I have not, and I believe that I'm not entirely sure what I would do unless I was actually in the situation.
Would/have you ever? Abortion. Private poll.
05/20/2012
Never had one but i would if I found myself in the situation to need one. I am not at a place in my life or health where I can take care of a baby or survive a pregnancy.
05/20/2012
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It's not for me, but it is NOT my right to ever tell someone that they couldn't It is a women's right to choose and if the day comes that, that law ever changes I will pack my bags and move out of this country. We never know what situation we may be in, that, that may be the best/only options.
Originally posted by
Morganna
Have you ever had or would you ever get an abortion?
05/21/2012
I haven't, but I would.
05/21/2012
No, I haven't had an abortion. I did have an infant pass away. Would I have had an abortion if I knew she wasn't going to make it past 2 months? I can't answer that because, I was 100% against abortion at that time.
While I use to be 100% against abortion but, now at my age, I'm on the fence about it.
While I use to be 100% against abortion but, now at my age, I'm on the fence about it.
05/21/2012
Having been through a miscarriage, I am not fully affirmed that I will NEVER have an abortion. Seeing the 6-week old embryo that came out of me, I can tell you there is no such thing as a "clump of cells."
05/21/2012
I have never been pregnant, but I would only have an abortion if medically necessary. I'm at a bad point in my life for children, but I am extremely pro-adoption. My parents tried hard to adopt for years, and it wasn't until they started fostering that they managed to get pregnant.
I think the pro-choice crowd has fallen down on the 'Safe, legal, and rare' goal, and the pro-life crowd has fallen short by generally not being pro-birth control. Contraceptives need to be covered in depth, because I've known married women who got pregnant on accident because no one had ever properly explained birth control to them.
I personally think abortion is wrong when it's not an absolute medical necessity, but I acknowledge that the only way to remove it only cases of medical necessity is greater education about birth control options, loosening on strictures for young people seeking sterilization or IUD's, and a lessening of the stigma around adoption.
I think the pro-choice crowd has fallen down on the 'Safe, legal, and rare' goal, and the pro-life crowd has fallen short by generally not being pro-birth control. Contraceptives need to be covered in depth, because I've known married women who got pregnant on accident because no one had ever properly explained birth control to them.
I personally think abortion is wrong when it's not an absolute medical necessity, but I acknowledge that the only way to remove it only cases of medical necessity is greater education about birth control options, loosening on strictures for young people seeking sterilization or IUD's, and a lessening of the stigma around adoption.
05/29/2012
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Honey, Plan B is NOT an abortion.
Originally posted by
pootpootpoot
My more conservative friends would say I've had three, because I've taken Plan B that many times. However, I do not see Plan B as abortion. Anyway, I have not had one, but if I was raped by a stranger I almost definitely would.
An abortion can only take place once a woman is pregnant. In order to be pregnant, a fertilized egg has to implant in the uterine wall.
Plan B works within 72 hours of intercourse implantation can take up to 12 days sometimes longer, and never less than 4 to 5 days. Plan B and cannot dislodge a fertilized ovum from the uterine wall. You use it BEFORE you get pregnant, not after you are pregnant.
Your "conservative friends" are sadly and woefully misinformed.... and simply clinically WRONG!
You haven't had an abortion, the way you see it is, in fact, fact itself. It's a form of birth control, not an abortion. Tell your conservative friends they don't get to have an opinion on FACTS. Facts simply are true.
05/29/2012
I haven't been pregnant but if I found out I was pregnant today, I'd be having an abortion tomorrow.
It is NOT something lazy or careless women do. Frankly, it is an expensive procedure that is usually paid for without insurance or help from a partner, and people tend to look down on you for it. It is a myth that someone would pay 300 dollars every other month to "use it as birth control." If someone had that much money, they'd be able to afford some other kind of birth control that is less expensive and stigmatized.
And that's enough soapboxing for today.
It is NOT something lazy or careless women do. Frankly, it is an expensive procedure that is usually paid for without insurance or help from a partner, and people tend to look down on you for it. It is a myth that someone would pay 300 dollars every other month to "use it as birth control." If someone had that much money, they'd be able to afford some other kind of birth control that is less expensive and stigmatized.
