The New Intimacy

Nudity with your significant other, good or bad?

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Contributor: Petite Valentine Petite Valentine
A few days ago when the subject of our being naked (other than during sex) came up, my husband told me, "being naked is becoming ordinary, it's no longer special," which he considers a bad thing. My opinion is that I'm comfortable with him, and that I enjoy the freedom of being in my natural state.

Then I started reading, La Seduction: How the French Play the Game of Life and came across this interesting quote:

"Nudity is extremely violent to gaze at... I would never walk naked in front of my husband. Never, never, never... I'm nude when I'm alone, and I'm nude when I'm in his arms, but never in a sort of casually stupid gesture of the morning or whatever. Never." – Arielle Dombasle, actress, singer, performer

Bear in mind this is a woman who has performed, top-less, at the Crazy Horse in Paris. She went on to say:

"You shouldn't {be naked in front of your husband}. Otherwise he won't buy you lunch."

In other words, why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free? I'm familiar with the saying, but I always judged it as something that applied to non-committed relationships, not marriage (or civil-unions, or any other long-term commitment). Now I'm beginning to wonder...

What about you and your significant other — outside of sex are you naked in front of each other?
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
No, we're not comfortable being naked unless we're having sex.
No, we are comfortable being naked, but feel it's inappropriate outside of intimate moments.
12  (8%)
No, we are comfortable being naked, but 'saving' it adds spice to our intimate time.
2  (1%)
No, I'll explain why below.
4  (3%)
Yes, we're comfortable being naked and spend most of our time this way.
77  (52%)
Yes, we're comfortable being naked but we try to limit it.
33  (22%)
Yes, out of necessity (one bathroom, small apartment, etc.)
2  (1%)
Yes, I'll explain why below.
19  (13%)
Total votes: 149
Poll is closed
06/26/2011
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Contributor: ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
For us the problem is we rarely have the opportunity out side of the bedroom due to kids. But even before them it never happened much. I guess we just saved it for sexual activity's.
06/26/2011
Contributor: Sinfully Sinfully
I am naked a good majority of the time. haha.
06/26/2011
Contributor: MaryExy MaryExy
Personally, I don't think I'd walk around naked if I were alone in the house, let alone with a partner in the house. I like clothes to keep me warm, though.

I like being able to associate nudity with sex. If a partner and I walked around naked all the time, I think I would get tired of always subconsciously saying, "Naked is supposed to mean sex!" Plus, being naked all the time would remove the thrill of lingerie to me. I mean, why cover it up with clothing (regardless of how skimpy it is) when he normally sees everything uncovered? That feels wrong to me...
06/26/2011
Contributor: Kdlips Kdlips
it's ok wit me
06/26/2011
Contributor: robertk2380 robertk2380
With the warmer weather I'll typically walk around naked in the morning, or with a T shirt and nothing below. My wife likes to see me this way, which is a HUGE boost for my ego after all these years. She on the other hand is not as comfortable with her body, so she's less likely to go that way, but will do it when she's alone in the house. I like the freedom of being sans clothing.
06/26/2011
Contributor: Wondermom Wondermom
"You shouldn't [be naked in front of your husband]. Otherwise he won't buy you lunch."

uhhh If my husband didn't buy me lunch I'd just pay for it myself out of our joint account and give him the evil eye.

We are frequently naked in front of each other and I see nothing wrong with it.
06/26/2011
Contributor: Ivy Wilde Ivy Wilde
I like that my husband and I are comfortable enough with each other to be casually nude in front of each other. We do not run around naked all the time, but when getting ready for a shower or looking for clothes after a shower, we will walk around the house nude. Also, when we've been working outside and come in all sweaty and hot, we will take off our clothes and bask naked in the air conditioning until we cool down enough to want to wear clothes again.

I do not think that seeing each other nude lessens our sexual attraction to each other. I do not really associate nudity with sex. I think wearing attractive lingerie is much more of a sexual act than complete nudity.
06/26/2011
Contributor: ~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
We have naked days and hours for run which always leads to play
06/26/2011
Contributor: Screen Door Screen Door
I hate being naked with my partner! It's just fun! Over the time he has made me 150% more comfortable with who I am and how my body is. I can't wait until we finally can fit naked camping into our schedules. It will be great just to spend a couple days together completely naked ;D
06/26/2011
Contributor: lovemuscle n cookie lovemuscle n cookie
While its difficult for us to have "naked time" as we have two young kids, we do do it occasionally.
06/26/2011
Contributor: daniel and frances daniel and frances
Quote:
Originally posted by Petite Valentine
A few days ago when the subject of our being naked (other than during sex) came up, my husband told me, "being naked is becoming ordinary, it's no longer special," which he considers a bad thing. My opinion is that I'm comfortable ... more
I wouldn't say we try to limit it or do it on purpose. Just the way we are.
06/26/2011
Contributor: Rossie Rossie
We have a teenage son in the house, we can only be naked in our own bedroom and bathroom.
06/26/2011
Contributor: liilii080 liilii080
After shower and approving outfits for a night out, we are also naked.
06/26/2011
Contributor: ToyBoy ToyBoy
I don't like to just hang out naked. I prefer both of us to be in underwear of some kind if we aren't having sex or changing, but it doesn't make me uncomfortable to be naked.
06/26/2011
Contributor: LostBoy988 LostBoy988
No reason not to be comfortable with their body or your own.
06/26/2011
Contributor: DexterStratton DexterStratton
To me, it's all about her comfort level. Personally, I could look at her naked 24/7.
06/26/2011
Contributor: married with children married with children
we limit it because we have young kids at home. If we did not, I would want to see her naked all the time.
06/27/2011
Contributor: Adriana Ravenlust Adriana Ravenlust
I wouldn't want to see anyone naked alll the time. A little mystery is a good thing.
06/27/2011
Contributor: Redboxbaby Redboxbaby
We are kid-less for the next 2 weeks, so "Naked Days" are now in full swing! YAY!

