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Men's Opinion of Women Who Masturbate

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Contributor: Hannah Savage Hannah Savage
For men I think it's a pretty universal assumption in our culture that they partake in masturbation, but what do men think about women who masturbate? What about those that watch porn? What about women who have sex toys--and those that don't? Does their frequency of masturbation change your opinion?

I realize this may be a rather biased forum to ask this on, but it seems I have been able to expect pretty honest answers from all of you EF-ers.

Please, feel free to elaborate! Does it make a difference if this is a person you're in a relationship? If you've known them for a long time, or only been on a few dates?

(Of course, everyone may vote, but I am more curious as to the opinion of the partners of a woman, male or female)
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
I find it attractive, regardless of frequency
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83  (98%)
I find it attractive, if only done occasionally
Yoda
1  (1%)
I do not care either way
I do not find it attractive
I feel like elaborating on this further in the area below...
hornypoet69
1  (1%)
Total votes: 85
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11/19/2010
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Contributor: ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
I just wish the wife did it more, with or without me. I honestly can say I only know of two times the wife did it when I was not there.
11/19/2010
Contributor: Avant-garde Avant-garde
Although I voted for the first one I would be fine with a girls sexuality pretty much regardless of what it is as long as she respects and understands mine.
11/20/2010
Contributor: Envy Envy
Voting for my bf here. He tells me he wishes he could watch me masturbate, use toys on me, etc. (We live in different states.) It's a turn on to him, me having and using toys and such, it doesn't bother him. In fact when we first met I was against them, but he actually wanted me to try them to see if I could become less of a prude and actually have my first orgasm, which I did. He loves to see the new things I get and asks how I like my toys and all, too.
11/20/2010
Contributor: Taylor Taylor
My boyfriend says he gets very turned on when I talk about masturbating. He says he wants to watch, but I've been a little shy about that so far. He definitely gets excited to try new things and to have each of us try new toys and things. His encouragement has definitely opened my eyes to some new things.

My last BF I had seemed to get pretty jealous of my vibrator. I think he was insecure and was worried that I would like the vibrator more than him. He was pretty close minded about sex in general though.
11/20/2010
Contributor: Throwingawaysoon Throwingawaysoon
I love it. My favorite thing is to have my wife handcuff/restrain me, and please herself. We will also watch porn together when we are in the mood for trying something new. Thats where we get some of our best ideas
11/22/2010
Contributor: Vaccinium Vaccinium
I think it's great. Frankly, I wish my wife would do it other than when we are engaged in foreplay or sex.

