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Masturbation, Orgasms, and Depression?

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Contributor: SexyLilPixi SexyLilPixi
I had this conversation with a friend a while back & I'd be real curious to know what the statistics are on this. I'm not depressed currently. It's just for curiosity's sake.

He says that when guys are depressed, they masturbate to ease the depression.

I said that I think it may be different for females because when I'm in a depressed state, I can't seem to masturbate. My thoughts become too consumed & I can't even fathom that escape.

It may not even be a matter of male or female, but just our own personal preferences & ways of dealing with things. Hence, this poll.

What say you?
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
I'm a guy and I like to masturbate when I'm depressed
36  (17%)
I'm a guy and I find I can't masturbate when I'm depressed
18  (9%)
I'm a woman and I masturbate when I'm depressed
85  (40%)
I'm a woman and I find I can't masturbate when I'm depressed
72  (34%)
Total votes: 211
Poll is closed
05/07/2011
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Contributor: Waterfall Waterfall
Interesting poll, I'm curious to see what people have to say.
05/07/2011
Contributor: SexyLilPixi SexyLilPixi
I'll probably end up the only person who doesn't. lol.

Though, I must say, I was really distraught over an ex tonight, to the point of feeling kind of down, and it actually did lift my spirits.

Hmm, I may be onto something...
05/07/2011
Contributor: Howells Howells
Well it really releases endorphines and makes you feel well, so it's like a natural medication. Also eat chocolate!
05/07/2011
Contributor: wetone123 wetone123
When I am depressed and masturbate, I usually feel very much better and am smiling and light hearted after I cum! When I use my Hitachi, I'm really more clear minded and solve the problem which got me depressed. I told my ex husband at one time that if I was bitchy, just to throw me down and fuck the life out of me. It works everytime for me!
05/07/2011
Contributor: Taylor Taylor
I usually feel better after masturbating and definitely use it as a brief escape when I'm feeling depressed. It may not take me from feeling depressed to being super happy, but it does ease things a bit for me and works better than any medication I've ever been on.

I was actually very frustrated when I was put on antidepressants because I wasn't able to have orgasms at all. To me it wasn't worth it because I know orgasms make me much happier than the antidepressants ever could.
05/07/2011
Contributor: Liz2 Liz2
When I am down I do masturbate often. It does give me a lift even if only for a short time. A temporary escape.
Never been on anti-depressants but one of the common side effects is lessening of libido as others have mentioned. I read that prior to meds, masturbation was frequently recommended for bouts of depression.
05/07/2011
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by wetone123
When I am depressed and masturbate, I usually feel very much better and am smiling and light hearted after I cum! When I use my Hitachi, I'm really more clear minded and solve the problem which got me depressed. I told my ex husband at one time ... more
I told my ex husband at one time that if I was bitchy, just to throw me down and fuck the life out of me. It works everytime for me! My husband learned this trick a long time ago.

Orgasms always ease depression for me. Although partnered sex seems to work better than masturbation, self love is better than none.
05/07/2011
Contributor: AMGuidroz AMGuidroz
Masturbation helps, but sex is better to relieve the "pressure"!
05/07/2011
Contributor: padmeamidala padmeamidala
Quote:
Originally posted by SexyLilPixi
I had this conversation with a friend a while back & I'd be real curious to know what the statistics are on this. I'm not depressed currently. It's just for curiosity's sake.

He says that when guys are depressed, they ... more
my sex drive tends to go down when I'm depressed and I often don't feel like masturbating or having sex which is unlike me.
05/07/2011
Contributor: daniel and frances daniel and frances
Quote:
Originally posted by SexyLilPixi
I had this conversation with a friend a while back & I'd be real curious to know what the statistics are on this. I'm not depressed currently. It's just for curiosity's sake.

He says that when guys are depressed, they ... more
All I want to do is stay in bed and at least if I masturbate I feel like I'm accomplishing something. It's also something that I do regularly when not depressed so I feel like I SHOULD be doing it to retain some sense of normalcy when fighting the darkness. Unfortunately my meds prevented me from coming for a while so that kind of fucked up my whole world and made orgasms/masturbation a source of stress. Thankfully the med situation is mostly fixed now so I have been doing it more frequently. All that said, it's complicated.
05/07/2011
Contributor: Redboxbaby Redboxbaby
Quote:
Originally posted by P'Gell
I told my ex husband at one time that if I was bitchy, just to throw me down and fuck the life out of me. It works everytime for me! My husband learned this trick a long time ago.

Orgasms always ease depression for me. Although partnered sex ... more
You hit the nail on the head!

