My husband is unable to maintain an erection while having his prostate massaged. He is fairly new to trying prostate massage, so perhaps he just needs to continue to get used to the sensation. It is almost like it is a distraction and his penis is confused as to why there are other sensations going on!
Have you had an orgasm solely from prostate stimulation?
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Is he enjoying it?
Originally posted by
Selective Sensualist
My husband is unable to maintain an erection while having his prostate massaged. He is fairly new to trying prostate massage, so perhaps he just needs to continue to get used to the sensation. It is almost like it is a distraction and his penis is
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My husband is unable to maintain an erection while having his prostate massaged. He is fairly new to trying prostate massage, so perhaps he just needs to continue to get used to the sensation. It is almost like it is a distraction and his penis is confused as to why there are other sensations going on!
That's really the only question you need to ask. Many men (myself included) don't maintain an erection constantly throughout anal play unless you're stimulating the penis from time to time. That's just fine - it can still feel great, and be stimulating for him even with a soft penis. Many men explain it along the lines of "the pleasure focus moves to the anus/P-spot, and so my penis isn't always as important".
If you keep up the stimulation his general level of arousal will keep rising, and that might translate into an erection later. With prostate/anal stimulation it's possible to have an orgasm/ejaculation without being erect as well, so he might not need to get hard. A third option is later, when he's ready to finish, combine the anal/prostate stimulation with a little penile stimulation to get him close, and then let the prostate stimulation take him over the edge.
09/19/2010
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The first couple of times are the hardest. Once you start to learn how to experience pleasure through your prostate/anus it gets much easier.
Originally posted by
BJismyname
I might be a poor choice to ask this question. Not only have I had the blessed euphoria of anal orgasm, but It's almost guaranteed when my partner tops me. It is nothing like an orgasm from penile stimulation. For me, it is completely uncontrolled
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I might be a poor choice to ask this question. Not only have I had the blessed euphoria of anal orgasm, but It's almost guaranteed when my partner tops me. It is nothing like an orgasm from penile stimulation. For me, it is completely uncontrolled and when it first happened to me it was almost too much. I can't say that I've ever had an anal orgasm and NOT had an ejaculatory reaction.
but like I said, I'm a poor choice to ask this question because apparently I'm an exception because of how many and how often I have the pleasure of experiencing it!
but like I said, I'm a poor choice to ask this question because apparently I'm an exception because of how many and how often I have the pleasure of experiencing it!
Most of the time a prostate orgasm feels quite good. Occasionally I have an "unusual" one where I ejaculate without the intense rush of pleasure of an orgasm, but it is rare (3 times so far).
09/23/2010
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Not yet but we have been trying!!
Originally posted by
spicywife
Quite some time ago, when I first started reading and experimenting with massaging my husband's prostate, I had read that a male can orgasm just from that (without stimulation to the penis). I wasn't sure I believed it at first, but the more I
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Quite some time ago, when I first started reading and experimenting with massaging my husband's prostate, I had read that a male can orgasm just from that (without stimulation to the penis). I wasn't sure I believed it at first, but the more I researched it seems to be true but that it is difficult to achieve.
If you have, was it just as satisfying as if your penis was being stimulated as well?
If you have, was it just as satisfying as if your penis was being stimulated as well?
12/07/2010
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Yes, but the problem is that trying can make it harder. Get into the stimulation and loose yourself and it will come. A bit of foreplay definitely helps.
Originally posted by
Porfiriato
After reading this thread I'll have to try a little harder to achieve a prostate orgasm, sounds amazing
12/11/2010
This has been a pretty good thread so far regarding prostate orgasms. I think the big problem for most people starting out is that there is all this expectation. When you read stories here and elsewhere about people having these out of body experiences through prostate stimulation you think "WOW...I want in on that!" Of course you do! The truth is though that very few people achieve any results right away. This is something that generally takes some learning and persistence, and what people over at the Aneros forums call "rewiring."