The only way I wouldn't like it is if she preferred it to having sex. Of course, that would be indicative of a more significant issue, and masturbation wouldn't be the culprit in and of itself.
01/13/2011
Contributor: xgreatlovex xgreatlovex
My boyfriend likes it most when I play with myself while we are having sex, though i think hes a bit intimidated by the toys.
01/13/2011
Contributor: Eliza Eliza
I'm not positive that a lot of men on this site would have problems with women masturbating, but I'm sure there would be more hesitation in groups of men found elsewhere.
01/13/2011
Contributor: Yoda Yoda
I had issues with it when I was younger. I felt like my wife had her own private world that I wasn't allowed to be involved in. She was surprisingly sympathetic. After a while I realized that I wasn't being fair, or as trusting as I should be. Needless to say, I've now changed my attitude towards it, and all is well. Actually, I find it kind of sexy.
01/13/2011
Contributor: moonch1ld moonch1ld
It's such a turn on to watch and also nice to know that a partner does it as often as me (or more so). I'm not embarrassed about masturbating but do feel a lot more comfortable talking about it if my partner does it as well.
01/23/2011
Contributor: leatherlover leatherlover
From the frequency that my wife tells me she masturbates, I wish she would almost do it a little more often. Occasionally she does it when I go grab a toy/lube/etc, and it is very hot.
01/23/2011
Contributor: bobowaxer bobowaxer
I love it. It just conveys a high sex drive and comfort level to me.
03/12/2011
Contributor: cobiffle cobiffle
I like it, just as long is its not always that with toys n rarely with me
03/12/2011
Contributor: lnf77 lnf77
I love it!
03/12/2011
Contributor: gladiola gladiola
According to the men I've been with, none of them have a problem with it at all, and actually love hearing about my solo sessions and even wish they could watch
03/13/2011
Contributor: gladiola gladiola
Quote:
Originally posted by Throwingawaysoon
I love it. My favorite thing is to have my wife handcuff/restrain me, and please herself. We will also watch porn together when we are in the mood for trying something new. Thats where we get some of our best ideas
"My favorite thing is to have my wife handcuff/restrain me, and please herself." >> This sounds awesome! Must try it sometime.
03/13/2011
Contributor: Checkmate Checkmate
Love to watch my wife masturbate, and am turned on knowing that she also masturbates by herself on occasion.
03/13/2011
Contributor: Istanbull Istanbull
Quote:
Originally posted by Hannah Savage
For men I think it's a pretty universal assumption in our culture that they partake in masturbation, but what do men think about women who masturbate? What about those that watch porn? What about women who have sex toys--and those that don't? ... more
So long as she's not shooting me down and using a vibe, how is it a bad thing?
03/14/2011
Contributor: BadgersRose BadgersRose
My partner doesn't mind me masturbating in the least and finds it erotic in fact.
04/15/2011
Contributor: newfoundlust newfoundlust
Quote:
Originally posted by Hannah Savage
For men I think it's a pretty universal assumption in our culture that they partake in masturbation, but what do men think about women who masturbate? What about those that watch porn? What about women who have sex toys--and those that don't? ... more
As a man there is nothing more beautiful or erotic than watching my wife pleasure herself. It truly excites me like nothing else. This is true whether she is using a toy, her hands or reading/watching porn. It gets me hard.
04/21/2011
Contributor: Cream in the Cupcake Cream in the Cupcake
my boyfriend cant get enough of watching
04/28/2011
Contributor: Sex'и'Violence Sex'и'Violence
I absolutely love it when women masturbate. It's a huge turn on to know that she will take the initiative to get herself off. It's also nice because frequent masturbation will increase a woman's libido.
05/16/2011
Contributor: newlady newlady
Quote:
Originally posted by newfoundlust
As a man there is nothing more beautiful or erotic than watching my wife pleasure herself. It truly excites me like nothing else. This is true whether she is using a toy, her hands or reading/watching porn. It gets me hard.
I asked my hubby.
This is about what he said too!
It's an instant turn on for him.
05/30/2011
Contributor: Stinkytofu10 Stinkytofu10
I love it when women masturbate, and it is a big turn-on for me to watch.
Sometimes when my GF wants to play with a toy I ask her nicely, "Can I watch?"
12/14/2011
Contributor: averageguyextrodinarypleasure averageguyextrodinarypleasure
I think it's a turn on
12/14/2011
Contributor: Girly Girl Girly Girl
cool
12/14/2011
Contributor: Darklyvan Darklyvan
Quote:
Originally posted by Hannah Savage
For men I think it's a pretty universal assumption in our culture that they partake in masturbation, but what do men think about women who masturbate? What about those that watch porn? What about women who have sex toys--and those that don't? ... more
Sometimes I wish my girl would do it for me, but she is shy about that
12/14/2011
Contributor: Jammin14580 Jammin14580
Quote:
Originally posted by Hannah Savage
For men I think it's a pretty universal assumption in our culture that they partake in masturbation, but what do men think about women who masturbate? What about those that watch porn? What about women who have sex toys--and those that don't? ... more
I LOVE hearing about it
12/14/2011
Contributor: JoeCanadian JoeCanadian
Quote:
Originally posted by Hannah Savage
For men I think it's a pretty universal assumption in our culture that they partake in masturbation, but what do men think about women who masturbate? What about those that watch porn? What about women who have sex toys--and those that don't? ... more
One of the biggest turns ons there is.
12/29/2011