What turns you ON

"What turns me on the most?", Oh boy. That's a tough call. I'd say when my partner is wearing lingerie. It can be something as simple as crotchless panties or as involved as stockings, a garter belt with matching bra, high heeled "bed shoes" and the leather jacket. Even something as pedestrian as Uggs, boy short/hipster or less coverage panties and a hoodie work for me. Oddly enough, I'm not a fan of the babydoll lingerie.

For me, there is nothing like it when a woman knows what she wants and takes it . Confidence is sexy! Sadly, I don't get lingerie often .

"Something that your partner does or you wish they would do..." Once again that's a tough call. I wish my partner would masturbate with me either watching or "involved". I've mentioned on several occasions that I wouldn't mind if I came over and she was watching something arousing and masturbating and I either helped her orgasm or just watched her. I'm good either way on that one.

Then there are the times when "I Fuck her with My Big Black Cock". That's a turn on. Yeah, I really like that. I start out with some kissing, touching, rubbing and then move on to oral sex. I go down on her for a long while but don't get her off just yet. Then I lube up a finger with a finger cot on it and gently rub and massage the anus. If I'm green lighted to go further, I get a small plug to warm up and lube up the anal cavity. Keep in mind, she is still receiving oral sex the whole time. Once the plug is in and she is use to it, I remove it and get the Black Cock. It is a medium sized Black Tantus Silk dildo that I add extra lube to because you never can have too much lube and then handle business. I start off slow because the dildo is larger than the plug is and once she is begging for it, it speeds up but not too fast. Remember, she is still receiving oral sex during all of this. When her legs start to shake uncontrollably, I know I'm doing something right and shortly there after she orgasms. Now that's a good time!

I apologyse for the profanity and crudeness of this post, usually I phrase things better, but I felt I needed to include it in order to convey and illustrate the point. less

Hey, I asked for it, and readers may want all the fantabulous ideas I like illustration! I won't need my erotica novel now

Funny you mentioned UGGS. Those are the Hubs least fave thing in my closet. He calls them my moon boots! So, you just gave me a grand idea for them lol.

So....guys and masterbation is a pretty big thing then. Uugh. That takes a lot of mind space and relaxation for a girl, I think lol. less

Uggs are his version of moon boots? Does he know that the Ugh brand started out making stuff for men just like Coach and Burberry. Actually, the boots are for men. I happen to think they look better on women though.

As for the masturbation issue, I dunno. I can't speak for all men but I sure like it when my partner does it. She isn't the kind of person that is super comfortable with stuff like this and I have no idea why. less

He's not very metro with fashion. That's my department I keep him on trend.

I imagine your partner is a lot like me. She may find it very vulnerable as you guys are sitting there eye to eye OR its possible she has a difficult time reaching just the right spot . Guys parts are so simple comparatively speaking Lol. It's hard being a girl. If you lose focus or if a touch goes wrong the big O is gone in a second. less

How can you, not you in particular Vnessa, loose focus!? As for the fashion part, I'm actually in the process of switching up my style. I use to be Mr. baggy jeans and didn't really care too much about my personal appearance, but, as I age I'm learning that my personal appearance matters.

My partner also isn't into fashion either. She is kinda nerdy and doesn't wear makeup, but I like that about her. She can clean up well, but, she doesn't do it often. We are talking weddings and funerals. I have to say, women's sizing is all wonky. What in the hell is a size 00 and 0, not to mention all the other random number after that i.e. 1,3,5, 7...? How can someone's measurements be summed up into either 1 or 2 numbers. That just doesn't make sense.

I've all but given up on trying to keep her stylish. I just buy her underware. It's the only stuff she will wear on a constant basis, not to mention no self respecting woman should be wearing granny panties under the age of 75. There are a few exceptions to this but they are usually due to medical conditions. less

Hey, I asked for it, and readers may want all the fantabulous ideas I like illustration! I won't need my erotica novel now

Funny you mentioned UGGS. Those are the Hubs least fave thing in my closet. He calls them my moon boots! So, you just gave me a grand idea for them lol.