And that's enough soapboxing for today.
05/29/2012
My mom aborted twins. Hate her for it.
05/30/2012
i would if i got pregnant as a teenager but thank god i take the precausions to prevent that from happening
05/30/2012
I have not had an abortion, but if circumstances required it, I would. Those who are anti-choice do not realize that "protecting" one child can negatively impact the lives of many people, and I believe that's a very shallow-minded way to think.
05/30/2012
I really don't want to fuel a debate, so I hope that this gets read, heard, and processed rationally and devoid of anger. I decided to share this because of the post above about hating their mother for having an abortion.
My mom had an abortion when I was 6 and I found out much later (around 16-17). I resented her for it for a long time. I felt betrayed, like she had taken something away from me.
Looking back now, I have more compassion for her decision. She was a single mother, working two jobs, scraping to make ends meet. Her boyfriend was not the nicest fella in the world who had an unhealthy attachment to his mother. She had no means to care for a newborn child. As it was, I was practically raised by my grandmother, and a brand new baby would have been as well.
Could she have given the baby up for adoption? Of course, but would she have been able to send her baby to live with another family, or put it in the system? Not likely. Nor do I know the effects the abortion had on her emotionally or psychologically. It, very well, could be the reason she became an alcoholic.
My mom's situation, likely, isn't the same. I never did discuss it with her. I was too young and angry when I had the chance, then she developed brain cancer and had a stroke. I never was able to talk with her about it over the following 10 years because I didn't know how she would react to thinking and talking about it. I was afraid that she'd ignore her illness and relapse into alcoholism. Now she's deceased and I can't talk to her. I would hate for anyone to live in anger and resentment towards one of the most important people in their life over a decision that you may not fully understand.
No one knows what is in the mind and heart of a person, even if they tell you, they may not fully share it all. Compassion goes a long way in bridging the gap between hurt and healing.
My mom had an abortion when I was 6 and I found out much later (around 16-17). I resented her for it for a long time. I felt betrayed, like she had taken something away from me.
Looking back now, I have more compassion for her decision. She was a single mother, working two jobs, scraping to make ends meet. Her boyfriend was not the nicest fella in the world who had an unhealthy attachment to his mother. She had no means to care for a newborn child. As it was, I was practically raised by my grandmother, and a brand new baby would have been as well.
Could she have given the baby up for adoption? Of course, but would she have been able to send her baby to live with another family, or put it in the system? Not likely. Nor do I know the effects the abortion had on her emotionally or psychologically. It, very well, could be the reason she became an alcoholic.
My mom's situation, likely, isn't the same. I never did discuss it with her. I was too young and angry when I had the chance, then she developed brain cancer and had a stroke. I never was able to talk with her about it over the following 10 years because I didn't know how she would react to thinking and talking about it. I was afraid that she'd ignore her illness and relapse into alcoholism. Now she's deceased and I can't talk to her. I would hate for anyone to live in anger and resentment towards one of the most important people in their life over a decision that you may not fully understand.
No one knows what is in the mind and heart of a person, even if they tell you, they may not fully share it all. Compassion goes a long way in bridging the gap between hurt and healing.
05/30/2012
depends on how my life is at the moment.
05/30/2012
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Thank you for this.
Originally posted by
BBW Talks Toys
I really don't want to fuel a debate, so I hope that this gets read, heard, and processed rationally and devoid of anger. I decided to share this because of the post above about hating their mother for having an abortion.
My mom had an ... more
My mom had an ... more
I really don't want to fuel a debate, so I hope that this gets read, heard, and processed rationally and devoid of anger. I decided to share this because of the post above about hating their mother for having an abortion.
My mom had an abortion when I was 6 and I found out much later (around 16-17). I resented her for it for a long time. I felt betrayed, like she had taken something away from me.
