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Contributor: ScottA ScottA
This is a companion to the "referring to it" post that asked whether couples used feminine terms (pussy or cunt) to refer to the receiving partner's anus during pegging.

What terms do you use to refer to the dildo? I'd think that there would be a few more who would use the term "cock" or "dick", but there are probably plenty who just use "dildo"

So, what do you use?
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Contributor: ~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
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Originally posted by ScottA
This is a companion to the "referring to it" post that asked whether couples used feminine terms (pussy or cunt) to refer to the receiving partner's anus during pegging.

What terms do you use to refer to the dildo? I'd think ... more
I'm a bit confused. Why would someone can an anus a pussy or cunt? I believe i am missing something lol
10/08/2010
Contributor: Sir Sir
Quote:
Originally posted by ~LaUr3n~
I'm a bit confused. Why would someone can an anus a pussy or cunt? I believe i am missing something lol
To feminize it, or sometimes humiliate the person being pegged. There's also the gender-reversal reason, the male being pegged being being treated "like a lady."

Also, people use those terms for bottoms simply because it's what they use. I know a lot of people in the homosexual male community who use those terms on their boyfriends.


To ScottA: We do not peg, so there's not really an answer for that! If we did, I would definitely call it a penis.
10/08/2010
Contributor: ~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
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Originally posted by Sir
To feminize it, or sometimes humiliate the person being pegged. There's also the gender-reversal reason, the male being pegged being being treated "like a lady."

Also, people use those terms for bottoms simply because it's ... more
Thanks Sir! Nope never done gender reversal or the humiliation aspect-pegging or not.
10/08/2010
Contributor: gone77 gone77
Quote:
Originally posted by ScottA
This is a companion to the "referring to it" post that asked whether couples used feminine terms (pussy or cunt) to refer to the receiving partner's anus during pegging.

What terms do you use to refer to the dildo? I'd think ... more
I've yet to peg, but I'd use "cock."
10/08/2010
Contributor: Eeyor89 Eeyor89
I'm with Lauren on this one. I've never done it, and I'm not too sure if I would lol. But I am always up for new things so we will see .
10/08/2010
Contributor: Kindred Kindred
We don't do gender reversal or humiliation.
We just refer to it as dildo.
10/08/2010
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
Quote:
Originally posted by Kindred
We don't do gender reversal or humiliation.
We just refer to it as dildo.
I figured that most people would do "dildo", I was just interested to see how it stacked up against the other poll by Paralax about refering to the anus as a pussy (I figured that there might be a few more who would use "cock" and most would use "dildo").

We use "dildo".
10/08/2010
Contributor: namelesschaos namelesschaos
I haven't been pegged yet ,its on the to do list (or perhaps more accurately the to be done on to list?), but in my fantasies it is usually referred to as "cock".
10/08/2010
Contributor: David88 David88
Quote:
Originally posted by ScottA
I figured that most people would do "dildo", I was just interested to see how it stacked up against the other poll by Paralax about refering to the anus as a pussy (I figured that there might be a few more who would use "cock" and ... more
Dildo is definitely safer starting out for both parties. I think when we we finally do it we'll start out with that but I'm open to cock or whatever she wants to call it. The gender play doesn't scare me away but it may my wife so I won't bring that out unless she brings it up.
10/08/2010
Contributor: Tart Tart
I most commonly use the word "cock" even outside of play sessions. I once asked my girl if she wanted "my cock," the dildo was in the bedroom, and even though I was not wearing it in the harness I still referred to it as "my cock." It's a very interesting mindset and I'm really enjoying it.
10/27/2010
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
So, everybody who does call it a penis, cock, dick or the like -

Do you mainly call it that to claim ownership ("dildo" is more of an inanimate object disconnected from both parties, whereas cock/penis references a body part, and a harnessed dildo is more like a body part than a hand-held one), or is it related to gender-reversal/humili ation? It sounds as though it's mostly the first (claiming ownership of the dildo).

