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You Want Me To WHAT?! s.j.
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I'm sure many of us remember the introduction of toys and possibly porn into our current relationships. For some of you it may have been a fun adventure, others a continuation of your life as a single person, but for those like myself who were a bit naive, it was...an experience. Luckily, I had a patient husband who did not give up on me and I think we know the end of the story, but let me tell you how we got there.

  A Shot In The Ass...

The vibrator went in a drawer to be forgotten about for quite some time. We half joked around about it but that is where we stopped. At least, that is what my hubby thought. I would occasionally try it and have some fun with it when he was not at home and then clean it up and replace it perfectly in its package. No one would ever know it was touched or used. I always remembered to remove the batteries and stash them as well.

I had been having some health issues for a couple weeks, lots of fatigue and just a bit dizzy, nothing out of the ordinary but still frustrating. Then came the morning my husband could barely wake me up. I was disoriented, passing out and extremely pale. He decided it was time to go to the hospital. Expecting to hear something drastic and life threatening, we were both really relieved to hear it was just a more severe case of low blood pressure than I normally dealt with, and I got a shot in the butt and a four day prescription. (There were many lectures, a do and do not list and more but that is the boring stuff, we will let that go.)

It was our week with no children, so my husband and I figured we would kick back, relax and take it easy when he brought me home. Yeah, right!! Are you aware of the fact that they give you a prescription form of speed to bring your blood pressure up in a hurry? Well, we weren't then but we are now! (And I have not had to take any of those funky little pills since I started following the doctor's orders!)

Once we got home, I got busy! And I do not mean cleaning the house busy either. My husband had no idea what hit him. He just knew to kick back and enjoy. Oh, did I mention I got a bit chatty as well? Yep, when I told him I had never been in an adult store before-during the middle of, well, you get the picture-he laughed and asked me what had ever become of the vibrator he bought for me. Ever so talkative, I just had to share the fact that when he was gone, I would take it out to play. And I liked it! Well, let's just say one thing led to another which led to...going back to the adult store? Yep!

Good old "experienced at going in adult stores" me was ready and willing to see what other delights they had in store for me and movies, lube and lingerie. My poor husband happily went along with it, wondering if I was going to clam up and go back to being a bit shy once the pills were gone. I have to give him credit. He did not blink once at the total of my drug-induced shopping spree, even thinking it may be a one shot weekend ordeal.

  The Real Story Behind the Drugs...

Once I was done with the prescription, my husband and I both expected me to go back to being pretty shy about the movies and toys we now owned. I figured they added a false bravado and he figured they were just a fluke. For a couple days, we just ignored the subject and acted like the weekend never happened. The whole time, though, I was thinking about how much fun we had when I had lost my inhibitions...

And I wanted more! I decided to take a bubble bath and really think about the situation. As I was enjoying the warm water and luxurious bubbles, I came to the conclusion that I was missing out on a lot of fun and special times that we could have shared along the way. Why was I so inhibited that I could never enjoy the movies or thought of playing with toys as a couple? And what else was there I was missing out on and depriving us from sharing? And what would happen...

I hopped out of the tub, quickly dried off and grabbed my sexiest chemise, no--teddy--no, corset!! Yes, the corset, and the jelly vibe and the lube and the Pocket Rocket and the movies---and my husband was standing at he door looking at me like I had gone bonkers. Which I had, but in a good way. He started laughing at me when he realized I had really hurried to get this all together before he came in so I would not chicken out. I wanted to experiment, have fun and see what was out there-and do it together as a couple.

The courage to lay it all out there and face his laughter, rejection or ridicule was tremendous! The joy and fun we have shared in the meantime, priceless! You see, it was not the drugs I used as an excuse to experiment the first time that opened my eyes. It was my natural curiosity, the curiosity that was normally overridden by inhibitions that kept me from trying new things in the bedroom. The drugs acted as an excuse to let that curiosity out and to explore. Once I had explored, I did not want to go back to being inhibited and lose out on the new closeness and sense of discovery I had found with my husband.

His patience, and that he never pushed, really made me feel that it was okay to explore. If he would have pushed in any way, I would have felt inadequate and would never have been able to open up and talk to him about keeping the explorations going. He figured I would stick my toe in the water at some point, and maybe it was in a very unorthodox manner, but at least I got there. After experiencing these last six or seven years of openness and exploration--I am glad we did!! There are a few pangs for the years we missed out on, but his patience and understanding made sure we did not miss out on a lifetime!

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Comments

Sera26  

great personal story

11/29/2012
Edeneve  

thanks for opening up to us about this part of your life. great writing!!! and I'm jealous. lol!!!

12/16/2012

i loved reading your story, you are a great writer

12/19/2012
perryjordan  





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07/31/2013

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