Looking back now, I have more compassion for her decision. She was a single mother, working two jobs, scraping to make ends meet. Her boyfriend was not the nicest fella in the world who had an unhealthy attachment to his mother. She had no means to care for a newborn child. As it was, I was practically raised by my grandmother, and a brand new baby would have been as well.
Could she have given the baby up for adoption? Of course, but would she have been able to send her baby to live with another family, or put it in the system? Not likely. Nor do I know the effects the abortion had on her emotionally or psychologically. It, very well, could be the reason she became an alcoholic.
My mom's situation, likely, isn't the same. I never did discuss it with her. I was too young and angry when I had the chance, then she developed brain cancer and had a stroke. I never was able to talk with her about it over the following 10 years because I didn't know how she would react to thinking and talking about it. I was afraid that she'd ignore her illness and relapse into alcoholism. Now she's deceased and I can't talk to her. I would hate for anyone to live in anger and resentment towards one of the most important people in their life over a decision that you may not fully understand.
No one knows what is in the mind and heart of a person, even if they tell you, they may not fully share it all. Compassion goes a long way in bridging the gap between hurt and healing. less
My mom had an abortion when I was 6 and I found out much later (around 16-17). I resented her for it for a long time. I felt betrayed, like she had taken something away from me.
Looking back now, I have more compassion for her decision. She was a single mother, working two jobs, scraping to make ends meet. Her boyfriend was not the nicest fella in the world who had an unhealthy attachment to his mother. She had no means to care for a newborn child. As it was, I was practically raised by my grandmother, and a brand new baby would have been as well.
Could she have given the baby up for adoption? Of course, but would she have been able to send her baby to live with another family, or put it in the system? Not likely. Nor do I know the effects the abortion had on her emotionally or psychologically. It, very well, could be the reason she became an alcoholic.
My mom's situation, likely, isn't the same. I never did discuss it with her. I was too young and angry when I had the chance, then she developed brain cancer and had a stroke. I never was able to talk with her about it over the following 10 years because I didn't know how she would react to thinking and talking about it. I was afraid that she'd ignore her illness and relapse into alcoholism. Now she's deceased and I can't talk to her. I would hate for anyone to live in anger and resentment towards one of the most important people in their life over a decision that you may not fully understand.
No one knows what is in the mind and heart of a person, even if they tell you, they may not fully share it all. Compassion goes a long way in bridging the gap between hurt and healing. less
05/30/2012
it is wrong
05/30/2012
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honestly I have always said I never would under any circumstance because I feel like you need to take care fo your responsibilities etc, BUT as I have gotten older I understand more. If I had gotten pregnant when I got raped, yes I would have, but under different circumstances I wouldn't..
Originally posted by
Morganna
Have you ever had or would you ever get an abortion?
To each their own though.. it's their life they are changing and it's their choice to make regardless what everyone else thinks.
05/30/2012
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What about the people who are practical pro-lifers? The only way to decrease abortion is to decrease unwanted pregnancies. So instead of flinging accusations about "anti-choice" and "anti-life", I don't understand why a compromise can't be reached towards that ultimate goal.
Originally posted by
brooketacular
I have not had an abortion, but if circumstances required it, I would. Those who are anti-choice do not realize that "protecting" one child can negatively impact the lives of many people, and I believe that's a very shallow-minded way to think.
06/01/2012
If I ever got knocked up I'd get one in a hot second. I don't like children, and I don't want children. I've got an actual phobia of having things growing inside of me ( yes, I know, everyone has bacteria - creatures aren't bacteria ). I've also got too many health problems, and on top of that, I'm well aware I have way too many temper problems to be a 'safe' parent when it comes to crying babies. I avoid them almost religiously now, I can't immagine dealing with it day after day. If I EVER ended up wanting kids, I'd foster one who's 7 years or older so as to avoid that stage.
I'd rather abort it than damage myself mentally in trying to deal with it.
I'd rather abort it than damage myself mentally in trying to deal with it.
06/02/2012
If I got pregnant right now, yes. Later on, I don't know.
06/03/2012
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Thank you, BBW. We don't always or usually know what other people go through.
