What are your thoughts on sex parties?

Contributor: celibacysucks celibacysucks
Where there are multiple partners, partner switching, etc
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
I believe they are morally wrong
8
Not morally wrong, but not something anyone should do
4
Eh, it's fine as long as everyone is consenting, but I would never do it
48
I've thought about doing it
29
I've done it and I hated it
1
I've done it and I didn't hate it but I wouldn't do it again
2
I've done it and it was a lot of fun!
12
I join them as often as possible!
7
Total votes: 111 (95 voters)
Poll is closed
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Contributor: Kayla Kayla
There's such a wide variety with the term "sex parties". Do you mean swinging parties? BDSM parties with intercourse? BDSM parties with no intercourse? Or a private party held by a person with invite-only guests?
11/23/2010
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
Quote:
Originally posted by celibacysucks
Where there are multiple partners, partner switching, etc
I don't believe they are morally wrong, I have thought about it and have actually hosted them. With a group of people who can prove they are clean, use proper safer sex practices and are consenting it can be amazing.

I prefer more intimate parties of three or so but larger ones are just as fun, just less intimate.
11/23/2010
Contributor: jb1walker jb1walker
Quote:
Originally posted by celibacysucks
Where there are multiple partners, partner switching, etc
Prob not so bad if you're single, if it's something you are thinking of doing while in a relationship, that's just nuts, been there.
11/23/2010
Contributor: joja joja
I used to be really interested in this kind of thing (swinging, play parties, etc.), but I have come to the conclusion that it would be way too much pressure for me. I tend to get nervous having sex anywhere I'm not completely comfortable and familiar with
11/23/2010
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
Quote:
Originally posted by jb1walker
Prob not so bad if you're single, if it's something you are thinking of doing while in a relationship, that's just nuts, been there.
Ummm so have I and I did it while IN a relationship, it's not nuts just because some relationships can't handle the changes that occur when we experiment with different experiences.

Single people are no more able to deal with group sex than a couple (or triple, quad, or pod!) I have found that with my partner(s) it's actually easier to deal with the intense emotions that sex play with many people brings. The problem with being in a relationship and trying sex parties is most people are unaware of the intensity of the emotions and the deceptive things our minds will try to convince us of. Once again people are no more able to process these thoughts and feelings before a relationship, either you have strategies and healthy thinking before the relationship or you develop it during....or everything goes nuclear. To be honest, as far as I've seen, most relationships that end due to "sex parties" had many problems before opening it to the intensity of sexual experiences beyond monogamy.

I guess what I'm trying to say is, you need to be aware of the fact that having group sex in any fashion is more than likely going to bring up intense emotions whether you are single or in a relationship.
11/23/2010
Contributor: Maiden Maiden
I have thought about it, but am just too scared of diseases to participate with any one but my partner. I like to watch though and be watched, so these parties can still be fun for me in the proper settings. A members only type of club with safety guidelines and lots of people is some how more comfortable to me than a more intimate setting like a group of 4 or six friends in some one's home. I'd rather be surrounded my acquaintances then have the experience with close friends or people we see in other situations. That is not to say I look down upon any one who does enjoy swapping and such. I think as long as every one is safe and consenting, to each there own. I just know that my current relationship couldn't handle any chance of intimacy with anyone out side of our relationship. I think in my case this is something that will remain in my fantasy category, but who's to say how I will feel a year from now?
11/25/2010
Contributor: pinkzombie pinkzombie
Quote:
Originally posted by celibacysucks
Where there are multiple partners, partner switching, etc
sounds fun, but not something ive done before.
11/25/2010
Contributor: PussyGalore PussyGalore
Eh, not really my cup of tea but I have considered it at least once.
11/25/2010
Contributor: Shellz31 Shellz31
I've thought about it but I'd have to know everyone is clean! I think it would be fun
11/25/2010
Contributor: LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
Ehh nice for them, but I wouldn't really give it a shot.
11/28/2010
Contributor: LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
Quote:
Originally posted by celibacysucks
Where there are multiple partners, partner switching, etc
Never done it, but if its someone elses kink, then go right ahead
12/21/2010
Contributor: Dusk Dusk
I voted on the assumption that this would be a party where everyone was having sex with each other?