While I think the discussion at the Aneros forums can get a little bit over the top on a number of levels, the concept of rewiring is a good one, because it accurately describes how your brain processes the pleasure associated with having your pspot massaged. If all you have ever known is a penile orgasm, then it takes some time to learn how to accept and recognize the sensations that come from the pspot; they are very different than getting pleasure from the penis. That said, Scott mentioned in a post earlier in this thread that sometimes the pspot enthusiasts are a little too into just the prostate, and I agree with this. It's true that to make things happen, you do need to learn how to not touch your penis while getting pleasure from your prostate, but touching your penis can also enhance pleasures that you might be experiencing, just as touching other parts of your body can do the same (nipples, stomach, taint, neck , lips etc). Your whole body becomes ultra sensitive to touch as the prostate becomes aroused, and sometimes I'll put both hands on my penis and just hold it. I won't move my hands at all, and the feeling of my hands there can sometimes bring me over the edge into some verys strong non ejaculatory orgasms.
If you're having trouble getting anywhere, try lightly stroking the very tip of your penis on the underside. Don't press hard or masturbate as you normally would, just tease yourself a little. When you feel waves of pleasure, back off a little bit and see where they go. Eventually you will get to a point where you are in full control of the massager in your bum. I am at a point now after four years of going at it that I feel like I am riding whatever massager I'm using, and I can now appreciate the differences between them. Getting to this point took a lot of time, but I'm so glad that I figured it out because I honestly think that I'm a happier person because of the intense orgasms that I have regularly. Also, and I've mentioned this in other threads, I have found that marijuana is absolute magic for jump starting your journey into pspot orgasms. If that offends your sensibilities, no big deal... you will eventually get there if you keep with it. If you're open to trying weed and a prostate massager, I highly recommend that you do.
While I think the discussion at the Aneros forums can get a little bit over the top on a number of levels, the concept of rewiring is a good one, because it accurately describes how your brain processes the pleasure associated with having your pspot massaged. If all you have ever known is a penile orgasm, then it takes some time to learn how to accept and recognize the sensations that come from the pspot; they are very different than getting pleasure from the penis. That said, Scott mentioned in a post earlier in this thread that sometimes the pspot enthusiasts are a little too into just the prostate, and I agree with this. It's true that to make things happen, you do need to learn how to not touch your penis while getting pleasure from your prostate, but touching your penis can also enhance pleasures that you might be experiencing, just as touching other parts of your body can do the same (nipples, stomach, taint, neck , lips etc). Your whole body becomes ultra sensitive to touch as the prostate becomes aroused, and sometimes I'll put both hands on my penis and just hold it. I won't move my hands at all, and the feeling of my hands there can sometimes bring me over the edge into some verys strong non ejaculatory orgasms.
If you're having trouble getting anywhere, try lightly stroking the very tip of your penis on the underside. Don't press hard or masturbate as you normally would, just tease yourself a little. When you feel waves of pleasure, back off a little bit and see where they go. Eventually you will get to a point where you are in full control of the massager in your bum. I am at a point now after four years of going at it that I feel like I am riding whatever massager I'm using, and I can now appreciate the differences between them. Getting to this point took a lot of time, but I'm so glad that I figured it out because I honestly think that I'm a happier person because of the intense orgasms that I have regularly. Also, and I've mentioned this in other threads, I have found that marijuana is absolute magic for jump starting your journey into pspot orgasms. If that offends your sensibilities, no big deal... you will eventually get there if you keep with it. If you're open to trying weed and a prostate massager, I highly recommend that you do.
12/17/2010
I've had lots of orgasms solely from prostate stimulation, both internal and external. My very first orgasm was from external prostate stimulation when I was 12. It's so much more satisfying than just stimulating your penis. They're quite tricky though, especially doing it externally. It's not something I expect every man to be able to achieve. Like I said, I started doing it at a young age.
12/17/2010
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Most of the time they're at least equally satisfying, but different. Every once and a while there's a funny "fake-out" orgasm where the semen just runs out and it isn't accompanied by the muscle contractions, shooting stars, and other paraphernalia of orgasm.
Originally posted by
Rainbow Boy
I've had lots of orgasms solely from prostate stimulation, both internal and external. My very first orgasm was from external prostate stimulation when I was 12. It's so much more satisfying than just stimulating your penis. They're quite tricky
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I've had lots of orgasms solely from prostate stimulation, both internal and external. My very first orgasm was from external prostate stimulation when I was 12. It's so much more satisfying than just stimulating your penis. They're quite tricky though, especially doing it externally. It's not something I expect every man to be able to achieve. Like I said, I started doing it at a young age.
