I don't think it's your place to tell him who or when to marry without being prompted to do so by him in an intimate "hey what do you think about what I'm doing" kind of way.


Granted, her reaction was immature and probably telling of her insecurity issues but I think I might be subconsciously insecure in a relationship with someone who waited mere months to ask for my hand in marriage. Along the lines of, well how many times has he done this before without actually making it to the altar. (I'm old fashioned.) There have been some whirl-wind romances that have flourished and are still going strong to this day.


If he chooses to delete you from facebook, that is ultimately his choice of statement he wishes to make to his partner and maybe it will open up ideas of how he really feels about her. My best advice to you is do not ever offer unsolicited advice when it comes to matters of the heart. I don't think you would want anyone to do that to you short of intervening in an abusive situation.

I do think your comment was flirty and it was borderline inappropriate in a way that it somewhat expressed a desire to be with someone like him or him in specific. She doesn't know you. You don't know her. You don't know the issues they have in their relationship.

In the end, this is between the two of them and your input is likley unwelcome if it's anything other than "it hurts my feelings that we can't be facebook friends but I understand". You will no doubt leave him in a position to choose. It's just not fair.

I don't really see your comment as flirting.
You didn't say anything like "Lucky girl, or How come all the good guys are gone?"

She's just immature and insecure.
Let it blow over. If he wants a controlling bitch in his life, let it happen.

I've let a few good male friends end up in shitty relationships and marry the bitch.
It's not my place.

Hopefully he's not too stupid like mine were.

Good points!

He did not delete me, and said he told her that he wouldn't either but it really wouldn't be a big deal to me if he did - other than the fact that I know from experience that if he allowed her that control now, it will only get worse.

I suppose I won't say anything else unless he asks. It really does work in my favor when I know both partners in the couple and they both understand my sense of humor!

Most of my friends are either swinging couples or singles who we have played with so I'm not used to having a "vanilla friend"!