So....guys and masterbation is a pretty big thing then. Uugh. That takes a lot of mind space and relaxation for a girl, I think lol. less

Hmm, lol, loss of focus due to stage fright, insecurity about looking sexy enough while in the act...umm..fear of "please don't look me in the eye because then holy shit then what" lol. I could go on with my own paranoia that would all equal loss of focus lol. Oy vey.

Panties...we like to call them panties And nobody should wear granny anything. less

What turns you on the most? Something that your partner does or you wish they would do...
For me, it would be a deeper and more firm voice when he's speaking to me. Not his every day voice. I love when he is behind me and I can feel his breath just below my ear as he's teasing and playing with me. Lingerie is a turn on for me even though I don't do girl/girl. It's still hot and makes me feel sexy lol. Hopefully, he thinks so as well. My wish....mmm. I want to be at his total mercy, giving him what he desires, in return reaching a point where he can read my body so well that he can play me like an instrument and make me orgasm on comand. that would be intense less

Hmm, lol, loss of focus due to stage fright, insecurity about looking sexy enough while in the act...umm..fear of "please don't look me in the eye because then holy shit then what" lol. I could go on with my own paranoia that would all equal loss of focus lol. Oy vey.

Panties...we like to call them panties And nobody should wear granny anything. less

I'm not the grand writer like the two of you, Inquisitor and Vnessa.

Short and simple, what turns me on is to watch O.w. pleasure herself. Not just on her clit with the Hitachi either. I mean with some of the more exciting toys. Once she gave me a show straddling her "Big Buddy" stuck on the top of the bathtub. Now that was a big turn on. She still owes me another show. I'll ask her for it this weekend. This morning we already agreed it's the pure wand and the Share tonight. less

See, lol, Symbiasin, yet another wonder as well. What we think we look like in our minds could be WAY off (Pouty face). Being married gives me an upper hand, I suppose. Ugly orgasm or not, he is stuck with me lol.

So, share, if you can, what do you find sexy...blah blah blah. I got off topic less

Well, I hate that face on me, but on the other hand, when males masturbate,they can look cool, even bored until they cum....hehehe.

Now that is what turns me on...watching a guy masturbate, getting hard and ....thro..... It makes me want to touch and lend a hand, give him pleasure, make him groan and eventually tell him, I'm really turned on....emphasis REALLY. I won't get into the rest of the anatomy I look at before hand. less

Well, I hate that face on me, but on the other hand, when males masturbate,they can look cool, even bored until they cum....hehehe.

Now that is what turns me on...watching a guy masturbate, getting hard and ....thro..... It makes me want to touch and lend a hand, give him pleasure, make him groan and eventually tell him, I'm really turned on....emphasis REALLY. I won't get into the rest of the anatomy I look at before hand. less

I guess I should have taken the time to elaborate about the "bed shoes". The shoes in question are black patent open toed mules with a 4 inch heel that I picked up from a certain retailer, whom also sells women's lingerie. The partner calls them "bed shoes", I just call them open toed mules with a 4 inch heel. Honestly to me they are just shoes, but to her, that style of shoe screams sex. I dunno about shoes screaming anything, but, I do know it's not the shoes but what you do with the shoes...

As far as the detail, I thought the instructions stated to give detail. Perhaps I was looking at another post when I replied. Did I over share? There is actually more to that, but I had to cut it short. I pounded that out on my cell phone during a 10 min break I had. You know, work and all... One of these days I will pound out the "Sexual Harassment" fantasy I have. less

What turns you on the most? Something that your partner does or you wish they would do...
For me, it would be a deeper and more firm voice when he's speaking to me. Not his every day voice. I love when he is behind me and I can feel his breath just below my ear as he's teasing and playing with me. Lingerie is a turn on for me even though I don't do girl/girl. It's still hot and makes me feel sexy lol. Hopefully, he thinks so as well. My wish....mmm. I want to be at his total mercy, giving him what he desires, in return reaching a point where he can read my body so well that he can play me like an instrument and make me orgasm on comand. that would be intense less

Love the business shirt... and tie for that matter. Nothing like a brooks brothers shirt all wrinkled up with nothing else on. My usual line is either "So your looking to get into trouble huh?" or "Round 2 so soon?" LOL!

