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Contributor: Ryuson Ryuson
(Review Program Mentor)
Recently, it may be due to taking in too much this semester and having a lot on my plate, but I've been feeling a lot of anxiety about a lot of things. One of the biggest ones (since I'm on here so much) is that people on here get annoyed at me, causing me to become distraught at ridiculous things (Such as titling a video review incorrectly.)

It's also been branching out into my real life relationships, wondering if people just put up with me to be kind. The biggest example of this is with my new dorm mate, who seems to be a bit cold and short with me.

I'm 99.99% sure that all of this is just in my head, but I was just wondering if anyone had any advice on how to alleviate this? I hate feeling tense and anxious, and it's only adding more stress on top of my already stressful schedule.

Thank you so much, guys.
01/27/2012
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Contributor: - Kira - - Kira -
Take breaks is the best advice I can give you. When you put a lot on your plate, you have to make sure you give yourself some "me" time that doesn't cause stress. Even if it's just fifteen minutes to take a bubble bath and listen to relaxing music or something, it may help.
01/27/2012
Contributor: PeaceToTheMiddleEast PeaceToTheMiddleEast
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Originally posted by - Kira -
Take breaks is the best advice I can give you. When you put a lot on your plate, you have to make sure you give yourself some "me" time that doesn't cause stress. Even if it's just fifteen minutes to take a bubble bath and listen ... more
I agree with you Kira, a break is always good.
01/28/2012
Contributor: Ryuson Ryuson
(Review Program Mentor)
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Originally posted by - Kira -
Take breaks is the best advice I can give you. When you put a lot on your plate, you have to make sure you give yourself some "me" time that doesn't cause stress. Even if it's just fifteen minutes to take a bubble bath and listen ... more
Thanks, I really need to start doing that more. I wish that the dorms had a private bath where I could soak in bubbles! I really appreciate your suggestion.
01/28/2012
Contributor: voenne voenne
From what you've described, I can relate to what you're going through. When I get stressed out from having too much to do, on top of school/work, I start to feel overly sensitive toward everything else around me. Like you said, feel as if others don't like me or are annoyed with me. It's not you, I don't see why anyone would have a reason to be annoyed or upset with you! Then, what's worse, is when you stress out about being stressed out...

You just have to take something off of your plate for a while. When I do that, it is hard at first because it's like being stress has become an addiction and you are inflicting it upon yourself, but it always makes things better in the end. You just need to get back your perspective of what is most important, and the only thing that seems to work is taking something away.
01/28/2012
Contributor: wrmbreze wrmbreze
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Originally posted by Ryuson
Thanks, I really need to start doing that more. I wish that the dorms had a private bath where I could soak in bubbles! I really appreciate your suggestion.
If smells don't bother your roommate try candles, they make me relax as well as a bath does.
01/28/2012
Contributor: Ryuson Ryuson
(Review Program Mentor)
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Originally posted by voenne
From what you've described, I can relate to what you're going through. When I get stressed out from having too much to do, on top of school/work, I start to feel overly sensitive toward everything else around me. Like you said, feel as if ... more
It really is true that stress becomes so normal that I feel like something's wrong if I'm NOT stressed! My main problem is finding something to take off of my plate. Eden is something that I do to take a break from homework, and I can't really stop working on my classes.

It really helps just to know that I'm not the only one and that there are people kind enough to respond to a post like this! Thank you so much for your thoughtful and kind response

@Wrmbreze- that's actually a really good idea. Some nice smelling things might help relax me a lot!
01/28/2012
Contributor: Crystal1 Crystal1
I've learned that in general, people don't spend anywhere near as much time thinking about us/being annoyed with us/etc as we think. Everyone is too busy with their own stuff.
01/28/2012
Contributor: MR Chickhabit MR Chickhabit
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Originally posted by Ryuson
It really is true that stress becomes so normal that I feel like something's wrong if I'm NOT stressed! My main problem is finding something to take off of my plate. Eden is something that I do to take a break from homework, and I can't ... more
It really is true that stress becomes so normal that I feel like something's wrong if I'm NOT stressed!

link

i thought of you.
01/28/2012
Contributor: LilLostLenore LilLostLenore
lay down and get drunk if you drink and relax and eat mini quiches they are amazing and will make you instantly feel better about anything.
01/28/2012
Contributor: Ryuson Ryuson
(Review Program Mentor)
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Originally posted by MR Chickhabit
It really is true that stress becomes so normal that I feel like something's wrong if I'm NOT stressed!

link

i thought of you.
Hahaha thank you!

