In a discussion with friends, we spoke about how it is common, and indeed, may be a natural drive, for men to "press forward" or "plunge deeply" into the vagina at the moment of orgasm (to deposit sperm as deep as possible).

During anal sex, how does this work for you? Does he plunge as far as possible at that moment, does he "stay" right where he is, CONSCIOUSLY, or does he actually pull back a little to not accidentally hurt the receiver?

Long ago, we realized he would go in as far as it was comfortable for me (now it is all the way, but at one time it was only about three or four inches and then "hold"), but he only pumps a bit when cumming inside me. I LOVE the feel of him cumming, mind you, and can FEEL the spastic contractions of his shaft, but I would not enjoy him being "shallow" and then plunging in right at the moment of orgasm. I am a huge anal fan, but SLOW and SMOOTH only please. No pile-driving at full tilt speed, thank you.

SO, how does this work in YOUR relationship?