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I have done it a few times with my wife and its not like I need to have anal sex any amount of times in fact I cant remember the last time we did it. The common theme however is that it doesnt last long as she says I am just to thick for her to take.
I have done it a few times with my wife and its not like I need to have anal sex any amount of times in fact I cant remember the last time we did it. The common theme however is that it doesnt last long as she says I am just to thick for her to take. Now I know you can train or get the ass used to it but is there a way I can introduce this into play without it seeming overly important?
Speaking as a man with a thick penis, I can say that it takes time, practice and desire on her part. If she doesn't want to do it, no amount of prep will make the act comfortable for her. Even if she does want to take you anally, understand that until the two of you have had a LOT of practice it's not something that can or should be done on the spur of the moment.
Start slow and small.. The preparation phase may take months.. So suck it up and don't force the issue. Go at her speed. She will tell you when she is ready for another finger or thicker toy or even for your cock. Be ready for her to think she is ready only to find out that she isn't and to back off. Be responsible. If what you are doing appears to be harming your partner STOP! regardless of whether or not they are saying Yes! Yes!. Then, lube, lube, lube. More lube than you think you'll need. Lube is very personal. The lube should be up to the person being penetrated. Experiment and find the lube that she likes best. I'm poly (for simplicity that means I have more than one lover) and each lover prefers a different lube for anal. One lover like the plain old KY Jelly, another likes a very expensive silicone lube, and another prefers regular Astroglide. You will find out which works best just like you'll find out what position works best. One of my lovers cums from taking me in her ass doggy style, another can't cum that way and requires clitoral stimulation, so her on her back works better. Be ready to spend some time and money. You'll need to do a lot of practice and experimentation and at the end she may still not enjoy it. Sometimes those are the breaks unfortunately..