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I have wanted to try this on a guy for a while, but how do I go about asking, I dont want to scare him?
I expressed an interest in doing this with an old partner, I convinced him to let me try a finger or two, and told him to just relax- if he didn't like it, that would be the end of it. He did enjoy it, but it never got much further than a finger.
My current partner was much more open minded, I was the one shy of the idea. We ended up discussing kinks and such, what we'd like to try. We started with a few fingers, but now we do full on pegging. We both love it.
The way I end up asking is by probing- I ask what they think of the idea, what their thoughts are. If they seem open, I ask more questions- what kind of situation, would the be willing to try it. It just goes by how they react.