Originally posted by
BBW Talks Toys
I really don't want to fuel a debate, so I hope that this gets read, heard, and processed rationally and devoid of anger. I decided to share this because of the post above about hating their mother for having an abortion.
My mom had an ... more
My mom had an ... more
I really don't want to fuel a debate, so I hope that this gets read, heard, and processed rationally and devoid of anger. I decided to share this because of the post above about hating their mother for having an abortion.
My mom had an abortion when I was 6 and I found out much later (around 16-17). I resented her for it for a long time. I felt betrayed, like she had taken something away from me.
Looking back now, I have more compassion for her decision. She was a single mother, working two jobs, scraping to make ends meet. Her boyfriend was not the nicest fella in the world who had an unhealthy attachment to his mother. She had no means to care for a newborn child. As it was, I was practically raised by my grandmother, and a brand new baby would have been as well.
Could she have given the baby up for adoption? Of course, but would she have been able to send her baby to live with another family, or put it in the system? Not likely. Nor do I know the effects the abortion had on her emotionally or psychologically. It, very well, could be the reason she became an alcoholic.
My mom's situation, likely, isn't the same. I never did discuss it with her. I was too young and angry when I had the chance, then she developed brain cancer and had a stroke. I never was able to talk with her about it over the following 10 years because I didn't know how she would react to thinking and talking about it. I was afraid that she'd ignore her illness and relapse into alcoholism. Now she's deceased and I can't talk to her. I would hate for anyone to live in anger and resentment towards one of the most important people in their life over a decision that you may not fully understand.
No one knows what is in the mind and heart of a person, even if they tell you, they may not fully share it all. Compassion goes a long way in bridging the gap between hurt and healing. less
My mom had an abortion when I was 6 and I found out much later (around 16-17). I resented her for it for a long time. I felt betrayed, like she had taken something away from me.
Looking back now, I have more compassion for her decision. She was a single mother, working two jobs, scraping to make ends meet. Her boyfriend was not the nicest fella in the world who had an unhealthy attachment to his mother. She had no means to care for a newborn child. As it was, I was practically raised by my grandmother, and a brand new baby would have been as well.
Could she have given the baby up for adoption? Of course, but would she have been able to send her baby to live with another family, or put it in the system? Not likely. Nor do I know the effects the abortion had on her emotionally or psychologically. It, very well, could be the reason she became an alcoholic.
My mom's situation, likely, isn't the same. I never did discuss it with her. I was too young and angry when I had the chance, then she developed brain cancer and had a stroke. I never was able to talk with her about it over the following 10 years because I didn't know how she would react to thinking and talking about it. I was afraid that she'd ignore her illness and relapse into alcoholism. Now she's deceased and I can't talk to her. I would hate for anyone to live in anger and resentment towards one of the most important people in their life over a decision that you may not fully understand.
No one knows what is in the mind and heart of a person, even if they tell you, they may not fully share it all. Compassion goes a long way in bridging the gap between hurt and healing. less
06/30/2012
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Babies do cry a lot. So do 7 year olds, and 8 year olds, and 12 year olds, and 15 year olds, and 18 year olds. Basically my point is, all children are volitile and basically suffer from "mood disorders" (if they behaved the way they do and were adults.) NO age is a guarentee of a stable child who won't cry a lot. Kids "in the system" cry and are angry a LOT more often than others.
Originally posted by
Jake'n'bake
If I ever got knocked up I'd get one in a hot second. I don't like children, and I don't want children. I've got an actual phobia of having things growing inside of me ( yes, I know, everyone has bacteria - creatures aren't
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If I ever got knocked up I'd get one in a hot second. I don't like children, and I don't want children. I've got an actual phobia of having things growing inside of me ( yes, I know, everyone has bacteria - creatures aren't bacteria ). I've also got too many health problems, and on top of that, I'm well aware I have way too many temper problems to be a 'safe' parent when it comes to crying babies. I avoid them almost religiously now, I can't immagine dealing with it day after day. If I EVER ended up wanting kids, I'd foster one who's 7 years or older so as to avoid that stage.
