In or out of the bedroom, I absolutely cannot stand being told what to do. Ask me, and I'll probably do it. Tell me, and I'll rip your throat out. (And I'm not exaggerating... much.) However, I do not tell people to do anything either. I will always ask. For the most part, I really do try to keep things balanced between hubby and I, both in the bedroom and out.
Recently, though, my hubby has expressed an interest in having me dominate him in the bedroom. I'm having a little trouble with this, because I know how badly I would respond to being dominated, so I don't want to do it to him. But I also know that he is wired very differently than I am, and so I am considering researching a bit about BDSM and maybe giving it a try.