What do you think of meaningless sex?

Contributor: Madeira Madeira
Personally I have casual sex, happily and enthusiastically, but I never have meaningless sex. I think that sex that doesn't lead to a romantic relationship is just fine, but I'm deeply opposed to having sex that anyone thinks is meaningless, because meaningless sex seems to me, ungrateful. I think that if you think having sex is meaningless then you're not properly appreciating sex (like we don't properly appreciate so many things) I think that when we have sex we need to for a moment think "This feels great, I'm really grateful to be having this experience right now" the same way when we eat a candy bar we should think "this tastes great, I'm really grateful to be enjoying this candy bar."
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
I disapprove of casual sex in general
Passionate Pastor , LittleBoPeep , kck , puffkix , Illumin8 , Stagger13
6  (14%)
I disapprove of meaningless sex but not casual sex
CollegeDude , Madeira , Sex'и'Violence , Stinkytofu10 , Moein
5  (12%)
I don't really care
Jenniae09 , Sir , mrs.mckrakn , gone77 , Ms. Spice
5  (12%)
I'm fine with both meaningless and casual sex
Coralbell , Owl Identified , Waterfall , Kindred , Forever17 , superslinky , CreamySweet , reknit , shinypinkstars , JackRaiden
10  (23%)
Other (explain)
Avant-garde , iceman681 , Gunsmoke , Airen Wolf , Tori Rebel , Yoda , Alicia , sexysweetieshan , RadRach , Viktor Vysheslav Malkin , DeliciousSurprise , ~LaUr3n~ , SexyySarah , potstickers , Breas , unfulfilled , Apirka
17  (40%)
Total votes: 43
Poll is closed
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Contributor: El-Jaro El-Jaro
meaningless
09/23/2010
Contributor: Madeira Madeira
Quote:
Originally posted by El-Jaro
meaningless
I think there is a slight difference, and it's a potentially interesting difference to discuss.
09/23/2010
Contributor: Avant-garde Avant-garde
When you said meaningless sex it made me think sex that nihilists have, lol.
09/23/2010
Contributor: Coralbell Coralbell
I've never actually had sex that I consider meaningless, but I wouldn't say I "disapprove" of it. That sounds like I would judge other people for doing it, and I wouldn't.
09/23/2010
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
I have not had sex that I consider meaningless - so I'm not sure how to answer the question.
09/23/2010
Contributor: iceman681 iceman681
i cant detach the idea between love and sex. for me they go hand in hand. i have had sex without being in love but with the idea that things would go farther. Mostly because i consider my self a perfectionist. I have to be the best, not that id go nuts if i wasn't. i just believe every girl should enjoy it. Well all that and i just plain hate major changes. which is why im married now. i found a girl who loves everything about me, and has made me so happy.

Sorry rambled on there. to answer your question, i think if you can have meaningless sex (i mean truly no feelings)then you really don't have any respect for yourself or others.
09/23/2010
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
Quote:
Originally posted by Madeira
Personally I have casual sex, happily and enthusiastically, but I never have meaningless sex. I think that sex that doesn't lead to a romantic relationship is just fine, but I'm deeply opposed to having sex that anyone thinks is meaningless, ... more
I don't disapprove of casual or meaningless sex but I don't like doing either. I have enough issues with self esteem that I don't do naked and intimate contact with people I don't trust implicitly...and that takes time and getting to know the person.
09/24/2010
Contributor: Kim! Kim!
Quote:
Originally posted by El-Jaro
meaningless
You stole my answer!
09/24/2010
Contributor: Tori Rebel Tori Rebel
I have no issues with any kind of sex as long as it's done consensually and safely.
09/24/2010
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
I don't disapprove of other people having "meaningless" sex, if there is such a thing.

All my sexual encounters have had meaning of some sort. What other people do is their own business, and it doesn't effect me.

So, none of the answers on the poll really reflected how I feel about it.
09/24/2010
Contributor: Persephone's Addiction Persephone's Addiction
Quote:
Originally posted by Avant-garde
When you said meaningless sex it made me think sex that nihilists have, lol.
that is awesome. lol
09/24/2010
Contributor: Chilipepper Chilipepper
"Meaningless"

"Sex"

"Meaningless sex"

I know what the words mean separately, but I don't understand them together. Is this like sleep sex or laying back and thinking of England? Is it because I get it so rarely that I can't understand this definition?