12/17/2010
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This is fascinating. I sound like I'm being sarcastic, but I'm not.
Originally posted by
ScottA
Most of the time they're at least equally satisfying, but different. Every once and a while there's a funny "fake-out" orgasm where the semen just runs out and it isn't accompanied by the muscle contractions, shooting stars, and other paraphernalia
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Most of the time they're at least equally satisfying, but different. Every once and a while there's a funny "fake-out" orgasm where the semen just runs out and it isn't accompanied by the muscle contractions, shooting stars, and other paraphernalia of orgasm.
12/29/2010
hornypoet69
So this is probably the hottest thread, I've ever read on this site...
I have never had a p-spot orgasm, though I have done anal play. I always bring out my dildo (The Silk Small by Tantus) after I orgasm by traditional means. I'm more relaxed that way. Would that affect my ability to have a prostate orgasm? or do I need a different toy. The B-Bomb by Tantus is on it's way. (I'm a tantus loyalist, can you tell?)
I have never had a p-spot orgasm, though I have done anal play. I always bring out my dildo (The Silk Small by Tantus) after I orgasm by traditional means. I'm more relaxed that way. Would that affect my ability to have a prostate orgasm? or do I need a different toy. The B-Bomb by Tantus is on it's way. (I'm a tantus loyalist, can you tell?)
12/29/2010
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I suppose stimulating your prostate after ejaculating could work, and I've had some moments of pleasure doing this, but I would say that you should generally go for prostate stimulation first. You should try out a dedicated prostate massager. Also, if you can handle not ejaculating for a day or two or even more, then your prostate will be a lot more sensitive to stimulation.
Originally posted by
hornypoet69
So this is probably the hottest thread, I've ever read on this site...
I have never had a p-spot orgasm, though I have done anal play. I always bring out my dildo (The Silk Small by Tantus) after I orgasm by traditional means. I'm more relaxed ...
I have never had a p-spot orgasm, though I have done anal play. I always bring out my dildo (The Silk Small by Tantus) after I orgasm by traditional means. I'm more relaxed ...
So this is probably the hottest thread, I've ever read on this site...
I have never had a p-spot orgasm, though I have done anal play. I always bring out my dildo (The Silk Small by Tantus) after I orgasm by traditional means. I'm more relaxed that way. Would that affect my ability to have a prostate orgasm? or do I need a different toy. The B-Bomb by Tantus is on it's way. (I'm a tantus loyalist, can you tell?)
I have never had a p-spot orgasm, though I have done anal play. I always bring out my dildo (The Silk Small by Tantus) after I orgasm by traditional means. I'm more relaxed that way. Would that affect my ability to have a prostate orgasm? or do I need a different toy. The B-Bomb by Tantus is on it's way. (I'm a tantus loyalist, can you tell?)
12/31/2010
hornypoet69
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Do you have any suggestions for beginner prostate stimulators?
Originally posted by
csweatc
I suppose stimulating your prostate after ejaculating could work, and I've had some moments of pleasure doing this, but I would say that you should generally go for prostate stimulation first. You should try out a dedicated prostate massager. Also,
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I suppose stimulating your prostate after ejaculating could work, and I've had some moments of pleasure doing this, but I would say that you should generally go for prostate stimulation first. You should try out a dedicated prostate massager. Also, if you can handle not ejaculating for a day or two or even more, then your prostate will be a lot more sensitive to stimulation.
12/31/2010
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Start with a finger and see if you like it. Make sure your nails are trimmed and use lube. A glove can be used to make your finger smoother or to make the finger owner more comfortable with prostate stimulation. Do some foreplay with the penis first, as the prostate will be more sensitive and easier to find when the guy is sexually excited (the prostate gets hard). Once you decide you like it you can start looking at toys - a wand is a nice first toy, or a small dildo.
Originally posted by
hornypoet69
Do you have any suggestions for beginner prostate stimulators?
