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Should “Creep Shaming” be a thing?

Should “Creep Shaming” be a thing?
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The Men’s Rights Activists of Reddit believe that “creep shaming” is insidious and anti-equality. But does creep shaming really exist? And if so, why shouldn’t it?

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Jaimes  

This is a very interesting article. My brain doesn't know which way to roll with it. Should a flippant girl who just throws the term around and forgets it an hour later be given carte blanche forgiveness for breaking the spirit of some innocent but socially awkward man simply because she has a vagina? No. Do some guys need a wake up call? Yes. Therein lies the rub.

I don't think I fully agree with creep-shaming, because that's making a game out of negativity. The funnier or more popular it becomes, the less careful people are with using the term appropriately. Your pets don't care about the funny picture you post of their mischief. Your neighbor, your brother, your best friend, your grandpa; does.

And I don't know about you, but I don't trust the logic or social integrity of vain high school girls, and I certainly don't value the fun they would have with that game over the self-image of honest, decent men.

I just hope that women realize the power that word has in their hands, and that they wield it justly.

09/05/2012

As a woman, I can say that I don't exclusively call guys "creepy". To me, your creep-factor has little to do with your gender, it's all about how you come off to me. Certain people just give me the heebie jeebies.

09/06/2012

For me, when guys cross the line and I tell them they are CREEPY!!! They immediately get the hint, halt their behavior, and it never happens again. Of course I only use this when I think it's truly a creepy situation (abusing "always allow" skype cam priveleges, creeping up behind and doing that "guess who" thing really close to ears, INSISTING that you put in used earbuds to listen to the song they picked for you. JUST for you....)

09/06/2012
P'Gell  

Really? THIS is a thing? Women get raped, men get..... "offended." Women avoid creepy behavior as a survival tactic and talk about it to warn our fellow women, do y'all not get that?

PLENTY of men do not act creepy, and are never called creepy. Me thinks some men proteseth too much. Being called "creepy" is completely avoidable. (Unlike, say, being called a "whore" or even a "dyke" simply because you rebuff some creepy guy's unwanted advances....)

The answer is in your article; "“Men are afraid women will laugh at them. Women are afraid men will kill them.”

That's it.

09/07/2012

I'm a lesbian. As such, I've encountered my share of CREEPY people of both genders! Yes, girls are totallycapable of overstepping boundaries into the 'creep zone', making inappropriate comments, refusing to back down when the other girl is clearly not interested, and other generally creepy behavior. When it comes to overly intense, obsessive, possessive, jealous, and/or stalker-ish type creepy behavior, sorry guys, but girls, especially lesbians, have the market cornered. Women are wayyyyy better at that then guys and it's CREEPY and sometimes scary. As a lesbian, I am also often subject to an extra special brand of creepiness from guys. The 'you've just never met the right guy,' 'I can turn you straight,' 'call me if you ever want a man inside you,' 'you can't possibly be fully satisfied without a man,' 'somewhere deep down I know you must want a cock,' and the ever popular 'can I watch and/or join in' variety. *shudder* I absolutely think women (or men who are targets of creepy behavior, since I think it's totally possible and legit for guys to feel creeped out when someone is acting creepy) should call the person out on their behavior. 'Creep' or 'creepy' are pretty universally understood terms for the type of unacceptable social behavior that gives us the heebie jeebies and makes us want to get the hell away from this person so calling someone a creep is a really effective way of succinctly making your point. I'm not sure mass public social media humiliation is the way to go because of the superficial, snotty, pretentious girls who may use it to abuse some poor guy who doesn't deserve it. Certainly the guy waiting outside the changing room was undeserving of being shamed with the 'creep' label, but some people are downright creepy and slapping that label on them is a pretty damn effective way to get the message across!

09/09/2012

This was very well said...

09/24/2012
MVR  

This is interesting. In high school I had a facebook photo album especially for "creepers." I amassed quite a collection of creepy guys. The worst example was a man who was recording my friends with an iphone while we were riding on a carousel that was about 10 feet up in the air. Two of us were wearing skirts. I responded by recording HIM recording US! We got off the carrousel and he was magically gone. Hmm.

Yes, this is a major issue for us ladies, and calling someone a creep is one of the few weapons we have! It's very instinctual, it's a feeling inside that we get. Sometimes I get that feeling when a man hasnt done anything at all (besides leer). Does that mean i'm going to call him a creep? No. It means I'm going to avoid him like the plague.

Looking back at that facebook album, I realized how empowered I felt to be able to take pictures of these men. It somehow put the power back in my hands. I know that can be abused rather easily, and I wouldnt recommend that everyone do that, but it's something to consider. I'm sure that if every woman were to take a picture of a creepy man, rapists would be much more easily identified and brought to justice.

Trust your instincts! Sorry if that offends guys, but perhaps avoid leering?

10/26/2012
Silvia Squirre  

I consider guys living in trash cans to be out of my league. And they have tried pick up lines on me. Like "hey, ya want some of this!?" So, is it wrong to call someone like that a creep? because of where they live? Just wondering.

01/02/2013
harper2  

Do all women who are tagged a B**ch deserve it?

03/25/2013
harper2  

Do all women who are tagged a B**ch deserve it?

03/25/2013

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