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~LaUr3n~

I read that supposedly at age 27, that is the age where most men stop spilling their sex stories.

Do you tell your friends about your sexual encounters?

Does it matter if you are single or are in a committed relationship?

What kinds of things will you not tell?

Have you had things told about you? How did it make you feel?

Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):

I am male and I tell my friends everything regardless of commitment level

I am male and I tell my friends everything, but not when I am in a committed relationship

I am male and I tell my friends almost everything regardless of commitment level

Sauceboss

I am male and I tell my friends almost everything but not when I am in a committed relationship

c0l3m4ntg4nn , newfoundlust

I am male and I tell my friends only a few things regardless of commitment level

ToyTimeTim , Sir , The Nakanas , 34 , Vaccinium , purplekidney , ac0313 , moonch1ld , Istanbull , Lucky21 , That Man from Mars , bsgs , gsfanatic

I am male and I tell my friends only a few things, but not when I am in a committed relationship

csweatc , Incendiaire , AHubbyof2SexualMinds

I am male and I tell my friends nothing-no matter what

Yoda , Kindred , jakjak , Gunsmoke , shepegsME , Passionate Pastor , OhMy! , Mr. E , Avant-garde , Viktor Vysheslav Malkin , Onanist , zracer , mm4sa , Kissaki , married with children , Lummox , slynch , angel142stx , kinksters , lanky , Illumin8 , rom323 , Yossarian , PassionateLover2 , T&A1987 , Eliyahu , Arch600 , Teaser , Mr. Tickle and Giggle , nann , Martiniman

I am female and I tell my friends everything regardless of commitment level

Madeira , Trashley , kjkitty , Ms. Spice , Sinfully , hiroshiro , idunshire , Bex1331 , Girly Juice

I am female and I tell my friends everything, but not when I am in a committed relationship

link82

I am female and I tell my friends almost everything regardless of commitment level

Coralbell , TitsMcScandal , Jobthingy , Yiggi , kelaaa33wish , Miss Anonymous , aliceinthehole , ViVix , ghalik , Chami

I am female and I tell my friends almost everything but not when I am in a committed relationship

I am female and I tell my friends only a few things regardless of commitment level

~LaUr3n~ , Darling Jen , LikeSunshineDust , Alegria , buzzvibe , PassionQT , DeliciousSurprise , AU , Pleasure Piratess , sexysweetieshan , Midway through , Mari Fanger , Waterfall , crazypao , Envy , Fanny , Love Buzz , bzzingbee , MsTryska , Tori Rebel , P'Gell , Dame Saphir , sextoygeek , OhMy! , Miss B Haven , asdfg , SydVicious , mrs.mckrakn , omgmegg , wondertoes , Kim! , LittleBoPeep , RadRach , Naughty Student , Lady Venus , Persephone Nightmare , Redboxbaby , *HisMrs* , Airekah , sbon , hjtee , MaryExy , Joie de Cherresse , Dusk , Taylor , BadassFatass , purplekidney , AMGuidroz , sexyintexas , BlueDog , dezzydezire , Ghost , Hanna , TameTemptress , kinksters , phunkyphreak , I'mNotYourToy , Pinkhare , Miss Anonymous , Angelica , Silverdrop , js250 , ellejay , toxie m , Daemonin , Anjulie , hyacinthgirl , Masokisti , Harpina is gone , SexyStuff , richsam , dbm6907 , socceras , elli , pasdechat , Nora29714 , EdenUser , bog , KinkyKatieJames

I am female and I tell my friends only a few things, but not when I am in a committed relationship

Andromeda , Selective Sensualist , academy6 , Squeaky

I am female and I tell my friends nothing-no matter what

Annemarie , Polyserena , sweet sally , seaofneptune , Hot'n'Bothered , Sera , ToyGeek , Willis2011 , bunny love , darthkitt3n , Cora Jane , redstarr681 , Eva Schwaltz , indiglo , Apirka , Gracie , Terri Strickland , pynkNymphette , pootpootpoot , Passion plum , friendswithfangs , roskat , woodsdragon , SP , oneeyedoctopus

Other

trios , NymphetamineKiss , usmcwife99 , kck , Airen Wolf , Blinker , Owl Identified , firekitten , ily , Bignuf , Kkay , ThoughtsAblaze , potstickers , [Red] , Silverdrop , Arch600

Total votes: 194 (188 voters)

Poll is closed

08/22/2010

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Darling Jen

It was hard to choose between the one I picked and the one right under it. Because commitment does change a few things. If my partner had a preference for who not to tell anything to or certain things never to share, I would care about their feelings. But to not talk about it at all would be very very hard to do.

08/22/2010

ToyTimeTim

I do not go into great detail, but I will tell of things we do. The two friends that I have, that we talk about such things, are into the same kinds of things as us and our wife's/girlfriends talk to each other about them also.

I talk about more things with the Eden community than I do with them and the wife does not mind.

08/22/2010

Yoda

I'm married, so I think it's always best to protect my wife's dignity. I mean, I'd be pretty embarrassed if she started telling her friends about me.

08/22/2010

Tuesday

Age or marital status doesn't factor into it at all. I tell close female friends everything, but only close friends.

08/22/2010

Andromeda

We talk about hook ups, but that's about it.

08/22/2010

NymphetamineKiss

I've said other, because while only my closest friends know really anything at all, I do blog about sex and sometimes that does cover us. It's relatively anonymous though - as much as the intarwebs can be.

08/22/2010

Almost all of my friends are also close to my significant other. I wouldn't tell them much as that might be kind of awkward. I did tell one female friend and one male friend some juicy details early on in my current relationship. But now, I don't feel right about that, sometimes I regret what I spilled in the past. We are pretty loyal to each other.