My husband swears when our son leaves for college we are going to have "Naked Day" everyday. I am good with that!

As far as the quote from Arielle Dombasle goes, I say, to each their own. However, my husband says he would be "pretty mad" if I took that approach.
06/27/2011
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Yes - other. We are very comfortable being naked together - but we don't spend all day that way - nor do we avoid it. When it happens it happens.
06/27/2011
Contributor: Istanbull Istanbull
I have no issues with being naked in front of my wife. I'm a nudist at heart and home is one of the few places in the world where I'm allowed to be. I also dress in front of our kids since they play in our bedroom when I wake up and I sleep nude. I do not believe there should be any shame in nudity. I don't go out of my way to be nude in front of my family but on the same token, I am not going to teach bodily shame to my children by going out of my way to hide it. Now my wife is the opposite. She'll change in front of our children(Because they've seen her breast quite enough already from nursing) but she will hide herself from me. Her parents instilled shame into her mind and she'll never be free from it.

I admit that being naked in front of each other is "old news" but what's the problem with that? so what if he feels he'll no longer get a boner when you pass naked in front of him? Because no matter how "common" it gets, he'll still pop a woody the second you wrap your lips around his cock and start sucking.
06/27/2011
Contributor: Kindred Kindred
We are comfortable with nudity, but we limit it due to the children these days.
06/27/2011
Contributor: Jobthingy Jobthingy
When the girl child is not here, were naked all the time. He does not live with me so when he is not here, I am always naked as well. (I am naked right now)
06/27/2011
Contributor: newfoundlust newfoundlust
Quote:
Originally posted by Petite Valentine
A few days ago when the subject of our being naked (other than during sex) came up, my husband told me, "being naked is becoming ordinary, it's no longer special," which he considers a bad thing. My opinion is that I'm comfortable ... more
We can't due to having teenagers around. I personally think nudity is natural and comfortable, yet I am hardwired as a guy that nudity is arousing, I love seeing my wife nude, and that is after 25 years. I don't think that more nudity would cause that to diminish.
06/27/2011
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
My husband would love it if I walked around naked all day every day, but I'm not as comfortable with it all hanging out. He's also self conscious about his appearance as well, so he doesn't like sitting around naked either. After sex we'll lay around naked for a while, or if we're taking a weekend away we'll spend longer periods of time walking around mostly naked. Underwear is something that we'd both wear around the house a lot if we lived on our own.
06/27/2011
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
The quote said "You shouldn't [be naked in front of your husband]. Otherwise he won't buy you lunch." That's one of the most ridiculous things I've ever heard. He won't "buy you lunch?" Maybe this woman's husband is just a jerk.

I don't walk around naked much, but only because we have children (I wish that had been one of the good reasons in the poll for not doing so.)

I was raised with a lot of shame for the naked body, and overcame it around the time I started having sex. After a false start as a kid, when I had no body shame and was given a really difficult time about it by my parents. I realized the shame was bullshit, and rejected it along with a lot of my parent's persona hyper-conservative ways. (Weird, as my father has liberal politics, and is a bit of a Libertine in his sexual behavior, but tried to raise me to almost be afraid of sex. I guess that what a lot of dads do. My mother on the other hand....I truly believe she never liked sex, and didn't want me to like it either.)

My Man LOVES to see me naked, I can't get dressed for bed, even if I think he's asleep, without getting fondled. "Hey, don't bother putting that nightgown on....." We've been together decades and he loves to see me naked, as I love to see him naked..... and he still buys me lunch often.
06/27/2011
Contributor: Ms. Spice Ms. Spice
nudity itself doesn't have to be sexual. lingerie makes it sexy though
06/27/2011
Contributor: padmeamidala padmeamidala
Quote:
Originally posted by Petite Valentine
A few days ago when the subject of our being naked (other than during sex) came up, my husband told me, "being naked is becoming ordinary, it's no longer special," which he considers a bad thing. My opinion is that I'm comfortable ... more
We have to limit being naked because we have two kids. But we are both very comfortable with nudity around one another because we have been together for so long.
06/27/2011
Contributor: Ansley Ansley
I'm proud of my body and I adore looking at and touching his. It's just one more thing we do to show each other how comfortable we truly our in the relationship and with each other. I think it's a glorious thing to do as a couple and it often leads to really great, spontaneous sex.

I am hoping with my heart of hearts what this woman was trying to say is that she wants to keep some of the mystery alive.
06/27/2011