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That 8-Year-Old should NOT be wearing those Daisy Dukes!

That 8-Year-Old should NOT be wearing those Daisy Dukes!
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Now, I’m not a parent, but this needs some correction! I was walking in the mall the other day and I saw a little girl, no more than 8 years old, in some daisy dukes.

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Great article! I completely agree with you. Some of the parents these days need to reevaluate and get a clue.

07/30/2012
mankoneko  

damn toddlers and tiaras.

07/30/2012

As a parent, I'll often call my daughter "cutie-pie" or something like that at first...it's kind of the default form of affectionate phrasing...but often realize I need to follow up immediately with something to recognize that I think she's smart and talented, too (hell, sometimes I need to remember to do that with my wife, too). The little girl's likely to grow up to be a very charming and attractive young woman (and the tween years are only a few years away, when things will really start to ratchet upward) and will probably be able to go far just on attractiveness, but I don't want her to see that as the primary or foundational way of going through life.

Thanks for the article, because it's easy not to realize how pervasive this stuff is. I've tried to make sure she has superhero and working woman/adventurous toys aplenty to go along with all those princesses and fairies she gravitates toward. I've had to fight the grown up dressing desires so often; at seven, I'm still not budging on swimwear...no matter how much she asks for a two-piece, she's getting one-piece swimsuits for a while.

Often, I see glimpses that it's working (or I hope it is) as I try to balance her outlook on life. I'm starting to think I'll end up with a dress-loving tomboy or a Goth girl who likes pink, and that makes me a lot happier than the idea of a frilly girl looking for a "prince" to save her.

07/31/2012

I really loved your article. I believe you should pick up the book Stop Dressing Your Six-Year-Old Like a Skank by Celia Rivenbark. It's a very funny book with a lot of her humor column prose. I believe you would appreciate it.

I work at Target and I have been totally appalled by some of the clothes marketed toward little girls. Some of that stuff I would never even wear as a 24-year-old woman.

08/01/2012

My girls were always dressed in what caught their eyes in the store...one liked ruffles and frills and one liked skulls and crossbones! We never bought them clothing advertising their sexuality and steered them subtly away from them. Ok, so sometimes their father would do the father thing and threaten to burn clothing that he deemed inappropriate but then again the girls never asked to wear them!
My girls know that I wear crotchless drawers on occasion but they also know that this occasion involves sex!
I cannot imagine them asking me to buy crotchless anything for them!

08/02/2012

Agreed! I can't believe what I see some of them wear around here and even some of the toddler Halloween costumes I have been looking at lately when shopping for one for my lil girl.

09/13/2012

Really great things to point out! I love this article Mwar, and I fully feel what your'e flippin' about. I personally feel the same. OMG about the crotchless kid thongs?! What the booze!? It infuriates me when parents want kids to be "sexy." You know, I seen this a lot with the girls my age who have kids (not recently because I'm not hardly ever with them these days). I remember one friend a few years ago teaching her little 2 year old to "knock one back" as in take a shot, only it was Dr. pepper in a shot glass, okay that was crossing a line, but when she told her to say "I'm sexy!" I was astonished. Really? It's disgusting.

Also, you made an excellent, eye-opening point about telling our girls they're good-looking. I make a point to tell our girls they're so "beautiful and smart" daily, and often more than daily because I've always worried about them having self esteem issues, and just never wanted them to feel bad about themselves, but I did not really think how only speaking highly of their looks would be a negative thing as well. I'll have to remember to emphasize the "you're so smart!" even more now.

10/25/2012
Voir  

Nice article making so many relevant points...
the only thing i disagree with is the whole pointing fingers at disney movies. Most of those stories were written how many years ago? Snow white came out in the 30's, Cinderella is almost as old. I think people blow this whole "they are sending bad messages to my children" crap out of proportion. ._. Half the people I know male and female alike grew up on these movies without the slightest inclination of them having affected them in any of these ways to be dependent on a man or reflect only on looks. Psychology studies show living models have a bigger affect and peers even more so of one. So perhaps we should stop pointing fingers at the external things like movies and media and take a look at the child's home life - not vague terminology directed at them but how their parents interact, how the older women in their life behave and talk about things ; children take a much more active interest in people who directly affect them than they do movies or games. My cousin for example, attempted to model herself after me even though she watched little girl's cartoons that many would argue have 'negative' connotations towards females. Environment shapes who we are a hell of a lot more than a book or a movie or a game; for some this isn't true but for the majority environment and physical stimuli play a much larger role in influencing ideals and behavior.

10/26/2012
MDuffy  

i completely agree. great article

11/22/2012

Terrific article! I am not a conservative person at all, but there are definitely some things I don't think are appropriate for children *at all*. Let kids discover sexuality when they're older. I wish more people felt this way about the way some children are presented to the world.

01/09/2013

i agree. im a protective mom and dont want guys looking at a young girl dressed like that, and second try to teach them how to act and dress like a little lady

01/10/2013

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