12/31/2010
Despite the size of the toys I use, I'm still an anal beginner. I hadn't played with my ass in 10 or 11 years. That changed in September 2010 when I bought the medium Njoy Pure Plug. While it has never given me an orgasm, it was incredibly comfortable and pleasurable and I had to try more. My niche in the whole anal play seems to be extended wear with plugs. It seems easier to P-spot orgasm with light subtle movements (for me at least) and I love to have orgasms in public. But I have to be careful about facial contortions if I let it get too intense.
My wife doesn't quite have the sex drive that I do. P-spot pleasure keeps me satisfied between our times together. And I have not complained about not enough sex since I found my P-spot.
Your toy choices are very personal. A lot of reviewers here prefer silicone or other soft toys, and I can see their point. But I like steel and glass. For myself, a firm toy is easier to control and I don't have to work hard to get off.
Keep in mind, too, that our bodies are different. Apparently, I adapt well to larger diameter toys. But I have progressed much slower in the length department. Experimentation is key to finding what toys work best for you and the manner with which you use them.
My wife doesn't quite have the sex drive that I do. P-spot pleasure keeps me satisfied between our times together. And I have not complained about not enough sex since I found my P-spot.
Your toy choices are very personal. A lot of reviewers here prefer silicone or other soft toys, and I can see their point. But I like steel and glass. For myself, a firm toy is easier to control and I don't have to work hard to get off.
Keep in mind, too, that our bodies are different. Apparently, I adapt well to larger diameter toys. But I have progressed much slower in the length department. Experimentation is key to finding what toys work best for you and the manner with which you use them.
01/04/2011
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Just did today. It was different, not more or less satisfying, but I came a lot more. Like... I drenched myself. The Aneros MGX got me there, but I'm not sure it's the best toy for it, it just happened to be what I was using.
Originally posted by
spicywife
Quite some time ago, when I first started reading and experimenting with massaging my husband's prostate, I had read that a male can orgasm just from that (without stimulation to the penis). I wasn't sure I believed it at first, but the more I
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Quite some time ago, when I first started reading and experimenting with massaging my husband's prostate, I had read that a male can orgasm just from that (without stimulation to the penis). I wasn't sure I believed it at first, but the more I researched it seems to be true but that it is difficult to achieve.
If you have, was it just as satisfying as if your penis was being stimulated as well?
If you have, was it just as satisfying as if your penis was being stimulated as well?
01/04/2011
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It worked, didn't it? Once you get the first prostate orgasm it gets easier because you now know how your body reacts. You can try different toys to see where they get you - glass probes, dildos, vibes, whatever sounds like it would feel good. Think about the sensations and what you liked/would like more of/would like less of.
Originally posted by
That Guy
Just did today. It was different, not more or less satisfying, but I came a lot more. Like... I drenched myself. The Aneros MGX got me there, but I'm not sure it's the best toy for it, it just happened to be what I was using.
01/24/2011
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Absolutely. I'm getting better and better about it with time. It's a lot like singing: they keep trying to describe the feeling of what you should be doing, but until you do it you can't really figure out what you're supposed to be doing. After you feel it once, it gets easier and easier to seek it out.
Originally posted by
ScottA
It worked, didn't it? Once you get the first prostate orgasm it gets easier because you now know how your body reacts. You can try different toys to see where they get you - glass probes, dildos, vibes, whatever sounds like it would feel good. Think
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It worked, didn't it? Once you get the first prostate orgasm it gets easier because you now know how your body reacts. You can try different toys to see where they get you - glass probes, dildos, vibes, whatever sounds like it would feel good. Think about the sensations and what you liked/would like more of/would like less of.
02/17/2011
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Ever since I saw a video by a guy who cam just from using a dildo in his ass, I've been trying to do it myself. So far I have yet to succeed.
Originally posted by
spicywife
Quite some time ago, when I first started reading and experimenting with massaging my husband's prostate, I had read that a male can orgasm just from that (without stimulation to the penis). I wasn't sure I believed it at first, but the more I
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Quite some time ago, when I first started reading and experimenting with massaging my husband's prostate, I had read that a male can orgasm just from that (without stimulation to the penis). I wasn't sure I believed it at first, but the more I researched it seems to be true but that it is difficult to achieve.
If you have, was it just as satisfying as if your penis was being stimulated as well?
