The New Intimacy

Males: Can You Orgasm During Sex?

Skip to last post
Set alerts
Updates
Forum search
Contributor: Kayla Kayla
I was a bit curious on this one. I saw a "Q&A" on another blog that said that the woman was having problems with her man not being able to orgasm during intercourse.

So I guess my question is: Males - Can you Orgasm During Sex? Easily? With Difficulty? Not at all?

I'd love to hear some possible reasons behind lack of orgasm during intercourse too. I'd have a feeling it would have to do with certain areas not being stimulated, but I'm curious now.

Private Voting.
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
Yes - with no problem
114  (88%)
Yes - with some difficulty
11  (8%)
Yes - but very rarely
4  (3%)
No - not at all
1  (1%)
Total votes: 130
Poll is closed
12/10/2010
  • Treat Her! Gift Set For Women For $69.99 Only
  • Complete lovers gift set
  • Upgrade Your Hands-Free Play!
  • Long-distance pleasure set for couples
  • Save Extra 20% On Love Cushion And Toy Set!
  • 1
  • 2
  • 3
  • 4
  • 5
All promotions
Contributor: ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
Some times it takes longer than she likes, some times it is too soon, but always orgasm in the end.

I have always worked to get her off first so this may be why I can take so long, lately when she is done and wants me to finish I will have her put a plug/Prostate massager in me and then it does not take but a few minuets to finish.

She does not do any Kegal exercises, so that may play a part as well. Sometimes I think if it was a bit tighter that would help a bunch.

I have never heard of a guy not being able to finish, how interesting.
12/10/2010
Contributor: Kindred Kindred
As I've gotten older, I have noticed that it can take more effort than it used to. However, I have not had any issues with being able to orgasm. The one time it was an issue was after my wife had a natural delivery. Let's just say, things were a bit stretched out and I was not feeling it, literally.
12/10/2010
Contributor: mrs.mckrakn mrs.mckrakn
hubby has never has a problem
12/10/2010
Contributor: ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
Just had a thought, are they referring to an orgasm with out ejaculation?
12/10/2010
Contributor: Porfiriato Porfiriato
Nope, never had that problem.
12/10/2010
Contributor: Kayla Kayla
Quote:
Originally posted by ToyTimeTim
Just had a thought, are they referring to an orgasm with out ejaculation?
No, I think they're just referring to regular orgasm with ejaculation.
12/10/2010
Contributor: Tori Rebel Tori Rebel
I answered for my man - he has no problems with it. And while I've never been with a man that has this problem, I do know one.

A friend of mine dated a mutual friend of ours that has *never* been able to ejaculate from sex. Ever. He enjoys sex, and is psychologically and physically healthy (no abuse, no trauma, etc.), and is of average size. But for whatever reason, stimulation from vaginal sex is not enough to get him off. And he can reach orgasm without a problem from masturbation, manual stimulation from a partner, or oral. There's really no explanation for it in his case.
12/10/2010
Contributor: Shumway Shumway
Quote:
Originally posted by Kayla
I was a bit curious on this one. I saw a "Q&A" on another blog that said that the woman was having problems with her man not being able to orgasm during intercourse.

So I guess my question is: Males - Can you Orgasm During Sex? ... more
I voted yes with no problem.. however I should point out that I usually take a while, and on a few occasions that was too long for the wife, so it got a tad frustrating.. although lately with the We-Vibe and some other toys, it's been too easy A great deal of the time I've been able to orgasm more than once as I can control it well enough to have small climaxes before the big finish, which she loves
12/10/2010
Contributor: Tuesday Tuesday
I've been with one man who took a very long time to come. He said that it also took him a long time to fall asleep. He told me that his brother comes fast and falls asleep fast too.

