Simple question, in a private poll.

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Simple question, in a private poll.

jj1228 jj1228
I am not counting oral sex as having sex. more of like 4 play. I see sex as any form of penetration weather thats me to her or her penetrating me. Then i would count that as sex.
11/02/2011
Beck Beck
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Originally posted by Lucky21
First let me say I'm not judging other people's responses. To me not calling oral sex "sex" is an excuse for people to be irresponsible. More and more STI's are being transmitted because people are having oral and anal sex and ...
This is how I feel also.

I asked the same question just above.

If oral is not counted as sex than those who are lesbians never have sex. And if you associate sex with the definition of reproducing oral, anal, and non heterosexual sex is not sex. That does not sound right and does sound like irresponsibility to me as well. And at the end of the day you can still give someone a STD through oral just like vaginal sex, so it should count when your Doctor ask how many you have had sex with. Especially if you are testing positive for an STD.
11/02/2011
Beck Beck
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Originally posted by CreamySweet
I do count them in my total but I do not think oral, handjobs, fingering or rubbing are sex but more erotic forms of foreplay. I do not count masturbation including doing it in front of but not to others as either - the reason I keep my sex partners ...
Masturbation is something that does not spread diseases where oral sex can. I do not see how you can compare the two.
11/02/2011
badk1tty badk1tty
I don't consider oral sex "sex", nor do I consider mutual masturbation sex, but I would consider strictly anal as "sex", as well as the obvious PIV sex.
11/02/2011
poetprincess poetprincess
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Originally posted by Beck
After reading something, where a women said that she only counted her male partners, but had sex with women also. I got to thinking, clearly this women only considers sex as sex and oral is not sex. So I searched the forum and could not find this ...
SEx is sex no matter what!!
11/02/2011
Cherrylane Cherrylane
I think oral sex is "sex" by way of being a sexual activity but don't "count" it in the same category, at least when people ask, because when most people ask, they mean how many penises have I allowed in my pussy. If someone asked something more general, like "how many people have you done sexual things with," I would count them.

But if I perform or receive oral from a guy, or girl, i'm not going to tell my friend "we had sex." I would say I blew him or ate her out or whatever more ACCURATELY described the act. As Kendra said, idk why people insist on blurring the lines and making things more complicated. Why can't being sexual, considered a sex act, and having sex in the name be good enough? It's semantic, and fairly pedantic as well. Not to mention tiresome.

Making a distinction between sex ie piv and oral sense also makes more sense, because people have real life distinctions for them as well, just as we have distinctions for anal. It's not downgrading its significance or legitimacy. I, for one, don't consider it sex. But at the same time, I tend to think it's a lot more personal than sex, at least when I give it. I really don't enjoy going down on somewhat I don't love. I don't enjoy it at all. There are many people who use oral like a "gateway" that they do that may or may not lead to piv or anal. For me, it's usually only done after piv and when the relationship has really gotten going because I refuse to do things I don't feel good about doing. Saying it isn't sex doesn't say it's less than or not real. It simply recognizes that the acts ARE different and that people think of them and engage in them according to different standards and rules, often times for perfectly legitimate personal reasons.
11/03/2011
CreamySweet CreamySweet
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Originally posted by Beck
Masturbation is something that does not spread diseases where oral sex can. I do not see how you can compare the two.
Actually it can... so can shaking hands or using a public phone or touching a gas pump handle... though I agree to a much lesser degree of risk. And I don't look at every act of intimate contact by way of that consideration alone. I use what I consider as reasonable and appropriate precautions based on my situation and my planned actions. I could just as easily gove myself a yeast infection or cause other issue touching myself as I could by touhing someone else.
11/03/2011
UnknownGirl UnknownGirl
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Originally posted by kendra30752
No. Sex was originally PIV. You don't lose your virginity from oral sex and it is not intercourse. It's a sexual act, but sex is where penis goes in vagina. That's my opinion. I don't know why it has to be made to be so complicated. ...
Not that labels really matter all that much, but I agree with this. I tend to take the clinical approach; penis + vaginal penetration = SEX

If sex has a broader definition for you; then so be it. If that's your personal truth does it really matter what others think?
11/03/2011
CreamySweet CreamySweet
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Originally posted by CreamySweet
Actually it can... so can shaking hands or using a public phone or touching a gas pump handle... though I agree to a much lesser degree of risk. And I don't look at every act of intimate contact by way of that consideration alone. I use what I ...
Sorry... I can type - and spell. Just not well through and otter box phone case. And the part I forgot to clarify is that in one of the situation I refered to in my text above it was masturbation - them jacking off- but cumming on me. Does that then become sex? Foreplay? Or self play?
11/03/2011
SMichelle SMichelle
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Originally posted by jenn g
I only count intercourse.
Me too.
11/03/2011
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
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Originally posted by Beck
After reading something, where a women said that she only counted her male partners, but had sex with women also. I got to thinking, clearly this women only considers sex as sex and oral is not sex. So I searched the forum and could not find this ...
If you are sharing pleasure and involving sexual organs (including lips) then it's sex in my book.
11/03/2011
eroticmutt eroticmutt
No, I do not count oral sex as sex. It is one genital/private area and the mouth. I WOULD count anal sex as sex, because I consider the anus to be basically classified with the genitals, just like I would count scissoring as sex. But using your hands on another person is not sex, nor is using your mouth.
11/03/2011
LQ LQ
Hrm this is actually a hard question. From my own hetero woman perspective, I would count PiV & anal as sex. Oral, no. (Then again I've had hours-long make-out sessions that ended up feeling more like "sex" than some actual penetrative sex I've had!)