I'd rather abort it than damage myself mentally in trying to deal with it. less
I'd rather abort it than damage myself mentally in trying to deal with it. less
I wouldn't say a "7 year old" is much easier to take care of than a toddler. I have kids. EVERY age is a challenge. Kids cry at every age. If you don't like crying, whining, needling, nagging or irritating behavior NO age of child would appeal to or be safe with you at all. Teens are the worst. And, when you get a "7 year old or older" you'll be dealing with adolescence in a few years, plus a kid who has been through hell and NEEDS someone in his or her life who is eternally patient and completely compassionate and TOLERANT to crying, whining and is willing to put up with irritating behavior.
There's no magic number when it comes to kids. They are ALL irritating to people who don't like.... children. My guess is if CPS even gets a whiff that you "hate" infants and wouldn't be safe around them, you're out of the running to be a foster parent, with good reason. Damaged and sensitive children (meaning all kids in the foster system) need someone who has infinite patience.
Luckily, most CPS agents are good at recognizing who would be good and who would be terrible for this most sensitive type of lifestyle.
I've heard cats make nice companions.
06/30/2012
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I'm super-pro-choice and I think "practical pro-lifer" sounds great. But as somebody who follows lots of politics, I have never ever ever heard that term before. Better access to birth control and sex ed does equal fewer abortions! That's good! Now, can ANY pro-life politician/community leader types actually come out and say birth control and sex ed are good things?
Originally posted by
hyacinthgirl
What about the people who are practical pro-lifers? The only way to decrease abortion is to decrease unwanted pregnancies. So instead of flinging accusations about "anti-choice" and "anti-life", I don't understand why a
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What about the people who are practical pro-lifers? The only way to decrease abortion is to decrease unwanted pregnancies. So instead of flinging accusations about "anti-choice" and "anti-life", I don't understand why a compromise can't be reached towards that ultimate goal.
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06/30/2012
I've never had one, but I would get one. I don't see anything wrong with them.
06/30/2012
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That's because most practical pro-lifers aren't very vocal, unfortunately. Saying that you're pro-life tends to get you lumped in with people who are extremely religious, and generally leads to assumptions that you've led a life of privilege and have no idea why any woman ever would seek an abortion. You mostly find us in the Libertarian and not particularly religious Republican parties.
Originally posted by
Roz W
I'm super-pro-choice and I think "practical pro-lifer" sounds great. But as somebody who follows lots of politics, I have never ever ever heard that term before. Better access to birth control and sex ed does equal fewer abortions!
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I'm super-pro-choice and I think "practical pro-lifer" sounds great. But as somebody who follows lots of politics, I have never ever ever heard that term before. Better access to birth control and sex ed does equal fewer abortions! That's good! Now, can ANY pro-life politician/community leader types actually come out and say birth control and sex ed are good things?
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I've been trying to increase awareness of it, because I know plenty of other people who aren't against abortion because God says it's wrong, but because we genuinely don't know when life begins, and prefer erring on the side of caution. Maybe it's something that will increase as the college crowd Libertarians get older and get more control of politics.
06/30/2012
No, and it's not wrong, but just not for me, so it would be wrong for me, I'm sure, because I'm quick to having terrible guilt trips. I'd prefer having a child at a terrible moment in my life than living with the guilt all my life, but that's me, only me, as a person. But if anyone wants one it's their own choice and I shouldn't have the right to say anything about it.
06/30/2012
I never have. I can't imagine that I ever could either. It's against my personal values. I support women's choice to do what they feel is best.
06/30/2012
When I was a college junior, my girlfriend and I thought we'd been careful but we weren't careful enough. I would have married her and done whatever I needed to do to support her and our child. But she was an international student and her parents would not have approved of me. She made the decision and I did not try and talk her out of it. Whenever I think of it I still have regrets, it was after all my fault. However, at least it was done safely.
06/30/2012
Never have. I don't want to have children and my husband got a vasectomy so I don't think I will have to worry about it.
06/30/2012
I hate that some people want to control women's choices on this
06/30/2012