How do I talk him into it

Yesenia Yesenia
I need some information about male prostate massage. What anal lubricant are good for this. Does it really enhance a male orgasm?
06/21/2010
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El-Jaro El-Jaro
I'm a big fan of Maximus water based lube for almost everything.

It's not a matter of enhancement, it's like a different kind of orgasm. I think the best relation could be a clit orgasm vs. a g-spot orgasm.
06/21/2010
shepegs shepegs
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Originally posted by Yesenia
I need some information about male prostate massage. What anal lubricant are good for this. Does it really enhance a male orgasm?
Not sure how you would "talk him into it", but I'd say any guy that doesn't want to try it is sure missing out!
06/21/2010
Ciao. Ciao.
Maybe just start with your finger during your normal play/foreplay and then suggest a toy after that. Some (maybe a lot) of guys are intimidated by the idea at first, but probably will be more open-minded when they figure out how pleasurable anal play can be.
06/21/2010
Naughty Student Naughty Student
I have tried to talk my man into external anal stimulation, alone, and this is a no no. In all the years we have been together I have never seen his hole or touched it.

I think it is because he is very self conscious of this area of his body.

I have talked to him about it and tried to go there smoothly with my hands but I have never touched it because I respect him too much to go against his wishes.

I think that nagging and constant mention of wanting to do something might become annoying and be a deterent. I think that in my personal experience my man will have to come forward and ask for it when he is ready.
06/21/2010
shepegs shepegs
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Originally posted by Naughty Student
I have tried to talk my man into external anal stimulation, alone, and this is a no no. In all the years we have been together I have never seen his hole or touched it.

I think it is because he is very self conscious of this area of his body. ... More
Agreed. Respect before anything. Maybe one day he'll open up to it. Who knows? Bring him in here.
06/21/2010
Yesenia Yesenia
He is open to some play but I was just wondering what toys or lubes are good for this.
06/22/2010
Tori Rebel Tori Rebel
I'll second JR on using Maximus...it's the best, most comfortable and non-irritating lube we've found for anal on my partner. Right now we mostly use the TitanMen Master Tool and a glass prostate massager I couldn't find on this site. But neither of them are for beginners at all. You'll want to start with something smaller and not-so-rigid. And anything in silicone is great because it can truly be sanitized after use.
06/22/2010
ScottA ScottA
Maximus is good but it can be a problem if he has chemical sensitivity - then it burns. I use Probe Thick and Rich, and I've heard from others with chemical sensitivity that it seems to be pretty neutral. It's not quite as thick as Maximus and it's a bit stringy (takes some getting used to), but it works well.

Choose something small and non-realistic to start. Bootie, Little Flirt, Slim Pleasure #1, Buddy and Encore would be good plug choices, since they're small and can be used for both static put-it-in-and-leave-it play as well as for some thrusting.

A toy such as the Tantus G-Force can also be fun. It's small and not too threatening, and it can be used by both you and him anally or vaginally (it's silicone so you can disinfect it).

A small smooth dildo could also be used. I wouldn't recommend a prostate massager unless he expresses an interest, since they're more special-purpose and some men find that they don't work on them.

Start with the finger, definitely, and start outside. For everyone I've discussed it with anal/prostate play does change the orgasm, but it's different so you might need to try it out several times as a couple for him to start to appreciate it.

Don't worry - he'll still like other sex play as well.
06/22/2010
Kinky Skier Kinky Skier
to answer your last question, yes, i cum huge after anal penetration and massage, huge
08/05/2010
Robin Goodfellow Robin Goodfellow
Blush and tell him you want to buy a butt plug or two to try yourself. Have him pick some out with you. When they arrive make an evening out of it. Take a bath, Out to dinner, drink some wine, come home, have him put one in you and have sex with it in, than tell him you should both have one in to have sex with, make sure lights are dim, and its all down hill from there.. Thats what happened to me atleast.
08/06/2010
Jessica Elizabeth Jessica Elizabeth
We like to use Climax Bursts Anal lube for me, we've yet to experiment anally on him. I've heard a lot of good about Maximus as well.
08/06/2010
Blinker Blinker
There's no way to really "talk him into it". Some men are just not open to this. Period. Nor will they ever be. It doesn't make them bad or homophobic. It's just preconceived notions of "that's a no-no".

