Is Bigger Really Better? A Question For Other Females

Contributor: DELETED DELETED
Ok, all I hear from my girlfriend is how big her husband is and how great he is in bed with his monster cock..I've only been with a few guys who were probably about normal size down there..So what's the deal? Is sex better if a guy has a huge one? Anybody had some experience or lucky enough to be married to someone who is well endowed?? Details please...want to know what I have been missing!
If it is that good, I need to meet someone like that!!
01/07/2010
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Contributor: Sir Sir
It isn't necessarily better. It depends on how you use what you have, not how big it is.
01/07/2010
Contributor: EffinSara EffinSara
I had a boyfriend with a huge cock. It was enjoyable half the time, but painful the rest. I am much happier with an average guy who is enjoyable *all* the time.
01/07/2010
Contributor: DELETED DELETED
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Originally posted by Sir
It isn't necessarily better. It depends on how you use what you have, not how big it is.
Now, that makes sense to me!! You are definitely pretty cool, dude!!
01/07/2010
Contributor: DELETED DELETED
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Originally posted by EffinSara
I had a boyfriend with a huge cock. It was enjoyable half the time, but painful the rest. I am much happier with an average guy who is enjoyable *all* the time.
Wow, my girlfriend never said anything about pain..just how good it feels all the time..Honestly, I love to give a guy head but not if he is a foot long or close to it!!
01/07/2010
Contributor: Sir Sir
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Originally posted by DELETED
Now, that makes sense to me!! You are definitely pretty cool, dude!!
HA! Thank you. I agree with what EffinSara said. Large girths and lengths need to be worked up to, but an average or a bit above can satisfy your needs for girth, length, and g-spot stimulation, again, if the person uses their genitals well. You could always try a large dildo to see if it's for you before jumping into it with a person, since that might pose for an uncomfortable situation if you end up hurting while trying to take them!
01/07/2010
Contributor: DELETED DELETED
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Originally posted by Sir
HA! Thank you. I agree with what EffinSara said. Large girths and lengths need to be worked up to, but an average or a bit above can satisfy your needs for girth, length, and g-spot stimulation, again, if the person uses their genitals well. You ... more
that's great advice...I really would love to work up to it with some real cock!! but, hey, to me, a hard cock is exciting (regardless of the size!!)
01/07/2010
Contributor: Raven Raven
Speaking strickly from my own viewpoint, it's a myth that the bigger the cock the better the sex. The best sex I have ever had has been with guys considered average. Humongous cocks may be interesting to look at, but that's it for me. Give me one that's about 5.5-7.5" in length with a girth of 5" or 6" and I'm a happy camper, and since my husband fits within these dimensions, I have all I ever want or need.

I think a lot of women will agree with me on this, truth be told. I also think that men buy into the bigger-is-better myth more than women. They put pressure on themselves and mess up their self-esteem because they think women all want and need bigger to be satisfied, but that's not true. Some maybe, but not most. The vaginal opening is very small, and an average-sized dick will easily provide enough stretching and filling to make a woman satisfied.
01/07/2010
Contributor: DELETED DELETED
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Originally posted by Raven
Speaking strickly from my own viewpoint, it's a myth that the bigger the cock the better the sex. The best sex I have ever had has been with guys considered average. Humongous cocks may be interesting to look at, but that's it for me. Give me ... more
Great info, Raven!! Thanks...I personally think about seven inches is perfect for me..for all my love holes!!
01/07/2010
Contributor: seaofneptune seaofneptune
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Originally posted by Raven
Speaking strickly from my own viewpoint, it's a myth that the bigger the cock the better the sex. The best sex I have ever had has been with guys considered average. Humongous cocks may be interesting to look at, but that's it for me. Give me ... more
My guy is average sized as well and the thing I love about him is that the more excited I can get him - the more he'll reach his "full potential" in size. He's perfect for me, I never bought into the "huge cock" mentality at all. I was smart and wanted a guy that I felt I could handle. I've even been told to watch it with the big ones because they could get painful. I'd hate for my guy to have to wear anything on themselves to prevent themselves from hurting me in anyway.

I agree with Raven that men seem to put more pressure on themselves about it. I think that is true and it's the same thing I told my boyfriend. He was afraid to let me see him naked orginally because he was afraid I would think he was "too small" and I would want to get rid of him.

Like Sir said as well, it's how well you use it.