Does not compute.
09/24/2010
Contributor: Yoda Yoda
While sex can definitely be casual, I don't think that it can be meaningless. There are simply too many emotions involved. Even if sex feels meaningless and disconnected from romantic meaning and consequence, there is always some sort of emotional or mental ramification to consider.
09/25/2010
Contributor: Alicia Alicia
I don't think that I've ever really heard of "meaningless sex" in the way that you're describing it. I have heard of it and thought of it as being "just sex" and there is no deeper meaning behind it than two people wanting to have sex. There's no underlying romantic feelings or wanting to be in a relationship, it's sex and just sex and it doesn't MEAN anything. Like it doesn't mean they are together, it doesn't mean they love each other, doesn't mean they want to be in a relationship it's just sex because it feels good and it means nothing else. So it's not meaningless entirely, it's just that it doesn't mean anything BUT sex.
09/25/2010
Contributor: Sir Sir
It isn't my business what other people do with their bodies. I do not give a damn. If it's family members or partners, I tend to be more leery, but other than that...not really. I personally do not plan to have casual sex, because I am at the age where I'm wanting to settle down and find a lifetime partner.
09/26/2010
Contributor: sexysweetieshan sexysweetieshan
Other people can do what they want of course, but for me personally, I have never and will never have casual or meaningless sex. In my opinion and beliefs, sex is meant for SERIOUS full time relationships with ONE person. I have had sex with two people. One female who I loved, and my husband. Other people can do what they want, but for myself personally I disapprove of casual sex or sex in general with someone you're not seriously involved with.
09/26/2010
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by Yoda
While sex can definitely be casual, I don't think that it can be meaningless. There are simply too many emotions involved. Even if sex feels meaningless and disconnected from romantic meaning and consequence, there is always some sort of ... more
I agree completely. Even what one may, at the time, to be "recreational sex" can often turn out to be more "meaningful" than either of you intended. Or, worse, ONE of you comes to think of the sex as "meaningful" and the other continues to view it as recreational.

I never know what feelings I would have after sex, so I stayed away from purely "recreational" sex, although I had fuck buddies, there was some semblance of "a relationship" there.
09/26/2010
Contributor: Waterfall Waterfall
I'm fine with casual sex, although not all casual sex is meaningless in my opinion.
09/26/2010
Contributor: mllebeauty mllebeauty
I wouldn't say I disapprove of either, just that they're not for me. I've had what I consider "meaningless" sex and found it very unsatisfying. I prefer to attach some meaning to my sex nowadays. I also no longer have casual sex because it's just not as fun as something with more strings...or ropes.
09/26/2010
Contributor: Viktor Vysheslav Malkin Viktor Vysheslav Malkin
Quote:
Originally posted by Madeira
Personally I have casual sex, happily and enthusiastically, but I never have meaningless sex. I think that sex that doesn't lead to a romantic relationship is just fine, but I'm deeply opposed to having sex that anyone thinks is meaningless, ... more
I don't think I can say I disapprove of it, only that I am not going to do it and so forth. I could care less what other people do though
09/27/2010
Contributor: ~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
I don't think there is such a thing as meaningless sex.

It has a meaning no matter what.

The issue here is what you believe to be worthy or meaningful.

You do not need to be in a relationship or involved for sex to have a meaning...or even a deep meaning.
09/27/2010
Contributor: mrs.mckrakn mrs.mckrakn
no such thing as meaningless sex. one just tends to care a little less than the other.
09/27/2010
Contributor: SexyySarah SexyySarah
Well this one was hard to answer, I put other, because I don't believe in it, but I do think that having a threesome or something like that is cool, and I'm not here to judge anyone either, so to each their own.
09/27/2010
Contributor: gone77 gone77
Quote:
Originally posted by ~LaUr3n~
I don't think there is such a thing as meaningless sex.

It has a meaning no matter what.

The issue here is what you believe to be worthy or meaningful.

You do not need to be in a relationship or involved for sex to have a ... more
I agree with this.

And also, I don't really care one way or the other. *shrug*
09/27/2010
Contributor: Illumin8 Illumin8
I don't at all judge anyone who enjoyed "meaningless" or "casual" sex, but I've never participated in it before.
09/10/2011
Contributor: Sex'и'Violence Sex'и'Violence
I agree with the OP's stance on it. I'm all for casual sex, but I think "meaningless" or sex that your really just not into is a waste of time. Of course it could just be a matter of semantics.
09/11/2011
Contributor: Stinkytofu10 Stinkytofu10
I think sex should not be meaningless. It should mean something, whether it is purely for pleasure or a deeply intimate connection.
12/23/2011
Contributor: RonLee RonLee
Quote:
Originally posted by Madeira
Personally I have casual sex, happily and enthusiastically, but I never have meaningless sex. I think that sex that doesn't lead to a romantic relationship is just fine, but I'm deeply opposed to having sex that anyone thinks is meaningless, ... more
I agree, but there does not appear to be a choice to click for agreement with you for being grateful even for the experience of a casual encounter.
12/23/2011
Contributor: Moein Moein
Meaningless sex!! do you mean "do it any way just to kill time"?. No, we never done that, we like to have sex with most romantic feelings and deal with sex as a necessary thing in our life. we prepare every thing to that intimate time to make ubforgoten. So, meaningless sex for us is some thing weired.. realy weired.
12/23/2011