The self pleasure thing...

It took her a LONG while to be ok with telling me. It also took her a long time to not feel bad about admitting that she does it to me. She still wont pleasure herself in front of me with toys or even her hand. I am still trying to convince her that I think its VERY sexy!

At the end of the day you need to yet again remember that you are making yourself feel good, its good for your body and if it turns your man on you are making out three fold.

I mean as off as it may sound... the better you can make yourself cum the easier it is to show someone else how to get you off! Look at it as homework or learning about yourself.

But most of all enjoy! less

Love the business shirt... and tie for that matter. Nothing like a brooks brothers shirt all wrinkled up with nothing else on. My usual line is either "So your looking to get into trouble huh?" or "Round 2 so soon?" LOL!

The self pleasure thing...

It took her a LONG while to be ok with telling me. It also took her a long time to not feel bad about admitting that she does it to me. She still wont pleasure herself in front of me with toys or even her hand. I am still trying to convince her that I think its VERY sexy!

At the end of the day you need to yet again remember that you are making yourself feel good, its good for your body and if it turns your man on you are making out three fold.

I mean as off as it may sound... the better you can make yourself cum the easier it is to show someone else how to get you off! Look at it as homework or learning about yourself.

But most of all enjoy! less

Fantastic lines. Very suiting

I hope, one day for you, your lovely wife will get over her fear of pleasuring herself in front of you. Just as I hope to do so myself.

Very good words of wisdom shared and much appreciated. Ugh. I despised homework growing up but I suppose this could actually be a lot more fun. Definitely, more rewarding.

Cheers to enjoyment! less

I guess I should have taken the time to elaborate about the "bed shoes". The shoes in question are black patent open toed mules with a 4 inch heel that I picked up from a certain retailer, whom also sells women's lingerie. The partner calls them "bed shoes", I just call them open toed mules with a 4 inch heel. Honestly to me they are just shoes, but to her, that style of shoe screams sex. I dunno about shoes screaming anything, but, I do know it's not the shoes but what you do with the shoes...

As far as the detail, I thought the instructions stated to give detail. Perhaps I was looking at another post when I replied. Did I over share? There is actually more to that, but I had to cut it short. I pounded that out on my cell phone during a 10 min break I had. You know, work and all... One of these days I will pound out the "Sexual Harassment" fantasy I have. less

"What turns me on the most?", Oh boy. That's a tough call. I'd say when my partner is wearing lingerie. It can be something as simple as crotchless panties or as involved as stockings, a garter belt with matching bra, high heeled "bed shoes" and the leather jacket. Even something as pedestrian as Uggs, boy short/hipster or less coverage panties and a hoodie work for me. Oddly enough, I'm not a fan of the babydoll lingerie.

For me, there is nothing like it when a woman knows what she wants and takes it . Confidence is sexy! Sadly, I don't get lingerie often .

"Something that your partner does or you wish they would do..." Once again that's a tough call. I wish my partner would masturbate with me either watching or "involved". I've mentioned on several occasions that I wouldn't mind if I came over and she was watching something arousing and masturbating and I either helped her orgasm or just watched her. I'm good either way on that one.

Then there are the times when "I Fuck her with My Big Black Cock". That's a turn on. Yeah, I really like that. I start out with some kissing, touching, rubbing and then move on to oral sex. I go down on her for a long while but don't get her off just yet. Then I lube up a finger with a finger cot on it and gently rub and massage the anus. If I'm green lighted to go further, I get a small plug to warm up and lube up the anal cavity. Keep in mind, she is still receiving oral sex the whole time. Once the plug is in and she is use to it, I remove it and get the Black Cock. It is a medium sized Black Tantus Silk dildo that I add extra lube to because you never can have too much lube and then handle business. I start off slow because the dildo is larger than the plug is and once she is begging for it, it speeds up but not too fast. Remember, she is still receiving oral sex during all of this. When her legs start to shake uncontrollably, I know I'm doing something right and shortly there after she orgasms. Now that's a good time!

I apologyse for the profanity and crudeness of this post, usually I phrase things better, but I felt I needed to include it in order to convey and illustrate the point. less