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What kinds of things do you do with your partner(s)?

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Contributor: ~*SurrealisticFantasy*~ ~*SurrealisticFantasy*~
So, as I'm slowly expanding my sexual repertoire, both solo and with my partner, I am becoming curious as to what others are doing in their lives for pleasure.

Just thought it'd be an interesting catalyst for discussion in general about what gets us off... and maybe we can each come away with some nice & naughty inspiration! ;P

Also, I realize not all of these necessarily apply to all relationships, but I tried to provide a good mix and word things so that they might apply to non-traditional relationships too. And of course, please comment with any activities that I didn't list (I could only list 20).

Please, by all means, comment too. Afterall, a poll only offers simple answers until someone gives a story or two.
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Contributor: VelvetBound VelvetBound
I guess I will be the first to expand on the other...

Ok, so it's a bit unusual but my Fiance LOVES to squeeze me. It is pretty much how he shows affection. Its not just a gentle touch but more like a slightly painful repetitive graping. He does it all of the time (I mean ALL of the time)! It is mainly my arms, legs, butt, and most often times the boobs! Probably not something everyone could deal with 24/7 but I don't usually mind it. I know its his way of showing me how much he wants me.

Ya, I know weird!
05/15/2009
Contributor: Adriana Ravenlust Adriana Ravenlust
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Originally posted by VelvetBound
I guess I will be the first to expand on the other...

Ok, so it's a bit unusual but my Fiance LOVES to squeeze me. It is pretty much how he shows affection. Its not just a gentle touch but more like a slightly painful repetitive graping. ... more
Groping as a whole seems to be left out.
05/15/2009
Contributor: bodymodboy bodymodboy
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Originally posted by Adriana Ravenlust
Groping as a whole seems to be left out.
I love groping. My partner, Steph, really feels secure and wanted when I casually cop a feel, or get real close from behind and rub against her.
05/15/2009
Contributor: Miss Cinnamon Miss Cinnamon
Erotic eating is one of those things that I've always wanted to try but am afraid of the mess/yeast infections/clean-up. * sigh * Maybe someday...
05/15/2009
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
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Originally posted by Miss Cinnamon
Erotic eating is one of those things that I've always wanted to try but am afraid of the mess/yeast infections/clean-up. * sigh * Maybe someday...
You can control the problem by putting the food near (but not on) the genitals (of a woman), or on the breasts or any other area, erogenous or not (since you're doing it as an erotic activity it will become one even if you're licking something off of your partner's palm).
05/15/2009
Contributor: Miss Cinnamon Miss Cinnamon
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Originally posted by ScottA
You can control the problem by putting the food near (but not on) the genitals (of a woman), or on the breasts or any other area, erogenous or not (since you're doing it as an erotic activity it will become one even if you're licking ... more
Thanks for the advice I'll try to talk my boyfriend into it, as we've discussed it briefly before and he didn't seem too enthusiastic about the mess.... maybe I'll just cover myself in whipped cream and see if he takes the hint!
05/15/2009
Contributor: Backseat Boohoo Backseat Boohoo
My "Other" is a variety of things, but mostly rougher sex, like choking and hair-pulling.
05/15/2009
Contributor: Red Red
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Originally posted by Miss Cinnamon
Thanks for the advice I'll try to talk my boyfriend into it, as we've discussed it briefly before and he didn't seem too enthusiastic about the mess.... maybe I'll just cover myself in whipped cream and see if he takes the hint!
You can also use saran wrap to make cleanup easier and also keep sugar away from your bits. Also makes a great segue into bondage play...
05/16/2009
Contributor: Red Red
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Originally posted by Backseat Boohoo
My "Other" is a variety of things, but mostly rougher sex, like choking and hair-pulling.
hey, those are approximately my others too! So....what cha doing later on? (tongue in cheek, of course, although your avatar is teh hotness)
05/16/2009
Contributor: Red Red
An obvious "other" that is missing is power play - although I suppose that is somewhat included in role play.
05/16/2009
Contributor: ~*SurrealisticFantasy*~ ~*SurrealisticFantasy*~
I love to be squeezed/groped too, although not painfully so, haha. Although, oddly enough, I find the idea of domination/power play/controlled pain quite erotic - just never done it myself. I plan on playing with this with my partner in the near future though, as I suspect that if we went about it deliberately and playfully, of course, it would be a very sensual and enjoyable experience for both of us, even though accidental pain seems to have the opposite effect on my arousal level. Perhaps most people are like that, though?

