Flame harness kit

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The Flame Harness Kit is very pleasing to the eye and to the pocket book. It's a decent beginner's harness and is comfortable. The O-ring seems to pose some issues with keeping the dildo in, however the dildo is the main prize. If it were sold separately it'd be one of the top selling dildos on the site, I'm positive of it. I definitely think with more practice and maybe even a smaller O-ring or a bigger dildo, this would be the perfect harness for beginner and advanced user alike.
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Pros:
Pretty, easy to fit, the size is good for a beginner, easy to clean
Cons:
had issues with the toy staying in the o-ring during use.
Rating by reviewer:
3
extremely useful review

Use

This is my very first harness. I've never had any prior experience with a harness, but when I saw it, I knew that I had to have it. Not only because it's pretty but because I had a feeling it would be a great one. Now, I am not an anal player, so I only use this harness for vaginal penetration between my girlfriend and myself, though I can see where this may be good for pegging.
    • Gender play
    • Pegging
    • Strap-on sex

Material

The dildo in this kit is made of 100% silicone. It's a brilliant pearly purple and is definitely a jewel for the eye. I was pleased that there was no noticeable smell when I took this out of the package. While there is a slight drag on the dildo, a little bit of lube or natural lubrication can fix this up right away. The dildo is a bit in between the soft and firm department. It's flexible, and when in use in the harness, I feel that it may be a little bit too flimsy. However, I really am thinking that this is more the fault of the O-ring than the dildo or harness itself.

The harness is made of purple crushed velvet and what I can assume is some sort of polyester nylon for the straps? I looked around and couldn't find much information on this bit of it. However, it is hypoallergenic.

The harness also comes with a small bullet, complete with batteries. It's a very powerful bullet and I actually did not use it in the strap-on and probably won't. It feels a little awkward sitting against my pubic bone. I do love using it for solo, though.
    • Mixed materials
    • Smooth

Design / Craftsmanship

I love the way this strap-on is made. It's very pretty and comfortable. Not to mention, the dildo is very pretty and the flame design carved into it provides some phenomenal sensations whether you are using it in the harness, as a tool during partner sex, or solo.

I think that the harness is made well-enough. It has its flaws, just like I'm sure everything else does. It is adjustable, and very easy to adjust at that. The only real issue I came across while using this (which at the time of writing this review was only once) was that the O-ring almost seems as if it is too big for the flame dildo that the kit comes with. The dildo kept slipping out as I tried to thrust. Though, I think that the O-ring would be compatible with toys that are just a little larger.
    • Interchangeable o-ring
    • Only works with some toys

Size / Fit

This is very easy to fit to your own body. It says that it can fit hips up to 50". It wasn't until I got this harness that I realized exactly how large my hips are, and I've never considered myself to be a bigger girl, ever. It was very easy to trim the extra length of straps to make it easy to fit to me. My girlfriend is smaller than I am, but she too found it pretty easy to fit to herself as well. I wear a size 12 in pants, and she is closer to a 6 or 8. I think that this would probably easily fit someone up to a size 14, but much larger and I think it might come up a little short.

However, how this fit was very comfortable and I didn't feel like the straps were coming loose or like they were cutting off circulation. The way that the harness itself sat right at my crotch made it feel much more comfortable and natural. At first it took a little getting used to, but I really think that was due to the fact that this was my first experience with a strap-on.

I found this while viewing the product information directly from the Tantus website and found that it is very good advice and wanted to share it:

When playing with a harness you need to pull it flush against your pelvis for stability and to help you drive the dildo. Your bodies center of gravity will be changed when you wear a harness and dildo. Tantus recommends you wear it around for a little while to get used to the weight before you use it intimately.
    • Adjustable
    • Fits comfortably

Performance

Considering that this is meant to be used for strap-on sex, I was slightly disappointed. I'm putting the blame on the O-ring and the fact that it was my first time using it. I really do want to continue to try because I'm determined to make this work. For my first time, it didn't work the way that I was expecting, but it was comfortable, easy to adjust, easy to take on and off (minus a few little hiccups of trying to put it on in the dark).

Securing the dildo in the harness is actually very easy whether or not the harness is on or off you. It slips in very easily and stays well enough, at least when not in use. Again, though, I plan on trying this more and more to see if this is a fault of the harness or a fault of the user (me).

The bullet that comes with it fits comfortable within its little pocket until it comes to actually using it. I found that it sat a little uncomfortably against me when in action. However, it's definitely one of the best little solo toys that I own. I love clit play during solo and the bullet that comes with this harness is definitely boss for that.
    • Comfortable during use

Care and Maintenance

Cleaning off the dildo is very, very simple. Just use your own method of cleaning silicone toys. You can boil it, put it in the dishwasher, use warm water and soap, or use a toy cleaner and let air dry or wipe dry.

