Massage Tutorial - by MrWill

Contributor: Ansley Ansley



Introduction to Massage tutorial by: MrWill

Hello everyone and welcome to an amazing tutorial brought to you by MrWill. He has prepared for you, a very extensive tutorial of the basics of massage. I hope this helps all of you out, but please feel free to post any questions that you might have. Enjoy, and make sure that you all try this at home!
05/17/2013
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Contributor: Ansley Ansley


Massage: A wonderful way to relax and spend some quality time with your partner, and also an incredible way to come closer as a couple. Now, when Gary came to me and asked that I do an intro tutorial for massage, I wasn't sure what to throw in. I'll be covering the basics, and some tips that will surely make your time massaging one another more memorable and also more sensual.

First things first: Why give one another a massage?

Quite simply, giving and receiving a massage can be wonderfully relaxing for both you and your partner. It doesn't have to be sexual, and it doesn't have to have an ulterior motive, though it often does. Massage never HAS to end in sex, but it certainly can, and depending on your relationship may end there often. That is a decision best left to you and your lover or partner.

Step 1: Set up a relaxing atmosphere.
This doesn't necessarily mean that you need $20 worth of rose petals and a massage table, or a huge waterfall feature in the corner of the room. Turn the lights down low, or consider going with just candle light. Keep the room at a temperature that you both will be comfortable at completely nude. Turn on some relaxing music, and maybe even pour some wine or your choice of relaxing beverage.

Step 2: Have all supplies nearby and ready to use
If you are going to be using specialty oils (I personally recommend straight sweet almond oil, but use what works for you), have them nearby. I would also consider having a couple of clean warm towels nearby, and even a sheet to drape over your lover to keep them relaxed as you finish massaging each area. I would heat the oil or lube of your choice up a little warmer than body temperature. A good way to do this is to immerse the bottle (while closed) into a cup of hot water.

Step 3: Have your partner strip and lay down comfortably
Again, this doesn't have to be on a $1000 dollar massage table. You can use your bed, the kitchen table, the marble island in the kitchen.. wherever, just make it comfy. Use pillows you aren't worried about a little oil getting onto, as this can get messy.

Step 4: Start slow
The first few times I gave a massage with warm oil, I went straight for the oil and it wasn't long before I was bored and tired of massaging. Start with light rubbing on dry skin, and pay attention to their muscles in different areas. Have a sweet conversation, and try to help them relax completely. As you slowly warm their body up by rubbing, you can move on to adding oil.

Step 5: Slicking Things Up



My biggest tip here: ALWAYS pour the oil into your hand first to check and make sure it is the right temperature. Nothing will ruin an atmosphere of sensuality and decadence faster than oil burns on the back or having cold oil pulled onto warm skin. Once you've made sure the oil is comfortable, rub it on your hands first.

Step 6: Start Rubbing
It sounds really simple doesn't it? Well, there are 3 main types of touch for an exceptional amateur massage:

Effleurage: French, meaning to touch lightly or skim over, is the form of touch you should employ first. This is where you are warming their skin and muscles up, increasing blood flow, and generally relaxing them. In the picture, you'll notice the arrows showing a basic path for good effleurage.



Notice that the rubbing never really stops in one position, as the point here really is continuous movement and to get the blood moving around the muscles of the back.

Petrissage: the term comes again from the French, and it means to knead. The name of the game here is rhythmic kneading of the skin and underlying muscle with palms and fingers.



The picture demonstrates a basic use of petrissage, which is to pinpoint tense areas and knead and roll them in the fingers to slowly lessen tension. Move slowly and surely, and keep a good rhythm and those tense balls of daily stress should melt away.

Tapotement:



Tapotement is also taken from the French word Tapoter, which means to tap or to drum. While performing tapotement, the idea is to tap gently upon different areas to reinvigorate the nervous system and encourage the release of built up lymphatic fluid in different areas of the body. As with petrissage, rhythm and consistency are key. You can always tap harder, but pay attention to whomever you are massaging to see what they can handle or what they enjoy.

Start with the effleurage, and work your way into petrissage and tapotement as needed. Sometimes simple light rubbing is all that is needed, and occasionally getting into the deeper tissue massages techniques is necessary. It will all depend on you and your partner.

(A good tip here, is to consider putting your vibrators and cheap 4-prong plastic massagers to use. Your hands will get tired, and using a toy for help isn't a bad idea! Do be careful though, as some oils are dangerous to some of the materials your wonderful toys are made of!)

As your partner relaxes, and possibly even falls asleep, you can slowly work your way back to effleurage to really release all of their tension. All of the little techniques I mentioned can be used all over the body, but if you are doing a whole body massage, please cover each area after you get done (as the skin will be warmer, and the air in the room could cause chills).
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Contributor: edeneve edeneve
great info. thanks.
05/17/2013
Contributor: Ansley Ansley
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Originally posted by edeneve
great info. thanks.
LOL There is no way you read all of that in under a minute...

I haven't even read all of it yet...
05/17/2013
Contributor: PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
Love this! Great information, MrWill!
05/17/2013
Contributor: unfulfilled unfulfilled
I'm a kneader, my husband always has tense neck muscles and that's what I do to help. I didn't know about the other techniques. Thank you for sharing the wonderful demonstration. I really like the pictures showing how each is done.
05/17/2013
Contributor: PeaceToTheMiddleEast PeaceToTheMiddleEast
I like to do the kneading and tapper. Thanks for the wonderful information.
05/17/2013
Contributor: Pixel Pixel
Ha! I use petrissage all the damn time when I'm trying to work out some of the knots in my mate's back. Good to know there's an actual name for it.

