Quote:Somewhat. I know quite a few people that don't have safewords (as controversial as some see it) and there are times where they don't like what's happening. They hate it in the moment and may like it afterwards when its done and they're coming down from it. Then there are some things that they do that they see like cleaning house... something they hate but have to do for their dominant anyways. It's not abuse because they've agreed to that dynamic, but just because you want to stop doesn't mean you are going. But you're right. It needs to be discussed before hand and weaved into the relationship, not just be a surprise. Then it borders on abuse.
Originally posted by Emma (Girl With Fire)
I am like that as well. But you have to make that agreement. If they are getting off on it, they really do enjoy it. That is what safe words are for