I had also e-mailed Tantus to ask exactly how to care for just the harness. I know how to keep my toys clean, but the harness itself was a different story. I got a reply back and this is what they told me:

The harness itself is machine washable. The materials are mostly polyester and nylon, so a wash on the delicate cycle in a cold-to-warm wash works well, and it dries quickly with hang-drying. Please remember to remove the vibe from its pocket before throwing the harness in the machine!

Good to know that I could just toss the harness into the washer and be done with it! :D

Packaging

The packaging of this toy is not discreet at all. It comes in a clear box with both toy and harness prominently on display. It's been over a month since I got the package, and I really cannot recall if there were any instructions on the box or not. I don't recall any, but I could be wrong.
    • Not discreet

Personal comments

This was the first time that I used this harness, and first time that I have used a harness period. I was disappointed that the dildo didn't seem to want to stay in place. I did struggle to get this thing on in the dark, but I may have been slightly tipsy and it was dark, so I'm really thinking any issues I came across while using this were user errors.

However, when it kept slipping out, I just decided to take it by the hand and use it anyway on my lady. I don't think I've ever seen her move that way or heard her scream that way before. I was VERY satisfied with the results of using the dildo on her. I've used it on myself as well (and yes, I do keep it clean!) and was very satisfied as well.

The dildo was pleasing. The harness not quite as much, but I'm willing to give it another few shots before writing the harness off altogether.
Follow-up commentary
Holy cow! Once I finally found an O-ring that could properly hold the Flame dildo in place this thing was made even MORE amazing. The O-ring that it comes with does fit the dildo and the harness well, but once the harness is on, the movement causes the original O-ring to stretch and move about making it easy for the dildo to slip out of place.

I found a rubber O-ring about a quarter of an inch smaller and it is perfect. It was slightly snug slipping the dildo into place, but once it is attached to the harness, there is no slipping and falling.

This doesn't get pulled out to play very often because my girlfriend is still getting used to the idea of using toys in the bedroom, but she fancied pulling it out the other night and used it on me. I never thought that this would be as amazing as it is, but I love it and am still very pleased that I chose it to be our very first harness. Definitely will recommend this toy over and over again, though you may want to order different size O-rings when you order this fellow.
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  • SiNn
    SiNn  
    ty for the review
  • wrecklesswords
    wrecklesswords  
    Thanks for reading and rating, SiNn!
  • punkstar283
    punkstar283  
    Thanks for the review!
  • Katelyn
    Katelyn  
    I kind of just want the dildo now : ) Harness dildo's sell for quite a bit! Thanks for the review, this looks like a fun item for cheap. If only the dildo didn't slip out of the O ring!
  • wrecklesswords
    wrecklesswords  
    Katelyn, I agree! The dildo is really what made me want this entire kit and it is AWESOME on it's own, and hell, even though it failed while in use, it had her squirming and screaming the way I'd hoped it would.

    I'm going to see about getting some metal O-rings that are half an inch smaller to see if that helps the issue.
  • Beneath The Bed
    Beneath The Bed  
    Great review!
  • wrecklesswords
    wrecklesswords  
    Thanks Booty Bandit! So glad that you liked it.
  • lemony
    lemony  
    Thanks for reviewing
  • wrecklesswords
    wrecklesswords  
    Thank you for reading lemony!
  • gloomybear
    gloomybear  
    great review!
  • Midnightsun327
    Midnightsun327  
    Great review! Thanks for all the info!
  • iabicpl09
    iabicpl09  
    Thank you
  • Tbanda
    Tbanda  
    Thanks, great review!
  • SUBMISSIVE
    SUBMISSIVE  
    Great review! Thank you!
  • MzGreenEyedLady
    MzGreenEyedLady  
    Thanks!
  • Mrs.Tee
    Mrs.Tee  
    Glad you found the right O ring. Great Review!!!
  • invisiblehat
    invisiblehat  
    Thank you for the review! I'll have to keep your O ring experience in mind.
  • wrecklesswords
    wrecklesswords  
    I would like to add that my cat got a hold of the dildo a while back. While he didn't damage the good parts of the dildo, he did take a tiny piece out of the base of it. It's not totally ruined, but it makes me a little sad to see.

    I contacted Tantus about possibly getting a replacement, but after someone said they would look into it, I never got a reply. I am going to e-mail them again and see the status of the case and if they could give me a replacement or not.

    Otherwise, my girlfriend and I have gotten into the swing of this a little more. I finally successfully wore it a few weeks ago much to her extreme pleasure. It was actually pretty awesome watching her on top of me.
  • higs
    higs  
    Thanks for the review!
  • RJBuckeyes
    RJBuckeyes  
    Thanks for the review.
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