Hahahaha, way to keep it uncreepy, ladies. Lif3, I really like the smartparts joque for a harness, but I'm not sure if you're referring to the harness or the dildo itself. It's pretty comfortable, nice material, and doesn't look like it should only be used in some bondage context.
p.s. I think it looks nicer if you take the logo off the front with a seam ripper, but that's just my personal taste.