Thanks for the tutorial!
05/17/2013
Contributor: MrWill MrWill
These are just the very basics.. some of the more advanced stuff can cause more tension or even serious pain if done wrong. I'm glad I could help with putting this out there!
05/17/2013
Contributor: snowminx snowminx
I'll have to fav this page so I can get it later, thanks for the info MrWill
05/17/2013
Contributor: Kissy Kissy
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Originally posted by MrWill
These are just the very basics.. some of the more advanced stuff can cause more tension or even serious pain if done wrong. I'm glad I could help with putting this out there!
I had no idea you can cause more pain when doing tension relief - scary! Thanks for taking the time to share all this with us.
05/17/2013
Contributor: evanescentowl evanescentowl
I recently bought some massage oil, but I had no idea how to give a massage. <3 Thanks for all the lovely tips.
05/17/2013
Contributor: Marie Hanna Marie Hanna
Great tips! Thank you.
05/17/2013
Contributor: wicked48 wicked48
Great info. Thanks for posting!
05/17/2013
Contributor: VeganChick (is Gone) VeganChick (is Gone)
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Originally posted by Ansley
LOL There is no way you read all of that in under a minute...

I haven't even read all of it yet...
To be fair, it was actually 3 minutes.
05/17/2013
Contributor: MrWill MrWill
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Originally posted by Kissy
I had no idea you can cause more pain when doing tension relief - scary! Thanks for taking the time to share all this with us.
If you hit muscle groups to hard trying to get them to relax they can occasionally spasm or get even more tense. That is where the problem comes in. Just be careful!
05/17/2013
Contributor: TJtheMadHatter TJtheMadHatter
Awesome tutorial, Will. It came out great and looks awesome.
05/17/2013
Contributor: MrWill MrWill
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Originally posted by TJtheMadHatter
Awesome tutorial, Will. It came out great and looks awesome.
Thank you
05/17/2013
Contributor: XxFallenAngelxX XxFallenAngelxX
Very great thread!
05/17/2013
Contributor: MrWill MrWill
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Originally posted by XxFallenAngelxX
Very great thread!
I wish I would have caught the typos in it before submitting it, but I suppose it is a little late for that!
05/17/2013
Contributor: js250 js250
Love the tutorial--my hubby's birthday is MOonday....guess what he gets? lol!! I had a therapist hit a muscle and cause severe spasms throughout my shoulder in therapy--very, very BAD!!!! I have noticed the lighter touch the more ticklish I feel once I get relaxed....any thought on that?
05/17/2013
Contributor: MrWill MrWill
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Originally posted by js250
Love the tutorial--my hubby's birthday is MOonday....guess what he gets? lol!! I had a therapist hit a muscle and cause severe spasms throughout my shoulder in therapy--very, very BAD!!!! I have noticed the lighter touch the more ticklish I feel ... more
That's just from increased blood flow! The nerves get more sensitive as they are getting fresh blood with more oxygen worked around them!
05/17/2013
Contributor: GONE! GONE!
Awesome, thanks for sharing!
05/18/2013
Contributor: bratcat bratcat
great information. I really enjoy giving my partner full body massages since they get very sore after working a whole day on their feet, so this is information i will be putting to use, and soon! However, currently i no loger have any massage oil left, would lotion work alright for the time being?
05/18/2013
Contributor: MrWill MrWill
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Originally posted by bratcat
great information. I really enjoy giving my partner full body massages since they get very sore after working a whole day on their feet, so this is information i will be putting to use, and soon! However, currently i no loger have any massage oil ... more
Mhmm. I've used lotion many times for massages, the only reason I don't prefer it is some brands can get kind of tacky after a while of massaging. The worst thing I've ever tried is baby oil gel. It starts out wonderful, and then the gel part of it turns into these very unsexy booger things.
05/18/2013
Contributor: ShadowedSeductress ShadowedSeductress
Thanks for the information! I enjoy giving my partner massages but find myself bored quickly and unsure of what to do next. These techniques will definitely enhance things next time!
05/18/2013
Contributor: bratcat bratcat
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Originally posted by MrWill
Mhmm. I've used lotion many times for massages, the only reason I don't prefer it is some brands can get kind of tacky after a while of massaging. The worst thing I've ever tried is baby oil gel. It starts out wonderful, and then the gel ... more
well i'll be sure to stay away from baby oil gel then! Thanks so much for the quick response!
05/18/2013
Contributor: MrWill MrWill
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Originally posted by bratcat
well i'll be sure to stay away from baby oil gel then! Thanks so much for the quick response!
No problem!
05/18/2013
Contributor: .kaycat .kaycat
Ah we are defiantly going to try this! I suffer from fibromyalgia, lupus and arthritis so I'm always sore and in need of a massage, Thank you MrWill
05/18/2013
Contributor: MrWill MrWill
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Originally posted by .kaycat
Ah we are defiantly going to try this! I suffer from fibromyalgia, lupus and arthritis so I'm always sore and in need of a massage, Thank you MrWill
Little tip I found out first hand last night: A class dildo or butt plug does WONDERS for pin pointing tense spots, especially with a drop of silicone lube where you intend to use it
05/18/2013