The humiliation aspect interests me theoretically, given that it apparently revolves around the conception that women are somehow inferior, and that by being penetrated a man is "reduced" to a woman (and, likewise, a woman is "enhanced" by having a "cock"). That mindset, and how it interfaces with the modern views of equality is interesting. Outside the bedroom that thinking probably stops for the woman, but socially it is often there subconsciously among men.
10/29/2010
Contributor: navigator-d navigator-d
We call it dick,etc. - as part of gender reversal scenario. But nothing of "humilation" stuff. No inferiority complex, doesn't matter who is in giving or receiving role, just pure fun.
12/15/2010
Contributor: Beaners Beaners
We call it my cock, etc. In practice, it's mostly been to claim ownership. However, in talking about it, he wants it to be a gender reversal thing. Not so much humiliation, we're not into that. We've just never got around to doing the gender reversal. *puts on to-do list for today*
12/17/2010
Contributor: Liz2 Liz2
I call it "my cock". He calls it "the dil" I guess this goes back to his initial dislike of toys, said he wanted to be the only cock in bed. He has so changed.....
12/17/2010
Contributor: removedacnt removedacnt
We call it a dildo.
12/17/2010
Contributor: himandher himandher
We typically use "strap on" to refer to both the harness and the dong. We tried "dong" for a week or two after we started pegging but not lately.
12/19/2010
Contributor: M121212 M121212
I would call it my cock.

And yes that does stem from gender play.

Ooooooh gonna get a harness one day! Oh yea oh yea
01/27/2011
Contributor: aBeastlyLittleThing aBeastlyLittleThing
Quote:
Originally posted by ScottA
This is a companion to the "referring to it" post that asked whether couples used feminine terms (pussy or cunt) to refer to the receiving partner's anus during pegging.

What terms do you use to refer to the dildo? I'd think ... more
"the strap-on"
03/12/2011
Contributor: CafeSabroso CafeSabroso
My partner enjoys having a penis (when wearing her harness), so it's natural to call it "her cock"
03/12/2011
Contributor: slynch slynch
She calls it her cock.
03/14/2011
Contributor: CrimsonCat CrimsonCat
Same as slynch.
03/16/2011
Contributor: Love&War Love&War
cock
03/18/2011
Contributor: toxie m toxie m
Quote:
Originally posted by gone77
I've yet to peg, but I'd use "cock."
Same here, either that or "dick"
03/18/2011
Contributor: MeliPixie MeliPixie
I do everything I can to avoid remembering that my penis is just a chunk of silicone, at least when it comes to the moment of truth. So we refer to it as my cock, my dick, or anything else that identifies it as a real living penis. It makes me feel more like I'm actually penetrating him with my own body. For some reason, lacking the penis he wants sometimes makes me feel inadequate. Why can't I have a pussy AND a cock?! .u_u.
03/25/2011
Contributor: MeliPixie MeliPixie
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Originally posted by MeliPixie
I do everything I can to avoid remembering that my penis is just a chunk of silicone, at least when it comes to the moment of truth. So we refer to it as my cock, my dick, or anything else that identifies it as a real living penis. It makes me feel ... more
I just realized this makes my boyfriend sound gay, which he is NOT. He necessarily doesn't want a real penis in his butt, at least as far as I know. It'd just be easier (and nicer, for me at least) if it were attached to me all the time so it's there whenever he wants it. No straps, which we need sometimes; no need to prep myself or attach a fake dong. That's all I'm saying.
03/25/2011
Contributor: Kat and Aaron(aaron) Kat and Aaron(aaron)
It is most definitely her cock.
09/28/2012
Contributor: darklegion00 darklegion00
Quote:
Originally posted by MeliPixie
I just realized this makes my boyfriend sound gay, which he is NOT. He necessarily doesn't want a real penis in his butt, at least as far as I know. It'd just be easier (and nicer, for me at least) if it were attached to me all the time so ... more
I hate to keep an old thread alive but we are definitely in this same situation. Coincidentally enough, we had a pegging session last night, and before getting into the heat of things, we discussed the fantasy idea of her having the extra "appendage" but remaining 100% female.

We too refer to the dildo as her cock/dick/etc., but we do not refer to my ass as anything feminine. Though she's got a slight dominant streak growing, it's not taken to a feminizing/degrading respect when talking about my body.
10/01/2012
Contributor: Nyx (Under the Covers) Nyx (Under the Covers)
I like the term "cock" for referring to a dildo that I am wearing. I'm cisgendered, but I really enjoy the fantasy of having a flesh-and-blood cock and playing out everything that entails. In my fantasies it is very much my cock and very much a part of me.

Also, I personally am much more into a guy-on-guy fantasy, or just being a dominant woman, so wouldn't refer to a male partner's hole as a feminine part unless that was a strong fantasy of his (forced feminization, as a humiliation, doesn't sit quite right with me -- it is one thing if he is asking to be treated as a woman [hot], but for me to feminize him as a humiliation bothers the feminist in me).
10/26/2012