If not, it would really depend on the type. I attend BDSM play parties with no problem, but I currently play with only my relationship partner.
12/21/2010
Contributor: UnknownGirl UnknownGirl
Sounds intriguing. I'd try it at least once (with hubby in tow, of course!).
12/21/2010
Contributor: rdytogo rdytogo
Not something I would actually do, but sounds like a nice fantasy.
12/21/2010
Contributor: sbon sbon
It's not something I would do because I'm a pretty jealous, monogamous person, but if other people have them and enjoy them, that's perfectly fine for me. People should do what satisfies them and makes them happy.
12/22/2010
Contributor: Envy Envy
No thanks. I'd feel very guilty and just not so great after. I prefer to keep with my bf and keep it all private.
12/22/2010
Contributor: PassionQT PassionQT
I've been invited to some and always declined. They just aren't my thing, even if I'm only have sex with my partner.
12/22/2010
Contributor: Beaners Beaners
My boyfriend wants to try this. I think it's something to keep in the fantasy world.
12/24/2010
Contributor: Anne Ardeur Anne Ardeur
It's an interesting idea, but I don't know that I ever would.
12/24/2010
Contributor: Bunnycups Bunnycups
It's not my thing. I'm a pretty private person and I only want to have meaningful sex.
12/24/2010
Contributor: Naughty Student Naughty Student
Quote:
Originally posted by Airen Wolf
I don't believe they are morally wrong, I have thought about it and have actually hosted them. With a group of people who can prove they are clean, use proper safer sex practices and are consenting it can be amazing.

I prefer more intimate ... more
As long as it is safe I am all for it but I wouldn't attend one.
01/25/2011
Contributor: sweet seduction sweet seduction
I've never tried it but whose to say I wouldn't
01/25/2011
Contributor: Vaccinium Vaccinium
If my wife wanted to give it a shot, I'd be willing, but I can't say I have all that much interest otherwise.
01/26/2011
Contributor: namelesschaos namelesschaos
They sound intriguing but i have never done it. Maybe someday, I certainly don't find anything morally wrong with them.
01/26/2011
Contributor: Josh aka FootMan Josh aka FootMan
Sex parties not really my thing...

Done some swinging in the past. When the right people are involved, and everyone is on the same page, it can be awesome. Or it can suck horribly.

Lol.

Threesomes are more up our alley we've decided on - though Jes has yet to experience this but willing.

Switching it up a bit, if the relationship is strong enough for that, can be very good for a relationship. It's definitely not for everybody.
01/26/2011
Contributor: MattBryant MattBryant
i wouldn't mind.not something i think me and my partner would go out of the way for, but i think it'd be fun. as long as everyone's clean and everyone knows what's okay and whats not. just finding people you know and trust who would be open to it is the hard part.
01/26/2011
Contributor: Joie de Cherresse Joie de Cherresse
My husband and I have attended a few of these parties and even hosted one. It was a lot of fun. We didn't swap partners but the others did. We stayed enjoying each other and enjoyed watching the others. You just have to have boundaries set so no one feels uncomfortable.
01/26/2011
Contributor: tigerkate tigerkate
I haven't, and I don't really think I would. Probably because I'd feel self-conscious. (My answer to a lot of things, I'm realizing.) I'd have to work on that..
01/26/2011
Contributor: GoodMorningSunshine GoodMorningSunshine
Quote:
Originally posted by celibacysucks
Where there are multiple partners, partner switching, etc
I love the idea of swinging, multiple partners, and all that. My boyfriend... not so much. I'm trying to convince him to at least give it a try, but we both draw the line in far different places, so as much as I'd love to be a part of one, it's looking like that's not happening any time soon haha
02/03/2011