We also love erotic eating. I never put anything inside myself but all around doesn't seem to be a problem, and I love to lick chocolate syrup off of him! We usually jump in shower afterwards and I've yet to have a yeast infection from it. Hope I don't jinx myself... o_O; I'd still end up doing it though. While we don't do it terribly often it's a wonderful treat every now and then. Add a blindfold to the fun and it's *perfect*!

@Lovers Love - Mine has funny ways of showing affection too. He taps me on my ass, legs, and back, and sometimes squeezes random limbs & body parts too. He also likes to chase me around the house and then grab me, pin me down, and chew on/bite me all over. And while I put up a fight some of the time, he knows I "secretly" love every minute of it.
05/16/2009
Contributor: Luscious Lily Luscious Lily
Hm, there's only one up there on the list that we don't/haven't done. An' I'm not tellin' which it is!

My "other" was biting. Not I'm-giving-you-a-hicke y-so-here's-a-bite-to- go-with-it biting, just reaching over and gently biting each other during sex. Actually, tickling too. Yeah, we're strange. I tickle him into submission.
05/17/2009
Contributor: Miss Cinnamon Miss Cinnamon
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Originally posted by Red
You can also use saran wrap to make cleanup easier and also keep sugar away from your bits. Also makes a great segue into bondage play...
Haha... I still have a tube of saran wrap in our sex toy duffel bag from an impulse buy many months ago. Maybe I'll get some use out of it after all! Any tips for easy clean-up of the play area? Is there a better (and inexpensive) way than putting towels down?
05/17/2009
Contributor: Vibrator Happy Vibrator Happy
I love the not-too-hard biting during sex. But don't have a guy at the moment, just my vibes.
05/18/2009
Contributor: Nickisonehere Nickisonehere
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Originally posted by Vibrator Happy
I love the not-too-hard biting during sex. But don't have a guy at the moment, just my vibes.
If only they made not-too-hard biting vibes, huh? That's the world I dream of
05/22/2009
Contributor: Avery Dragon Avery Dragon
My other is biting as well. but we do both the not too hard biting, and the more agressive biting. another big one is bondage, i use various devices to keep him tied up or strapped down. he does the same to me. =)
05/30/2009
Contributor: Sir Sir
For the other: dungeon play, biting, using bondage, being rough, performing interesting positions, urination. We do a lot of things together sexually. One thing that I've never done and will not do is beastiality. Aside from that, I'm open to practically everything.
06/13/2009
Contributor: Valyn Valyn
Groping, yep. My boyfriend loves grabbing my ass or cupping my crotch when we go upstairs.. I ALWAYS jump, lol. Even when I'm expecting it, it always startles me, hehe.

Rough sex happens sometimes too, with hair pulling, mouth covering, etc.
07/05/2009
Contributor: adirondacker adirondacker
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Originally posted by VelvetBound
I guess I will be the first to expand on the other...

Ok, so it's a bit unusual but my Fiance LOVES to squeeze me. It is pretty much how he shows affection. Its not just a gentle touch but more like a slightly painful repetitive graping. ... more
I love squeezing my girlfriend and it is usually when I am giving her a big bear hug. It turns into how tight can I hold you before you turn blue or I break your ribs. For me its this feeling that she is as close to me as I can get her and nothing can pull her away, while at the same time I get to show off my strength. My girlfriend can typically tell when I am going to hug her or squeeze her by my approach, if it is just a hug she hugs me back. If it is a squeeze she pulls her elbows in and her hands go up with her palms on my chest and biceps. It usually results in a make-out session also.
07/05/2009
Contributor: LilyLust LilyLust
I think a domination section is missing. I guess you could put it with spanking, but hair pulling, biting, whipping, ect, I really don't classify under spanking. Maybe role playing?
07/29/2009
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Quote:
Originally posted by ~*SurrealisticFantasy*~
So, as I'm slowly expanding my sexual repertoire, both solo and with my partner, I am becoming curious as to what others are doing in their lives for pleasure.

Just thought it'd be an interesting catalyst for discussion in general ... more
Wanted to vote on some things but couldn't.

My wife and I do a lot of mutual manual stimulation - I use a variety of dildos and vibes to give my wife an orgasm or two before going to intercourse. Variety there is to have her on top - sometimes with a dildo or vibe in my ass. I'd love to make love to her with something in her ass - but haven't gotten there yet.

If she's OTR or just tired, she'll give me a great blow job - she calls it a double-b - because she loves to mix in her ample breasts in between her excellent deep-throat oral skills.

