How much of your sex is vanilla?

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underHim

I find that it is very rare that my husband and I have "vanilla" sex anymore, how much of your sex is "vanilla" (define vanilla for yourself, everyone has their own definition)

Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):

I have never had vanilla sex

3 (6%)

I cant remember the last time I had vanilla sex

3 (6%)

I rarely have vanilla sex

9 (19%)

I sometimes have vanilla sex

23 (48%)

We only have vanilla sex

7 (15%)

Other

3 (6%)

Total votes: 48

Poll is closed

03/05/2012

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Nazaress

I voted "Other" because we have sex almost always. It's more than "sometimes" but less than "always". I wish we had more varied sex but at the rate we've been having sex, I'm just happy to have it at all.

03/05/2012

Beck

My partner is pretty Vanilla I have tired to bring him out of his shell, but the most he goes is slapping my ass. I am still working on it though.

03/06/2012

unfulfilled

My husband is pretty vanilla, but I'm TRYING!

03/06/2012

wildorchid

My guy is awesome at bringing variety and spice to our play. He was the one who actually brought up toys, not me. He can also get pretty creative. The fact that he i so open, but that I can also trust him makes me less vanilla as well. Absolutely love him.

03/06/2012

EastCoast36

My personal definition of "vanilla" sex for us is straight to bed naked (or wearing nothing suggestive), foreplay with cuddling and kissing, short exchanges of oral sex, and primarily (but not exclusively) the missionary position until each of us orgasm.

My wife is quite vanilla, but I'm fine with it. She is open to my more playful sex, even if she rarely suggests it. Most of the time our sex is vanilla, it's great, and it feels even more exhilarating when we get a little wilder together.

03/06/2012

Jul!a

I also voted other for similar reasons as Nazaress. We have it more often than never, but less often than sometimes. It's more of an on occasion thing.

03/06/2012

richsam

Quote:

Originally posted by underHim

I find that it is very rare that my husband and I have "vanilla" sex anymore, how much of your sex is "vanilla" (define vanilla for yourself, everyone has their own definition)

I have never had vanilla sex

03/06/2012

PolyLove

My partner and I have just found our "kink," so it has been a while since we have had "vanilla" sex, and when we do, it usually ends in kinky stuffs.

03/06/2012

Greenleaf

Pretty spontaneous and random, when we can actually get time together.

03/06/2012

married with children

maybe about 1/2

03/08/2012

LLmama

Our sex is "vanilla" most of the time! :-/

03/09/2012

Bignuf

Quote:

Originally posted by underHim

I find that it is very rare that my husband and I have "vanilla" sex anymore, how much of your sex is "vanilla" (define vanilla for yourself, everyone has their own definition)

You know this is a GREAT, but hard question to answer. For us, Vanilla Sex is probably someone elses TUTI-Fruity, with chocolate sauce and multi colored sprinkles on top.

What WE consider "average, plain" lovemaking, is "more" then what we would have consider it years ago.

It is all perception and "set points" and that is a HUGE difference with some people. There ARE...honest...folks that STILL think that doing oral on their partner is something "exotic". For us, it is COMPLETE Vanilla.

Makes this a hard question to answer.....but VERY thought provoking, to be sure.

03/09/2012

Bignuf

Quote:

Originally posted by PolyLove

My partner and I have just found our "kink," so it has been a while since we have had "vanilla" sex, and when we do, it usually ends in kinky stuffs.

But honestly, if your KINK is now STANDARD in your relationship....is that not now YOUR "definition" of Vanilla Sex??

03/09/2012

Bignuf

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Originally posted by richsam

I have never had vanilla sex

Yah...we always have to put hot fudge, whip cream and nuts on it, at the very minimum.

03/09/2012

AHubbyof2SexualMinds

We have a good bit on vanilla with some spice thrown in here and there.

03/09/2012

dbm6907

My partner is pretty vanilla. I like to call him "old fashioned" though. He is more close-minded than me when it comes to sex. He's slowly starting to be more open though

03/09/2012

Ansley

We never have vanilla sex. Our foreplay isn't even close to being vanilla and we switch positions at least twice, if not more, once we get down to the brass tacks of the matter. Not to mention all of the talking, role-playing...after being together for as many years as we have it was a natural progression.

03/09/2012

padmeamidala

Quote:

Originally posted by underHim

I find that it is very rare that my husband and I have "vanilla" sex anymore, how much of your sex is "vanilla" (define vanilla for yourself, everyone has their own definition)

Sometimes I have vanilla sex with my Master. Our quickies are almost always vanilla because there is no time for kink. That's ok though. We tend to play on our date nights or when we have the time for it.

03/09/2012

Positwist

I tend to define vanilla sex as the lazy sort of sex we have first thing in the morning--no toys, no acrobatics, nothing fancy, just sleepy morning missionary/spooning/et c sex.

03/09/2012

fredacarl

Quote:

Originally posted by underHim

I find that it is very rare that my husband and I have "vanilla" sex anymore, how much of your sex is "vanilla" (define vanilla for yourself, everyone has their own definition)

I have never had vanilla sex

03/09/2012

LLmama

I guess the more I read it all depends on your definition. I'm gonna take back my comment that most of our sex is "vanilla" lol

03/09/2012

Iron Man

I can't really remember the last time my sex was vanilla...

03/09/2012

mistressg

I tend to not. But with my current partner, that seems to be all we do.

03/10/2012

amandaco2011

Some vanilla and some not so vanilla.

06/30/2012

carenautilus

Mostly kinky for me, but every once and a while I just want vanilla.

06/30/2012

~LaUr3n~

Very rarely.

06/30/2012

HannahPanda

Not often at all.

06/30/2012

Sinfully

Sometimes. It varies on who I hook up with. I don't currently have a steady man so I never know what I'm getting into.

06/30/2012

momoxd11

Quote:

Originally posted by underHim

I find that it is very rare that my husband and I have "vanilla" sex anymore, how much of your sex is "vanilla" (define vanilla for yourself, everyone has their own definition)

what is vanilla?

07/02/2012

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Unique posters: 28

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