If you have, was it just as satisfying as if your penis was being stimulated as well?
03/07/2011
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Welcome to the world of prostate milking. Basically you are expressing out the prostatic fluid.
Originally posted by
jedent
Not entirely from prostate stimulation, but I've noticed that as soon as the thing even gets touched, there is cum dripping out of him like a leaky faucet. I mean a LOT more than the regular pre-cum stuff, I mean this is like "did you cum? NO?
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Not entirely from prostate stimulation, but I've noticed that as soon as the thing even gets touched, there is cum dripping out of him like a leaky faucet. I mean a LOT more than the regular pre-cum stuff, I mean this is like "did you cum? NO? what the hell is all this then?"
And then when he does orgasm, it's like SPLADOOOW! Never seen so much in my life come out of one dude.
And then when he does orgasm, it's like SPLADOOOW! Never seen so much in my life come out of one dude.
03/12/2011
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For me, it is a completely different feeling. The stimulation of the prostate does not require me to be erect or to ejaculate. It is therefore a new and exciting experience.
Originally posted by
spicywife
Quite some time ago, when I first started reading and experimenting with massaging my husband's prostate, I had read that a male can orgasm just from that (without stimulation to the penis). I wasn't sure I believed it at first, but the more I
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Quite some time ago, when I first started reading and experimenting with massaging my husband's prostate, I had read that a male can orgasm just from that (without stimulation to the penis). I wasn't sure I believed it at first, but the more I researched it seems to be true but that it is difficult to achieve.
If you have, was it just as satisfying as if your penis was being stimulated as well?
If you have, was it just as satisfying as if your penis was being stimulated as well?
05/27/2011
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I put my finger in him with lots of lube and find that little walnut shaped (and textured) lump forward, toward his tummy. All I do is rub and he says "he cannot control" anything at that point. YES, he cums...hard, and almost instantly. Penis touch or not. If I do it when sucking him, he says it raises the orgasm from a 10 to a 25!!!! (on a ten point scale)!
Originally posted by
spicywife
Oops, I should clarify that the question for the poll is "Have you had an orgasm solely from prostate stimulation?"
I asked "was it just as satisfying as if your penis was being stimulated as well?" as a secondary question, if anyone wants to ...
I asked "was it just as satisfying as if your penis was being stimulated as well?" as a secondary question, if anyone wants to ...
Oops, I should clarify that the question for the poll is "Have you had an orgasm solely from prostate stimulation?"
I asked "was it just as satisfying as if your penis was being stimulated as well?" as a secondary question, if anyone wants to jump in and leave a comment. I could phrase that question better too, "Was it just as satisfying as when your penis is stimulated and you orgasm?"
Also, for those who have a partner that isn't on EF, you can answer for them if you like. Thanks and sorry for the confusion!
I asked "was it just as satisfying as if your penis was being stimulated as well?" as a secondary question, if anyone wants to jump in and leave a comment. I could phrase that question better too, "Was it just as satisfying as when your penis is stimulated and you orgasm?"
Also, for those who have a partner that isn't on EF, you can answer for them if you like. Thanks and sorry for the confusion!
06/01/2011
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That is one thing odd for us. My hubby really explodes with P spot stimulation, but it ONLY happens from my finger. NO toy has ever hit the right spot..even those made to supposedly stimulate the prostate??? What toy do you use IN your "strap on" that works for him?
Originally posted by
Liz2
My b/f has awesome orgasms from just p spot stim., esp when I am using a strap-on.
06/01/2011
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That is one thing odd for us. My hubby really explodes with P spot stimulation, but it ONLY happens from my finger. NO toy has ever hit the right spot..even those made to supposedly stimulate the prostate??? What toy do you use IN your "strap on" that works for him?
Originally posted by
Liz2
My b/f has awesome orgasms from just p spot stim., esp when I am using a strap-on.
06/01/2011
Someone posted earlier in the thread about many men not being able to achieve/maintain an erection during P-spot play. I would say this has been typical for me, but it in no way inhibits my ability to achieve an amazing, mind-blowing orgasm. If my wife stimulates my penis at the same time I will get hard, but it's not necessary for me to climax. Sometimes I think I scare her with the intensity of the orgasm when we play like this.
06/05/2011