@Crystal, that's really a great point. Maybe I just feel too self-important

Thanks again for all the great comments guys, it makes me feel a lot better
01/28/2012
Contributor: Ansley Ansley
My advice to you is you have to convince yourself that you really just don't give a shit what other people may be thinking about you and to be perfectly honest, they probably think you're annoyed with them. We all have that internal dialogue at some time or another---"oh man! did I really just stick my foot in my mouth like that?"

The pressure you're feeling is something you created, not something others created for you. You're human. You get to make mistakes. It's all about how you handle them that makes the difference. If you shirk your responsibility in the mistake and don't offer ways to fix them, then yeah you should beat up on yourself about it. But, if you've offered to fix it, you understand where you went wrong and know how to avoid it in the future, no one can fault you for that.

Chin up and all of that. Just conquer one thing at a time. Prioritize the demands on your time by what's most important to you and go from there!
01/28/2012
Contributor: LoveDove LoveDove
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Originally posted by LilLostLenore
lay down and get drunk if you drink and relax and eat mini quiches they are amazing and will make you instantly feel better about anything.
I can't say I agree with this one. Getting drunk to escape stress and what's going on in your life isn't a good thing, in my opinion.

I'd say, take a saturday and have a "you" day (or couple of hours). Take 20 bucks and buy yourself something nice - candles, a new shirt, a fancy lunch, a new haircut (I'm always a fan of the haircut), makeup....then retreat to your dorm room and read a book, or I like to paint my nails, listen to music, and ignore everything for a bit. When you're ready to go back to work, you'll feel SOOOO revitalized.
02/01/2012
Contributor: aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
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Originally posted by Ryuson
Recently, it may be due to taking in too much this semester and having a lot on my plate, but I've been feeling a lot of anxiety about a lot of things. One of the biggest ones (since I'm on here so much) is that people on here get annoyed at ... more
oh sweet ryuson. i think you're the cutest and sweetest and i wish i could put up with you more often! it is all in your head, but that doesn't make it any less challenging.

i myself went through some awful stuff with anxiety this past year. it was more deeply-rooted in childhood trauma, and i started seeing a therapist for that again, and hopefully she'll help me this time. i saw my doctor about the anxiety and he got me on some medication that is helping me just fine, no side effects. not saying no side effects will always happen - many anti-anxiety and anti-depression medications can have yucky side effects.

but i recommend checking with your doctor about anxiety meds and seeing a counselor. it can be such a relief to hear someone say 'i hear what you're saying and i agree that is difficult.' that can sometimes be all we need! if you ask me, everyone should see a counselor at least some time in their life. we all need someone unbiased to talk to.

taking some time for yourself is good too - listen to relaxing music, read good books (i highly recommend the power of now by eckhart tolle - it's all about finding deeper happiness and calm that is within all of us... i feel a little more enlightened every time i pick it up!) and pamper yourself when you can.


good luck sweet girl. and honestly if you ever need to just vent to someone you don't have to put up with every day, shoot me a PM. i'm always ready to listen.

hugs.

02/02/2012
Contributor: Ryuson Ryuson
(Review Program Mentor)
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Originally posted by LoveDove
I can't say I agree with this one. Getting drunk to escape stress and what's going on in your life isn't a good thing, in my opinion.

I'd say, take a saturday and have a "you" day (or couple of hours). Take 20 bucks ... more
That's a really good idea, as well. Thanks for all of the suggestions, everyone, I'm feeling a bit better already! I think that I just need to adapt and get back into the swing of things.

I really appreciate everyone's kindness and support in this post.
02/02/2012