But getting into woman-on-woman or some other meshing of body parts... I really don't know. I suppose in that case I would say "If it's sex to you, then it's sex." But then a lesbian who had decided oral sex didn't count would actually be a virgin even if she'd had many partners? That doesn't make sense to me.

Lame answer, but I really can't speak for anyone but myself here. If I tried to be inclusive I'd end up with a 5 page list of stuff that would probably offend people unintentionally!
11/03/2011
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
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Originally posted by LQ
Hrm this is actually a hard question. From my own hetero woman perspective, I would count PiV & anal as sex. Oral, no. (Then again I've had hours-long make-out sessions that ended up feeling more like "sex" than some actual ...
I'm completely baffled when I read this - why is it called oral SEX? How can it be oral sex and not be sex?

I know our once commander and chief tried this trick - but even his supporters considered what he did adultery (sex outside of marriage) - they just didn't think it was anyone's business.

Sorry for the diversion - back to the question - how oral sex not be sex?
11/03/2011
lilly555 lilly555
Anything that has the word 'sex' in it counts
11/03/2011
mudpie mudpie
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Originally posted by Beck
After reading something, where a women said that she only counted her male partners, but had sex with women also. I got to thinking, clearly this women only considers sex as sex and oral is not sex. So I searched the forum and could not find this ...
If I didn't count oral sex as sex, I would have to call myself a virgin. Trust me... I am not a virgin.
11/06/2011
LQ LQ
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Originally posted by Gunsmoke
I'm completely baffled when I read this - why is it called oral SEX? How can it be oral sex and not be sex?

I know our once commander and chief tried this trick - but even his supporters considered what he did adultery (sex outside of ...
Eh, personal perspective & I'm actually sort of in the middle on it. But, I guess in my personal life 99% of the time, oral sex is foreplay & not "finished," so it's a sexual activity, but it just doesn't "feel" like sex to me (mentally).

I do consider oral outside of a relationship to be cheating... since that's a pretty intimate act with someone other than your partner. But I just don't think of oral as "SEX" with a capital S... I think of it as its own thing.
11/07/2011
Howells Howells
I can't not count because there are so few, not that there is anything wrong with that. I'd count those that are only oral, that means a lot imho.
11/08/2011
shySEXXaddict shySEXXaddict
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Originally posted by Beck
After reading something, where a women said that she only counted her male partners, but had sex with women also. I got to thinking, clearly this women only considers sex as sex and oral is not sex. So I searched the forum and could not find this ...
you know this gets me..alot of younger people..especially teenagers dont think oral sex is considered sex and there for cant get any stds from performing it.How untrue that is! hmm..thats why they call it -oral sex..sex is sex your still swapping fluids if not using protection..u no?!
11/08/2011
chicken12 chicken12
I consider oral sex to be sex, and doing it, to me, counts as a loss of virginity. It's sharing a sexual act with another person; you're both vulnerable, intimate, and giving and receiving pleasure. That's sex. There doesn't need to be hymen breaking involved.
11/08/2011
MidnightStorm MidnightStorm
I think I count oral sex as sex--it's very much an "american" thing (I think) to NOT count it. But I mean, as a bisexual--I feel like oral counts. Otherwise I'd almost never be having sex with women!
11/08/2011
zeebot zeebot
Yes, it counts!
11/09/2011
pleasurehunter pleasurehunter
I want to say its not sex, but lesbians dont really have anything to penetrate with and they have sex, so i guess we can rule it as part of sex
11/09/2011
Mihoshi4301 Mihoshi4301
I think it counts as sex unless you want to get into the actual semantics of the word which I think is a little overkill.
11/10/2011
Ms. Spice Ms. Spice
idk whatever some people think sex is their business, so whatever. but when I have oral sex, I consider it sex. i don't apply the bill clinton definition to my personal life lol you know i love you, bill!
11/10/2011
oldman oldman
LOL Did Bill Clinton put you up to this?
11/11/2011
oldman oldman
BTW--Someone should tell every gay man and lesbian that they are virgins. They would be surprised to find that out. Also, in the case of lesbians, it should be noted that (and this will surprise those of us who own one) that a penis is NOT even necessary for quality sex.
11/11/2011
WetJenn WetJenn
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Originally posted by Beck
After reading something, where a women said that she only counted her male partners, but had sex with women also. I got to thinking, clearly this women only considers sex as sex and oral is not sex. So I searched the forum and could not find this ...
While you dont have to count it as your sex totaly, it should totally be counted.
11/12/2011
LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
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Originally posted by Beck
After reading something, where a women said that she only counted her male partners, but had sex with women also. I got to thinking, clearly this women only considers sex as sex and oral is not sex. So I searched the forum and could not find this ...
I think oral is sex.
11/14/2011
GoneBabyGone GoneBabyGone
I think oral sex is sex. It has it in the name Oral SEX. It might not be penis in vagina sex but it is still sex.

It can give you an STD, it can feel good, it can be bad, it can make you orgasm. It's sex by golly.
11/23/2011
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