No doubt I am one very lucky guy!
09/07/2009
Contributor: sandman sandman
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Originally posted by Avery Dragon
My other is biting as well. but we do both the not too hard biting, and the more agressive biting. another big one is bondage, i use various devices to keep him tied up or strapped down. he does the same to me. =)
My wife and I recently started some light biting, mostly just before one of us orgasms. It sends us over the edge. Tying down is always a fun one, both being tied and doing the tying!
09/28/2009
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
Both my partners love to touch my body as much as I love to touch theirs...gets some odd looks when we are all out in public but we aren't into public displays just a light touch to an arm here or a quick kiss (not the deep throat tonsil hocky prefered by some LOL)thing that will get a raised eyebrow is my obvious pregnancy and the fact that I will touch either guy equally! My lover has a wonderful foot fetish which is one thing I absolutely adore about him and my husband has a body fluid fetish that keeps him interested in keeping me wet and ready at all times, yep I adore that about him too!

About the easy clean up after using saran wrap...use an old shower curtain draped over the bed or whatever area you are using. You could also purchase a shower curtain liner for under $5 and use that as well!
09/28/2009
Contributor: Yoda Yoda
Nipple Play. During Foreplay. It rocks.
09/29/2009
Contributor: LoveNixie LoveNixie
I keep wanting to try really oily sex. Almost like oil wrestling, but maybe less greasy. A doctor recently told me that coconut oil was good for massage, sex, and safe as a lubricant too, due to its natural anti fungal, and anti bacterial properties, but I'm not too sure. Anyone know about this?
09/29/2009
Contributor: Rose Rose
Lots of ... webcam-aided mutual masturbation; he had to move for college and lives about 20 hours away. I'm going to go to one in the area [within a 3 hourish distance], but for the next half year it's webcams all the way.

When we do get to see each other, lots and lots of rough sex. And groping, being tied up, a bit of d/s, some public stuff [more along the lines of "Don't wear any panties in public while we're out" than "Let's duck in an alley and have sex"].

Also, tickling. Oh my goodness so much fun. He's only a little bit ticklish, in his feet and in his arms, but I am incredibly ticklish. So he tends to hold me down and tickle me until I "distract" him.
10/20/2009
Contributor: Lynk Lynk
Biting, hard and soft.

Soft: I tend to bite my wife softly, even in non-sexual ways, like taking her hand and lightly chewing on it, or her arm. I don't know why but it makes us feel close. Maybe it's kind of a nervous habit.

Harder: We tend to bite each other kind of harder during sex. At least I have to assume it's harder because we tend to leave marks. It doesn't really hurt at all, though, because it's usually in the heat of the moment. A lot of times I don't even realize it until afterwards.

Scratching. We do this very similar to the biting. We will lightly run our nails over each other, which can be relaxing or stimulating depending on the context. During sex it's usually rougher, but we don't always notice it in the heat of the moment either.

I don't know if lube is covered by toys, but I figured I'd chime in with that. We like regular lube, flavored warming lube, warming massage oil and lube in one, flavored massage oils, etc... Although we are not super into erotic eating, we still incorporate licking and flavors into our love life. It feels less messy for some reason.

Also, bed cuffs, so both arms and legs can be restrained. Hand cuffs are also good, just good in every position due to the metal digging into your body. And door cuffs. Pretty much restraint in general. It is wonderful for teasing or to relinquish total control to your partner.

And of course, I have to mention blindfolds since I mentioned restraints. Blindfold + Bed cuffs = a good night.

Feather tickler. If you have the patience to be this gentle, it can be an amazing experience. It stimulates a lot of parts of your body you wouldn't normally consider erotic necessarily.
02/12/2010
Contributor: ordinaryak ordinaryak
I personally dont like to be bitten or hurt during sex but i love dishing out which is kool cause my guy likes that alot. he likes it when i bite and leave marks on his penis, or leave dep scratches on him. or when i bite his butt and leave a bruise. as far as other that i like to do is dishing it out to him lol i dont like being the submissive partner i have no intrest in being tied up i like to be the one doing the tieing.
oh we are also into the strap on dildo for me to use on him.
02/17/2010
Contributor: Passionate Pastor Passionate Pastor
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Originally posted by LoveNixie
I keep wanting to try really oily sex. Almost like oil wrestling, but maybe less greasy. A doctor recently told me that coconut oil was good for massage, sex, and safe as a lubricant too, due to its natural anti fungal, and anti bacterial properties, ... more
Coconut oil is awesome! We use it for sex and massage. It smells great absorbs into the skin well but is not too oily. It also helps fight yeast infections in women. We love to use it all over for oily sex. I glistens in the light and is so smooth. It tastes ok so some light kissing is ok but too much upset my stomach one time. Try it, its worth it
03/29/2010