Crying during sex?

ElleBee ElleBee
Sometimes, most certainly not all the time, I get teary eyed or even cry a bit after an orgasm. Almost always a G-spot orgasm. Something about it is so intense and so overwhelming that I get sort of emotional. I can't even describe the feeling. It isn't that I'm sad or even that I'm so joyous that I'm crying. Its just like a burst of energy and emotion.

When it first happened, I immediately went to do research on the subject. Apparently, its quite normal. That said, its not something I usually talk about with friends.

In an article I read recently, a woman presented several questions concerning the subject and now I'm curious what you think. Have you ever cried after or during sex? How did your partner handle it?
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
Yes, I have cried post sex.
88
Yes, I have cried during sex.
70
No, I have not cried during or after sex.
83
Total votes: 241 (202 voters)
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08/14/2011
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Tessa Taboo Tessa Taboo
It just so happened that it was after some-makeup sex. We were both on emotional overdrive, and I think that added to it as well. Although I think that the sex being particularly sensual, and romantic helped a lot.
08/14/2011
Lilith's Girl Friday Lilith's Girl Friday
Anyway, I've been crying during and after sex for a while, but it's normally after a rough scene, especially a rape scene. Most of my partners comforted me. My current partner is very supportive of my emotional states, so I find it easier. It's a great thing to be able to release like that. I mean, it makes a lot of sense, if you really think of it. It's surprising more people don't cry when they come.

I think it may be tough for people sometimes, because crying is seen as a sign that something's wrong. And with various personality types always looking to care-take and "fix a problem" (shudder), it can sometimes lead to frustration, anger, resentment, those kinds of things.
08/14/2011
ElleBee ElleBee
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Originally posted by Lilith's Girl Friday
Anyway, I've been crying during and after sex for a while, but it's normally after a rough scene, especially a rape scene. Most of my partners comforted me. My current partner is very supportive of my emotional states, so I find it easier. ... More
Interesting. I have so many questions about the first part of your comment, though I understand if you don't want to respond here. Sexual fantasies and rape fantasies in general interest me. I don't have any rape fantasies of my own really (slight ones, though rape is rape, I suppose). Do you play out rape scenes regularly? What does that consist of for you? Do you also have non-rape fantasies? What do you think makes you enjoy rape fantasies the way you do?

I definitely think you're right about people thinking it means something is wrong. But really, its after the most amazing orgasms that I cry. My partner has gotten really good about just holding me while I settle back down.
08/14/2011
MeliPixie MeliPixie
I have never cried during or after sex, not even when I lost my virginity or when I orgasm. I wish I understood it better... But I just don't do it, personally. Which is actually quite strange, because if you know me, you know I cry very easily, so something as physically and emotionally stimulating should definitely be on my list of things that make me cry, and it just... Isn't. ^^;;
08/14/2011
ElleBee ElleBee
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Originally posted by MeliPixie
I have never cried during or after sex, not even when I lost my virginity or when I orgasm. I wish I understood it better... But I just don't do it, personally. Which is actually quite strange, because if you know me, you know I cry very easily, ... More
Its actually really interesting that you mention you cry very easily. I had read something else where this woman mentioned she was a very, very emotional person-- but had never experienced tears during sex. I didn't cry the first time I had sex either and I don't even cry during the most sensual, beautiful moments of my sex life. But sometimes I'll have a really earthshaking orgasm and it will totally happen. Its a very strange feeling.
08/14/2011
indiglo indiglo
I am not an overly emotional person, nor am I given to tears easily. That being said, however, yes I have cried during/after sex before. If it's particularly intense, or if we are feeling particularly loving, or even some other things I'm sure I'm forgetting then I'll have some tears. I also remember after a particularly stressful week when my grandmother was hospitalized - when my man and I had sex it was a huge emotional release from all those pent up feelings and I had a really good cry afterwards. It was very cathartic. My man reacts in a very loving way. He'll just whisper things like "I love you" or "I've got you"... things like that. It's a really wonderful feeling.
08/14/2011
catgirl9 catgirl9
Yes, I have cried during and after sex before. It's not very often, but it does happen. I know what you mean about not being able to describe the feeling though, it's strange. I was kind of shocked the first time because it was such a weird feeling because I knew that I wasn't crying from sadness or being overly happy, if that makes sense? Hubby and I have been able to talk about it so he knows that there is nothing wrong. Sometimes, it just happens.
08/14/2011
ElleBee ElleBee
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Originally posted by indiglo
I am not an overly emotional person, nor am I given to tears easily. That being said, however, yes I have cried during/after sex before. If it's particularly intense, or if we are feeling particularly loving, or even some other things I'm ... More
Aw. It sounds like your partner responds perfectly to your needs.
08/14/2011
ElleBee ElleBee
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Originally posted by catgirl9
Yes, I have cried during and after sex before. It's not very often, but it does happen. I know what you mean about not being able to describe the feeling though, it's strange. I was kind of shocked the first time because it was such a weird ... More
That's often how it is for me, too.
08/14/2011
Miss Nessa Miss Nessa
post sex
08/14/2011
sarki sarki
Hasn't happened to me
08/14/2011
Elnoa Elnoa
I cry after orgasming sometimes, but not because I feel particularly "emotional". Seems to be a physiological response for me.
08/15/2011
indiglo indiglo
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Originally posted by ElleBee
Aw. It sounds like your partner responds perfectly to your needs.
Yeah, I think I'll keep him! I really enjoy all those moments too, so thank you for helping me remember them!
08/15/2011
NuclearTeapot NuclearTeapot
I have cried during sex, but that was due to pain and not intense orgasmic sensations.
08/15/2011
P'Gell P'Gell
I have sobbed during extremely powerful orgasms, especially if it was a while since I had had one. My Man takes it in stride and will usually just carry on, as he knows that's what I do.