My man could care less about his P spot. He just doesn't want anything up his butt, and like NaughtyStudent said, I respect his wishes and will NEVER nag him or beg him to do something he isn't comfortable with. No one wants to feel like they're being pressured into a sexual act.
08/06/2010
Crash Crash
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Originally posted by Blinker
There's no way to really "talk him into it". Some men are just not open to this. Period. Nor will they ever be. It doesn't make them bad or homophobic. It's just preconceived notions of "that's a no-no".

My ... More
I agree with this. There's a lot of homophobia and negative stigma attached that you can't avoid. If he won't he won't. It's not going to be easy to convince him that it isn't a gay thing.
01/25/2011
Xavier7 Xavier7
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Originally posted by shepegs
Not sure how you would "talk him into it", but I'd say any guy that doesn't want to try it is sure missing out!
Well if he doesn't want to, then don't coerce him!
02/04/2011
Cream in the Cupcake Cream in the Cupcake
Quote:
Originally posted by Naughty Student
I have tried to talk my man into external anal stimulation, alone, and this is a no no. In all the years we have been together I have never seen his hole or touched it.

I think it is because he is very self conscious of this area of his body. ... More
exactly same thing here. and i agree about the nagging.
03/08/2011
aimtoplease aimtoplease
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Originally posted by Yesenia
I need some information about male prostate massage. What anal lubricant are good for this. Does it really enhance a male orgasm?
i like liquid silk
09/01/2011
Boobs and Lubes Boobs and Lubes
Start with a finger, if he's game go from there.
12/10/2011
Tork48309 Tork48309
Quote:
Originally posted by El-Jaro
I'm a big fan of Maximus water based lube for almost everything.

It's not a matter of enhancement, it's like a different kind of orgasm. I think the best relation could be a clit orgasm vs. a g-spot orgasm.
I'm with JR, Maximus is also my choice.
12/10/2011
Tork48309 Tork48309
My suggestion for any woman to get a man open to trying this experience is work into it slowly. Try many situations with external stimulation in the perineal and anal regions. There is so much enjoyment down there that he will eventually open up to the "SURPRISE" slip-in of the pinky finger. (No long nails, please). Once he has the experience then work from there. I think many men have an emotional barrier of having enjoyment in "that" area until they realize the wonderful feelings they can have other than their usual "slam-bam thank you mam" past experiences.
12/10/2011
Boobs and Lubes Boobs and Lubes
Lead by example is a good start too!
02/09/2012
Eliyahu Eliyahu
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Originally posted by Tork48309
My suggestion for any woman to get a man open to trying this experience is work into it slowly. Try many situations with external stimulation in the perineal and anal regions. There is so much enjoyment down there that he will eventually open up to ... More
Not sure if the "surprise" finger slipping is a great idea - this happened to me once, and led to me wanting nothing to do with prostate or anal play on me for many, many years.
02/09/2012
MistressDandelion MistressDandelion
For the "I'm not gay talk": try to reassure him telling everything he does with a woman can't be gay, because he's doing it with a woman.
For the rest, I don't know. Some older generation men have been traumatized as children by suppositories and will be left with major problems in accepting any pleasure from that area. Follow his rythm, it's his anus, afterall.

Desensitizing anal lube is great. Try to avoid glycerin-based lube, they hurt like fuck because they tend to burn when they rub. Also, flavored lubes (if you can stand the glycerin they're packed with) cover the embarassing smells that could irradiate form your love-making.
Good luck.
03/23/2012
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