets down to the base, switch hands and do that motion with the opposite hand. Guys have gotten weak in the knees over these two moves. Yet another move is to go down even further. Gently suck his balls while stroking his cock. I can't tell you how many men will come from just this alone.
04/08/2010
hot spot hot spot
Not sure if I can describe this easily. My wife and I discovered this trick. For me getting oral I would lie in bed on my back. She turns around, lies on her side, lays across my leg, and and approaches me with her mouth sideways to my penis. We found that if she would go underneath/ use her mouth to stroke and massage up and down the shaft right along that tube the semen comes thru it felt fantastic. You can continus this all the way to orgasam. (Warning: you will get soaked) The first few time she brought me off this way I almost lost my mind. I'm used to it now; but it's still one of my favorites.
If it bothers you to get messy; I just wouldn't start this; because it would be VERY anti-climatic to back off at the critical moment.
If the "giver" is having problems with TMJ, this is an effective way to give oral without pushing your jaws open so wide.
07/17/2010
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