lol, these are great. I give bjs frequently, and I like to think I'm the queen of road head, so that isn't the problem.
I've always been too timid to ask for things directly, and I guess I'm afraid to scare him! Before I was married, boys were very forceful - to the point that it was exhausting to deal with all the time. I was always timid and shy, but it didn't matter with them. Admittedly, my first sexual penetration experience was rape when I was 20, so that threw some things out of balance.
The hubs was never like that, which I appreciated, but now I have a whole new dynamic I'm trying to get used to. I probably should be more upfront in the bedroom about what I want specifically, but I don't want him to feel like he's just a tool! I have a more voracious sex drive than him, so we've already dealt with him feeling pressured. Communication is key, for sure!