He thought it had to do with wanting to be in control and having a problem with that moment of feeling like you're not in control during an orgasm.
12/10/2010
Contributor: UnknownGirl UnknownGirl
My husband has never had a problem. But there could be any number of reasons that a man might not be able to orgasm. Could be physiological and/or psychological.
12/10/2010
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
Not usually. If I'm tired then maybe, but other than that there really isn't a problem now. At first there was a bit more problems (I had never had sex before and was trying to get everything down and worrying about it), but now it's not a problem.
12/10/2010
Contributor: lukendaft lukendaft
I had trouble in the car one time since I was in an awkward position, however I loved it since I lasted longer for my girlfriend.
12/10/2010
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
As a young man I would have answered 'no problem' - but since getting older it can sometimes take more effort - so I voted yes - with some difficulty.
12/11/2010
Contributor: Shumway Shumway
Quote:
Originally posted by Tuesday
I've been with one man who took a very long time to come. He said that it also took him a long time to fall asleep. He told me that his brother comes fast and falls asleep fast too.

He thought it had to do with wanting to be in control ... more
that's a very interesting observation about the link between taking a long time to orgasm and fall asleep.. I also take a long time to fall asleep, at least 1/2 hour to an hour.. it's quite annoying.
12/12/2010
Contributor: Rckt56 Rckt56
With me I have no problem orgasming right away, or more like within the first 15 minutes, but if I work to make it last longer, then I get a bit desensitized and it takes a lot more concentration to have an orgasm. It just really depends on whether it's going to be a quickie, or a marathon haha.
12/12/2010
Contributor: Fun Lover Fun Lover
Quote:
Originally posted by Gunsmoke
As a young man I would have answered 'no problem' - but since getting older it can sometimes take more effort - so I voted yes - with some difficulty.
I have that same problem
12/17/2010
Contributor: Naughty Student Naughty Student
We're in our mid 20's and my partner will usually orgasm from sex without any problem. He controls his orgasms very well.

However, there are times that he doesn't orgasm,due to loss of erection bcs he has had a long day. It's very rare but it can happen.
12/17/2010
Contributor: removedacnt removedacnt
I vote for my hubby. Because, of course, after all these years I'm pretty sure I would know the answer to that.
12/23/2010
Contributor: Redboxbaby Redboxbaby
My husband doesn't have a problem climaxing during sex. He does a fine job controlling it until I am sufficiently satisfied and that is no easy task because I can be insatiable. The only times I think he has trouble is if he has already climaxed and he gets a second-wind hard-on within a few minutes.
12/23/2010
Contributor: sexyeri sexyeri
My husband doesn't have a problem cumming. I like to think that it's my fault ;-)
12/25/2010
Contributor: The Awesome Penguin The Awesome Penguin
The only time I've had trouble is when using a climax-control condom.
01/07/2011
Contributor: Jin Jin
I can do it just fine. I wouldn't say it's difficult, but it is a little harder.
01/08/2011
Contributor: That Guy That Guy
Depends on how regularly I'm having sex. If I'm getting it on the regular, it can be pretty difficult for me. The problem is that I have a lot of stamina, and my girlfriend gets sore, so I don't really have a problem orgasming so much as I have a problem doing it quickly. But if I've been drinking? Forget about it. Pretty much not going to happen.
01/13/2011
Contributor: Vaccinium Vaccinium
It takes longer that it used to, but, no, I don't have any problems (except when I've had a bit too much alcohol).
01/13/2011
Contributor: Liz2 Liz2
Answering for my b/f. He doesn't usually have a problem with orgasm during sex but, if he is very tired, he just doesn't start anything.

My b/f flies across the country too often and it seems his body clock is always off.
01/13/2011
Contributor: married with children married with children
have only had that problem a couple of times. it happens if we have been having a lot of sex, and she gets sore before i am done.
01/15/2011
Contributor: Cream in the Cupcake Cream in the Cupcake
my man can.
02/22/2011
Contributor: MeliPixie MeliPixie
I didn't vote because I'm not male, and I don't know why my boyfriend sometimes doesn't finish. He finds me just as attractive as ever, but he's six years older than I am, and he's nearing thirty (sorry if that makes anyone here "feel old") and I've read that a man's physical stamina drops a bit around then.
02/27/2011
Contributor: Istanbull Istanbull
Quote:
Originally posted by Kayla
I was a bit curious on this one. I saw a "Q&A" on another blog that said that the woman was having problems with her man not being able to orgasm during intercourse.

So I guess my question is: Males - Can you Orgasm During Sex? ... more
I can even ejaculate without the orgasm so I can keep going and think of it as sloppy seconds.
03/05/2011