Also, I don't think I would find it as appealing either if the guy I was giving oral to was that huge!

In the book Ride 'Em Cowgirl by Sadie Allison (I think...) she talks about sizes and how to deal with them as well. It's a great book.
01/07/2010
Contributor: DELETED DELETED
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Originally posted by seaofneptune
My guy is average sized as well and the thing I love about him is that the more excited I can get him - the more he'll reach his "full potential" in size. He's perfect for me, I never bought into the "huge cock" mentality ... more
Wow, great advice..thanks!
01/07/2010
Contributor: Raven Raven
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Originally posted by seaofneptune
My guy is average sized as well and the thing I love about him is that the more excited I can get him - the more he'll reach his "full potential" in size. He's perfect for me, I never bought into the "huge cock" mentality ... more
Yes, as you and Sir said, how you use what you have means a lot. And I'd much rather have a man with an smaller dick who wanted to bring me pleasure than one who was hung and who was only into himself.
01/07/2010
Contributor: sarahbear sarahbear
I agree with EffinSara. I've been with big guys before, and there was a large portion of the time that sex with them was just flat out painful. I very much prefer my average sized husband. His penis is just the right size for me, and he's a far more attentive lover than anyone I've ever been with. There are even times when his average sized penis is a bit too much for me to handle.

I always tell people "You aren't getting anywhere if you don't know how to drive the Titanic." when they start bragging about penis size.
01/07/2010
Contributor: DELETED DELETED
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Originally posted by Raven
Yes, as you and Sir said, how you use what you have means a lot. And I'd much rather have a man with an smaller dick who wanted to bring me pleasure than one who was hung and who was only into himself.
I so agree! I met a guy not that long ago and the first thing he started to talk about was how well hung he was! He gives me all these ass compliments and then tells me how big his dick is..(It was a blind date and I decided one evening was enough..oh and no booty for him!!)
01/07/2010
Contributor: DELETED DELETED
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Originally posted by sarahbear
I agree with EffinSara. I've been with big guys before, and there was a large portion of the time that sex with them was just flat out painful. I very much prefer my average sized husband. His penis is just the right size for me, and he's a ... more
Love that Titanic reference!! I haven't met a guy yet who has a "monster cock" but it sounds like I may not want too, either after reading all these posts!!
01/07/2010
Contributor: Raven Raven
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Originally posted by sarahbear
I agree with EffinSara. I've been with big guys before, and there was a large portion of the time that sex with them was just flat out painful. I very much prefer my average sized husband. His penis is just the right size for me, and he's a ... more
Very funny reference. When I worked for my college newspaper, a colleague and I used to say that just because you own a Nikon doesn't mean you can take a decent picture. Same thing. LOL
01/07/2010
Contributor: Miss Jane Miss Jane
Total myth. It just depends on how they use it.

My best friend is a guy, and he has.. a small dick. And he's a veritable man-whore. Apparently he does something right, because he gets laid more often than my guy friends with average or large penises (those that I know the size of, at least). I think, like some of you mentioned before, it's a psychological thing. He thinks girls want guys with bigger dicks, so he works harder to pleasure them.

So, a smaller penis can be a good thing. I'm not really sure, since I've never actually had sex with him or anyone under 'average'.. but I like 'average' and 'pretty big', and I'm not sure I could deal with 'monster'. Monster dildo, maybe - monster penis coming right at me to destroy me like Tokyo, not so much.
01/07/2010
Contributor: Envy Envy
I can't really say for guys-wise, but for toys, I like 'average' since anything too large it extremely painful. I'm glad my bf, the only man I've been with, is average. Any bigger and I wouldn't want it, lol. But I still have to be... coaxed into partner sex.... Bad past, hence just toys for me until I'm comfortable to have him join me. That and screwed up hormones as I pointed out in a past post.
01/08/2010
Contributor: DELETED DELETED
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Originally posted by Miss Jane
Total myth. It just depends on how they use it.

My best friend is a guy, and he has.. a small dick. And he's a veritable man-whore. Apparently he does something right, because he gets laid more often than my guy friends with average or ... more
You are too funny!! Thanks for the info!! I do like "pretty big" cocks too!!
01/08/2010
Contributor: Red Red
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Originally posted by DELETED
Ok, all I hear from my girlfriend is how big her husband is and how great he is in bed with his monster cock..I've only been with a few guys who were probably about normal size down there..So what's the deal? Is sex better if a guy has a huge ... more
So here's the thing. There are different sized penises, and there are different sized vaginas. The Kama sutra splits them into three categories each (and gives them silly names like dear and elephant).