That is how it works in our house. If I am bitchy, my husband will "threaten" me with sex. If I am really bitchy he will drag me to the bedroom. Orgasm coupled with partner sex is a the best feel-good drug out there for me!
05/07/2011
Contributor: Mary-Anne-Xun Mary-Anne-Xun
I'm a woman and I find I can't masturbate when I'm depressed.
I don't want to do anything.
05/07/2011
Contributor: cobiffle cobiffle
IM a guy and I do, it just takes things off my mind.
05/07/2011
Contributor: Smitty Smitty
Quote:
Originally posted by SexyLilPixi
I had this conversation with a friend a while back & I'd be real curious to know what the statistics are on this. I'm not depressed currently. It's just for curiosity's sake.

He says that when guys are depressed, they ... more
This is really interesting actually. Obviously having an orgasm will make you feel better if you're depressed, but actually being able to get there mentally is another story. For me, it depends- sometimes when I'm depressed I have a hard time focusing, but other times I use it as a way to self-medicate I think...
05/07/2011
Contributor: SexyLilPixi SexyLilPixi
Quote:
Originally posted by Redboxbaby
You hit the nail on the head!

That is how it works in our house. If I am bitchy, my husband will "threaten" me with sex. If I am really bitchy he will drag me to the bedroom. Orgasm coupled with partner sex is a the best ... more
Oh, I would be bitchy a lot on purpose. lol

Very interesting how I've always been one of those people who couldn't get into that mood at all when feeling down, but when I started feeling briefly agitated & it was getting me down for a bit last night, I forced myself to give it a try & felt so much better afterward.
(I guess I violated myself. Heehee)

You can really feel that high of when those endorphins are released. Then again, I did fire off several rounds in a row.

Even though it wasn't an actual real state of depression that prompted this poll, but rather just remembrance of that conversation, how irritable someone in my everyday life has been getting me has had me on an emotional roller coaster. Normally, I can't even think about sex in those moments.

After the orgasms, I was so much lighter & all smiles, though.
05/07/2011
Contributor: SexyLilPixi SexyLilPixi
Quote:
Originally posted by cobiffle
IM a guy and I do, it just takes things off my mind.
So far it does seem to be true that guys don't really let it get in the way, yet quite the opposite. We'll see where the poll goes if it gets more votes.

Also seems like more women use it as a means to clear their minds too.

Smitty hit the nail on the head, IMO. If you can just get there mentally, it can help greatly. It's not being able to get there that can be the downer for some, such as myself.
05/07/2011
Contributor: RonLee RonLee
Quote:
Originally posted by Howells
Well it really releases endorphines and makes you feel well, so it's like a natural medication. Also eat chocolate!
Chocolate ice cream!
05/07/2011
Contributor: Judas Iscars Judas Iscars
Yes, I can.
05/07/2011
Contributor: Cream in the Cupcake Cream in the Cupcake
Interesting. I know I cant enjoy sexual activity when Im depressed or upset. Its funny no men have picked they cant.
05/07/2011
Contributor: Cream in the Cupcake Cream in the Cupcake
Quote:
Originally posted by Redboxbaby
You hit the nail on the head!

That is how it works in our house. If I am bitchy, my husband will "threaten" me with sex. If I am really bitchy he will drag me to the bedroom. Orgasm coupled with partner sex is a the best ... more
Thats awesome! Im not sure how much Id like that, but Id like to do it to my man.
05/07/2011
Contributor: MrRainybowbow MrRainybowbow
it depends, sometimes if im 2 depressed i cant and will just go to bed other times i do to ease it for a bit
05/07/2011
Contributor: AOutrajus AOutrajus
Sometimes I do and sometimes I don't.
05/07/2011
Contributor: MaryExy MaryExy
If I feel depressed, I'll force myself to masturbate if I'm not really in the mood. It helps LOADS.
05/07/2011
Contributor: Joie de Cherresse Joie de Cherresse
I masturbate depressed or not, lol.
05/07/2011
Contributor: Shellz31 Shellz31
When I'm depressed, I'm just not in the mood to play. But when I'm depressed, it's usually over a guy which means my sex drive dies during that time.
BUT - I could force an orgasm without too much trouble so I shall try this next time and see if it breaks the depression.
05/07/2011
Contributor: PiratePrincess PiratePrincess
When I am depressed, I can't get myself to masturbate.
05/07/2011
Contributor: A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople) A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople)
It's harder for me to masturbate when depressed, but I still deliberately do it, because it enhances my mood.
05/08/2011
Contributor: tickle me pink tickle me pink
I've managed to masturbate when I was depressed, but usually I can't get myself to. I notice that the depression is only eased for a few minutes, though, so it's not much help in the long run.
05/09/2011
Contributor: SexyLilPixi SexyLilPixi
Okay, the poll results are making me laugh due to the "I'm a guy and I find I can't masturbate when I'm depressed" being completely empty.

So, I guess P was right about that one.
05/10/2011