I will say some things here, but He gave me a fairly enthusiastic OK to that as long as I don't spill certain things, post photos of ourselves.

"supposedly at age 27, that is the age where most men stop spilling their sex stories." Where does this come from? Who are these men? My male friends and significant other don't tell sex stories. No, truly. Most of them are too embarrassed to simply say slang words for genitalia. Maybe the guys I hang out with are just weird. Yes, I suppose that is the case.

08/22/2010

Midway through

Depends on the friend and what they ask. My friend tells me every detail, but it depends on what we're talking about and referencing on whether I'll say it all or not. We pretty much know all about each others sex lives though. Then again, we're super close too.

08/22/2010

usmcwife99

I tell my very close friends anything that comes up in conversation. I dont go call them everytime after sex and tell them exactly what we did but if it comes up in coversation or fantises etc heck yeh I tell em.

08/22/2010

Annemarie

I say nothing to no one. I'm sorry, some things are meant to be kept personal and among the concerned parties.

08/22/2010

kck

I tell my FEMALE friends very little, and only when I am in a committed relationship. I tell my MALE friends nada. Let 'em wonder...

08/22/2010

Waterfall

I am female and my friends and I discuss some stuff but it depends on which friend I am talking to. I also dont discuss things that I would consider to me too private ;-)

08/23/2010

crazypao

Quote:

Originally posted by ~LaUr3n~

I usually don't bring up the sex talk with my friends, but if one of them asked "Hey do you guys ever blah blah blah" or whatever I'll talk back. I don't tell everything at all because honestly, I don't think they should know, because it is definitely something I wouldn't want to know about them.

I've had quite a few falsified things told about me. Didn't find out until about 3 or 4 years later. I just wish I would have known the rumors then so that I could set the record straight.

08/23/2010

Airen Wolf

(EF Review Program Mentor)

Quote:

Originally posted by ~LaUr3n~

I am pretty open and will answer questions about almost anything but I don't usually volunteer information regardless of my relationship status. I really have very little that I won't talk about unless it's a topic either guy has asked me not to talk about with others.
I have had Sigel say some things about our sex life that were untrue and it kinda hurt but at the same time he's never talked about me nastily. He doesn't call me his bitch or things like that.

08/23/2010

Tori Rebel

I'm pretty tight lipped when it comes to my own sex life, although I do tend to be the go-to person for sex info and advice for most people I know. I do have two female friends however, with whom I have an almost tell-all relationship, that goes both ways - and my S/O knows that and was told early on that I'll tell them anything.

08/23/2010

Gunsmoke

I've never confided sexual encounters to anyone - for me it's always been a private matter between two people. Since I've been married for 20+ years - I can't imagine who would even be interested.

08/23/2010

P'Gell

I don't go into detail with friends about what I do in my sex life. So many people are judgmental, even if they pretend they are asking for good reason. Also, most of my friends know My Man, and it really isn't their business what we do in the bedroom.

Most of my friends seem to know I know a lot about sex, but whether they think that is due to experience or education, I don't know. I'll answer questions, but rarely use our own experiences to illustrate.

A place like Eden is fairly anonymous. friendly and very Sex Positive. IMO, it's one of the best venues to 'spill the beans" as well as ask questions in a safe way.

08/23/2010

shepegsME

Women share a bit more and it's okay. For men it is very different. Why would I want my best friend thinking thoughts about my S.O. after I spilled the beans? No way!

08/23/2010

Blinker

I only have like one close girlfriend to talk about sex with. I don't talk about it with anyone else except in a joking manner, or a vague comment or something.

08/23/2010

DeliciousSurprise

Wellll...

I do tell my best friend some things, and we discuss sex, but neither of us really gets too detailed until the relationship is over.

08/24/2010

seaofneptune

To be respectful to my partner, he and I really don't talk about our sexual encounters. I feel more comfortable that way. I don't really talk to my friends because it would be awkward and I can only talk to one friend about sex related things and it's mostly about other things, she knows he and I are sexually active but that is about it.

08/24/2010

Owl Identified

I tell my friends what I feel is interesting enough to mention depending on who it is and what our established level of intimate-info-sharing is. Level of commitment isn't an issue, I won't disclose something about any partner if I think it's inappropriate to do so.

09/01/2010

mrs.mckrakn

i never really talked about my sex life. its really no one bussiness but my own. i did catch my hub telling lies ones to a girl. made me angry. why did he feel he had to impress her with lies about us...still makes me angry. makes me feel like he wanted to bump guts with this girl.

10/12/2010

Mr. E

I will gladly discuss other peoples activities, but I do not discuss anything about the specifics of my sex life with anyone...other than my wife.

Unfortunately, people can be so judgemental. I do not want business associates, neighbors or even friends and family to know of our naughty little secrets.

That is the beauty of these discussion forums, we can talk openly. We can all share our experiences and learn so much more from the considerable knowledge within this community. And if we choose, we can do it anonymously. I can keep my identity a mystery.

Now, who wants to talk about butt sex?

10/12/2010

Jobthingy

I tell them anything. I am an open book, if you ask, I will tell.

10/12/2010

Hot'n'Bothered

My lips are sealed.

And I'm pretty sure DH is the same way..

10/12/2010

Avant-garde

I tell nothing to nobody regardless of my relationship status. It is none of their business and I don't need their approval or judgmental attitudes.

10/12/2010

wondertoes

I have one friend that I am comfy sharing stories with, but not in great detail!

10/13/2010

Kim!

I don't have many people I will happily share the details of my sex life with. I really don't like to share much if the person knows both of us rather well, that's sort of awkward depending on the details.

10/13/2010

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