What's my point? If your sizes approximately match up, then that is awesome. If a guy with a big dick meets a girl with a small vagina - its gonna be potentially painful and certainly challenging. Likewise, if a woman with a big vagina gets a guy with a small dick....well, she's possibly going to feel like it's not quite enough. Of course, external to all this is the fact that sex skills are really the most important factor in how much pleasure a partner derives from your bits.

So, in short, bigger isn't always better. It depends on *your* size.
01/08/2010
Contributor: DELETED DELETED
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Originally posted by Red
So here's the thing. There are different sized penises, and there are different sized vaginas. The Kama sutra splits them into three categories each (and gives them silly names like dear and elephant).

What's my point? If your ... more
thanks!! That's why it is so much easier making love with another woman
01/08/2010
Contributor: Liz2 Liz2
Following up on Red; it all depends on how well you use what you have. On guys with huge cocks, it would be a problem for Deep Throat, for me anyway and probably overall for my cervix as well.
01/08/2010
Contributor: Owl Identified Owl Identified
I have a small vagina but I'm still a total size queen. Even though it's painful I like it much more than small or average size. The thing is that when it comes to solo play I won't necessarily always reach for a big toy; it's more of a mental thing when it comes to playing with other people.
01/08/2010
Contributor: Chilipepper Chilipepper
The trouble is when they can knock an ovary. NOT pleasant; in fact, bloody awful.
01/08/2010
Contributor: Backseat Boohoo Backseat Boohoo
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Originally posted by Red
So here's the thing. There are different sized penises, and there are different sized vaginas. The Kama sutra splits them into three categories each (and gives them silly names like dear and elephant).

What's my point? If your ... more
This is how I feel. Everybody is different, and everybody likes different things.

I've had guys of all shapes and sizes, and in terms of JUST the penis, I actually preferred the guys who were a little below average. I have issues with painful penetration, and I'm relatively tiny, so a smaller dick just works better for me.

In terms of actual SEX, that has nothing to do with the dick and everything to do with the guy. Saying a man will be great in bed just because he has a big dick is like saying a woman will be great in bed just because she has big tits. It doesn't work that way! Actually, some of the best sex I had with a man was with a guy who was REALLY big...he was a great lover, but his penis was kinda OUCH.
01/09/2010
Contributor: Bellastorme Bellastorme
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Originally posted by DELETED
Ok, all I hear from my girlfriend is how big her husband is and how great he is in bed with his monster cock..I've only been with a few guys who were probably about normal size down there..So what's the deal? Is sex better if a guy has a huge ... more
I think if it is on the extreme (huge or tiny) it makes a difference but if its not, then it really don't matter size can not help at all if he just plane sucks in the sack.
01/18/2010
Contributor: sex-kitten1511 sex-kitten1511
My ex's penis is a bit bigger than my current boyfriend's, but my boyfriend's one gives me so much pleasure whereas with my ex i only felt pain.
01/21/2010
Contributor: SexyTigerX SexyTigerX
I've had a lot of bigger cocks and smaller. The thing is do they know how to use it. That's what I would like to know. It dosen't matter the size if they can take you to wonderful orgasms in the land of ecstasy.
01/21/2010
Contributor: Angel deSanguine Angel deSanguine
My husband is well endowed but I don't think that is what makes him better. I have ex's that also had larger cocks that were not nearly as pleasurable because they were less attentive and sex hurt at times. He is aware that he is larger and, as such, is courteous and attentive enough to make sure I am sufficiently lubed up, be it natural or from a bottle, before he ventures in. It's because of his skill as a lover and his attentiveness that make him the best I've had, not the size of his cock.
01/23/2010
Contributor: ordinaryak ordinaryak
I have only been with one person and he is little over average. sometimes sex can still be painful i am a small women and he has actually ripped me before and i got an infection.
anyways we have been together 5 years having sex for 4 and we still need to be carful, our foreplay usually lasts about an hour or so and we always keep lube on hand. i know sometiems it can be frtrating for him when he just wants to go and its also frustrating for me sometiems too when i just want to go but am to afraid it will hurt. our sex life is pretty good though we have both learned to slow things down and i am having very wonderful orgasms becuase of it.
02/15/2010