I am a little confused by your post, what exactly do you mean?
On herself we only use my tongue and fingers, she's a little apprehensive to try anything bigger and really enjoys my tongue and fingers (for now).
For me, anything goes really, tongues, fingers, plugs (for warm up) and dildos for pegging and I really love my njoy pure wand... What is that? Probably a dildo.
Anyway, hope that helps?