I put forgetting about foreplay. I think my hubby is a bit of an oddball in that he actually prefers sex when I'm on the dry side. It gives him more sensation. I don't really blame him a whole lot since when I get warmed up first I'm like dripping. Besides it doesn't take much to get me wet and I'm usually fine after the first few strokes. It would be a much bigger issue if that weren't the case.
He can also push down on my head during oral, but not very often. I have a bad gag reflex and he's well aware if he gets too rough I will throw up all over him. That is usually a pretty good restraining influence.
It is pretty much impossible for me to get off without a clit vibe and he doesn't have any issues with that thankfully. It doesn't really matter which of us gets off first, if it's me that's fine. If its him I just finish up with my toy if I feel like it. It's actually probably good that he doesn't wait for me to come first, since I orgasm only about half the time even with a vibe.
He has been an ass sometimes about wanting sex when I'm not in the mood. But to be fair, at the time I was dealing with issues and almost never wanted sex, where he is an "at least every day" kinda guy. As other women have expressed, it kinda sucks to never get any when you are horny all the time. Now that I'm on antidepressants and my sex drive is back to normal we get along quite nicely, although there are times I'm in the mood and he's not and vice a versa.
I guess my biggest pet peeve is that he has to push the boundaries I have set as to what I am comfortable with from time to time. It's like he is a kid and the fact that it's "off limits" makes him want it even more, so he just has to toe the line. It is the surest bucket of ice water I know for me.