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Role Play: Nerdy or Sexy?

Role Play: Nerdy or Sexy?
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Some people find role play too nerdy for the bedroom, but what's really holding you back?

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Thanatos70  

I don't like role play and never have - although I'm not sure if I'd classify it as being "nerdy"or not. I am not comfortable not being myself and in the here and now. I'm not dressing up, certainly NOT in costume, and not acting out some cheesy porn movie scenario. I've tried it before and it's not something that I enjoy and by the time clothes come off, I'm just not even close to being in the mood any longer.
To those who like role playing, that's great and I'm happy for you. But articles like this, not just on role playing mind you, give you the sense that if you can't get into it, then something is wrong with you for some reason. I have VERY few "definite no"s when it comes to sex, but role playing IS definitely one of those. I don't have to try scat to know that I wouldn't like it either. Some things you know by your very personality, without ever having to experience it firsthand.

09/01/2012

What's really holding me back is baggage and issues with self-esteem and confidence. It would have been a good idea to address psychological and emotional issues, as well, in this article.

Much like Thanatos70, I'm not comfortable not being myself. I used to really get into role playing, but certain relationship issues really screwed that up. Plus, it's damn hard not to be cheesy in person. Over the Internet or via text? Sure. IRL? Wow...that's awkward, even back when my husband and I were both into it.

09/03/2012
nebbish  

Personally, I love getting dressed up and creating a scene with my partner. I think it's fun and sexy. Plus, it's an excuse to wear a costume and I really love costumes! The idea of getting to pretend to be someone else is really quite alluring.

09/14/2012
Ayumi  

I'm not sure that the author is meaning to give the sense that there is something wrong with you if you do not like role-playing. I just get the general sense that it is being said that it is worth a try and here are some places where people tend to get stuck, which is true. It is hard to be comfortable role-playing if you aren't used to it, but starting small and simple can be a great way to try it. Metaphorically speaking, I think we tend to role-play whether we actually call it that or not. Sometimes there are times when one partner wants to be a little bit more dominant than the other, or you are both in a mood where you sense you want to be roughed up a bit more than usual. Just because you don't call it role-playing doesn't mean it isn't. You are just tapping in to a different part of yourself and playing that role. For those who want to try role-playing sincerely, but have confidence concerns, I believe that thinking of it as a more amped up version of the natural progression of sexual interaction, is really helpful in making you a little more comfortable.

09/17/2012

As a theater geek I believe role play is an essential part to a spicey sex life.
My favorite situation would have to be the gyn/ and patient scenario.

09/17/2012

Pretty much my partner and I start out with the whole roleplay thing and use it as sort of for foreplay. But once we actually get into the sex it stops being much about the roleplay and just ends up being sex. I don't mind really, though. For us, it's just fun and somewhat silly and sexy. No pressure and nothing serious, just fun intimate times.

09/18/2012

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