I have also cried at times when I can't come. It's so frustrating, that I need some kind of release, and crying is better than not doing anything. My Man usually holds me and then says, "You're OK. We'll try again later."

We also sometimes engage in Ravishment Play. I refuse to call them "rape" fantasies because no woman wants to be raped. Ravishment is the outward manifestation of a fantasy where someone wants to feel like they aren't in control, but in reality are in complete control. I wish more people would use the word "Ravishment Play" rather than "rape" because Ravishment is different than rape and rape brings up SO many bad images, memories and feelings for so many. My husband would NEVER rape me, but we do play with Ravishment. It works for us, but I have never cried from it. Mainly, I think because I've worked through any issues about any past traumas.
08/15/2011
ElleBee ElleBee
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Originally posted by P'Gell
I have sobbed during extremely powerful orgasms, especially if it was a while since I had had one. My Man takes it in stride and will usually just carry on, as he knows that's what I do.

I have also cried at times when I can't come. ... More
This is a spectacular comment. For lots of reasons. I'm so glad that your fella is s good to you and the way he handles your crying, both after orgasm and without, is perfect. My partner knows that just because I'm crying, doesn't mean to stop. It often means keep going!

I love what you said about Ravishment Play. I think that is a much better word for it.
08/15/2011
ToyGurl ToyGurl
I cry during sex a lot and I have no idea why. It's not that I'm sad, not that I'm frustrated, and not that I'm PMSing. It just happens when things get intense. My husband finds it to be an odd turn on but I personally don't get upset or confused by it. It really takes things to a different level. I agree with ElleBee when she says that the crying means keep on going... that is 100% true. As soon as I start to cry the sex is often at its peak.
08/15/2011
P'Gell P'Gell
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Originally posted by ElleBee
This is a spectacular comment. For lots of reasons. I'm so glad that your fella is s good to you and the way he handles your crying, both after orgasm and without, is perfect. My partner knows that just because I'm crying, doesn't mean to ... More
Thank you.

Ravishment can be done in a healthy way, but I think the first way to make it healthy is to realize it really has nothing in common with forcible rape. Rape is a horror, Ravishment, when consensual, can be not only fun, but healing for some. On the other hand, for some people, it could bring up issues that could harm them. Anyone who is frightened or terrified by the idea of Ravishment Play should most likely not engage in it until they have healed further.
08/15/2011
toxie m toxie m
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Originally posted by ElleBee
Sometimes, most certainly not all the time, I get teary eyed or even cry a bit after an orgasm. Almost always a G-spot orgasm. Something about it is so intense and so overwhelming that I get sort of emotional. I can't even describe the feeling. ... More
Lately I've been crying a lot post-sex, after almost every orgasm I have. It feels exactly like what you describe, just an overwhelming rush of emotion. My man just holds me and kisses me and waits until I recover. Not sure why I've been having such an intense time lately - one of the most recent times I was sobbing but it STILL wasn't enough of a release, I felt like I wanted to just scream and let it all out.
08/15/2011
link82 link82
Never happened to me, but it sounds like a powerful experience!
08/15/2011
Starkiller87 Starkiller87
Sometimes if I have a really strong gspot orgasm my eyes get really watery as well. Like Im crying but not really.
08/15/2011
wetone123 wetone123
I only cry during sex when it is an intense closer to God type of orgasm. Tears of joy! During that kind of sex, I feel as if every piece and fiber of my body is affected. Maybe from the release of tension in my body or simply because of the explosive reaction to the raw pleasure I have experienced.
08/15/2011
KinkBiLove KinkBiLove
Quote:
Originally posted by ElleBee
Sometimes, most certainly not all the time, I get teary eyed or even cry a bit after an orgasm. Almost always a G-spot orgasm. Something about it is so intense and so overwhelming that I get sort of emotional. I can't even describe the feeling. ... More
is that normal ?
08/16/2011
daveysgirl daveysgirl
Yes I have sometimes it is so beautiful, can not help but to cry.
08/16/2011
BlackxxxRose BlackxxxRose
It's happened a few times. My partner just holds me and snuggles me afterwards until it passes. It's not a regular occurrence though and so far has only happened after/during a g spot orgasm and ejaculation.
08/16/2011
ElleBee ElleBee
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Originally posted by KinkBiLove
is that normal ?
Totally! Its actually relatively common. It is a very strange feeling. I thought something was wrong with me the first time it happened, particularly when I couldn't explain how it felt and that I wasn't sad at all!
08/16/2011
Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by ElleBee
Sometimes, most certainly not all the time, I get teary eyed or even cry a bit after an orgasm. Almost always a G-spot orgasm. Something about it is so intense and so overwhelming that I get sort of emotional. I can't even describe the feeling. ... More
Laughed....silly laugh, for no good reason. Cried. Nope...guess I am odd. Never happened. At least not yet!!! I suspect the combination of strong emotion and hormone rush just bring that out in you. So long as it is a "good cry"..all is well. Powerful GOOD emotions come in all kinds of "flavors".
08/30/2011
cheetahpita cheetahpita
Hmmm. never happened to me before.
08/30/2011
Bry & Jenn Bry & Jenn
Yup after the G-spot I do.....
08/30/2011
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