What works best for you when you can't be together?

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What works best for you when you can't be together?

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Contributor: I like to try harder I like to try harder
When you can't be together with your partner physically, what do you use to keep the excitement there? Feel free to elaborate on your answers and what works for you.
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
IM (i.e. Yahoo Messenger, ICQ, etc.)
Ansley , I like to try harder , Eliyahu , OhMy! , The Majikat , All His , DeliciousSurprise , LAndJ , Taylor , kittychilla , Squeaky , Vanille , potstickers , MaeGal , elli , BlooJay , sillylilkitten , minstrel69 , AliMc , charmedtomeetyou , phoenixfire , nikki0668 , ginnyluvspotter , Robespierrethecat
24
Video sex (Skype, ooVoo, other)
Ansley , I like to try harder , Eliyahu , Airen Wolf , OhMy! , The Majikat , DeliciousSurprise , AHubbyof2SexualMinds , urhappypill , Ilovelingerie , sillylilkitten , minstrel69 , Robespierrethecat
13
Sexting
Ansley , Cookie Monster Mike , BobbiJay , Hallmar82 , wrecklesswords , Ryuson , I like to try harder , Eliyahu , PassionateLover2 , Silverdrop , Coralbell , Gracie , married with children , The Majikat , All His , DeliciousSurprise , Secret Pleasure , Taylor , Teacookie , kittychilla , alistair , Zombirella , CrystaCat , urhappypill , Vanille , xOhxSoxScandalousx , hall5885 , Stagger13 , Bex1331 , bella8933 , Beck , sillylilkitten , minstrel69 , AliMc , nikki0668 , CaseyDeuce , Robespierrethecat
37
Email
I like to try harder , Eliyahu , Chilipepper , padmeamidala , PassionateLover2 , Airen Wolf , OhMy! , Gracie , Bonesdance , The Majikat , DeliciousSurprise , LAndJ , Ilovelingerie , BlooJay , deltalima , Creepellah , minstrel69 , Cat E.
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Just find someone else to take their place.
Total votes: 92 (56 voters)
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02/10/2012
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Contributor: Cookie Monster Mike Cookie Monster Mike
So far just sexting If she goes to visit her sister without me 3 hours north there is no computer access there. Cabin in the woods after all and her sister doesn't have a need for a computer and internet. So we keep it simple with sexting.
02/10/2012
Contributor: Hallmar82 Hallmar82
We've never done the webchat thing because we're usually at work or taking a break over lunch when we have time to text each other. Plus, if anyone is within ear-shot you can't do phone sex either but you can text anytime, anywhere.
02/10/2012
Contributor: wrecklesswords wrecklesswords
For the first 3-4 months of our relationship, my girlfriend and I lived 300 miles apart. We took turns visiting each other once a month for about 2-3 days. We mostly sexted or did a little bit of phone sex. Now we live in the same city, barely even 5 minutes apart so it's a little easier :p
02/10/2012
Contributor: I like to try harder I like to try harder
I have used mostly email...I had to encrypt the messages because being in the military, everything is subject to being read. Video and IM can be fun for a night or two away on a business trip at a hotel, I would suggest trying it sometime. I haven't gotten into sexting as much, but have tried it.
02/10/2012
Contributor: Eliyahu Eliyahu
Thankfully, the only time my wife and I are apart is during my work day, but we send each other dirty texts/pictures of ourselves via text/iMessage, and we typically IM several times a day (she'll tell me what the kids are doing, which one's in trouble, if I need to have a discipline-type chat with the big kid when I get home, how her day is going, etc).
02/10/2012
Contributor: Chilipepper Chilipepper
Email. With 4,000 miles between us and me without a cell phone, it's our main way of getting anything through. The Saturday phone calls are subject to the presence of whomever's in the kitchen next to my room - only once managed to have phone sex when the rest of the family was out.
02/10/2012
Contributor: padmeamidala padmeamidala
Quote:
Originally posted by I like to try harder
When you can't be together with your partner physically, what do you use to keep the excitement there? Feel free to elaborate on your answers and what works for you.
E-mail or texts.
02/10/2012
Contributor: PassionateLover2 PassionateLover2
Quote:
Originally posted by padmeamidala
E-mail or texts.
I have to agree. E-mail or texts works best!
02/10/2012
Contributor: Silverdrop Silverdrop
I picked 'sexting' but only because 'phone sex' wasn't an option.
02/10/2012
Contributor: I like to try harder I like to try harder
Quote:
Originally posted by Silverdrop
I picked 'sexting' but only because 'phone sex' wasn't an option.
Yeah, I realized I forgot phone sex as an option, just a little too late.
02/10/2012
Contributor: Moein Moein
I realy haven't faced this situation before, but if be found in future then I just going to wait for her ..
02/10/2012
Contributor: Gracie Gracie
I like the phone. I love the sound of his voice!
02/12/2012
Contributor: Bonesdance Bonesdance
It would be Skype if it were just up to me, but my wife doesn't like the idea.
02/12/2012
Contributor: oneeyedoctopus oneeyedoctopus
My boyfriend is currently living eight hours away. We don't do anything sexy with eachother when apart. I find myself masturbating more though.
02/13/2012
Contributor: Secret Pleasure Secret Pleasure
I voted sexting cause ive done that a few times, but you should have a phone sex option cause thats how I keep things fun.
02/13/2012
Contributor: LAndJ LAndJ
We email, IM and text each other that we miss each other and ask what the other is doing when we're apart. We've never apart long now though.
02/13/2012
Contributor: Taylor Taylor
We trxt during the day at work and school, but will usually use IM at night because it's faster to type than to text.
02/13/2012
Contributor: Teacookie Teacookie
time away makes the heart and sex grow fonder.
02/13/2012
Contributor: kittychilla kittychilla
im, roplay (im wise), and phone sex. :3 phone sex sounds awesome right about now. u______u
02/13/2012
Contributor: AHubbyof2SexualMinds AHubbyof2SexualMinds
We've done some video sex a few times and like it a lot. It's always neat to watch the wife with a toy.
02/13/2012
Contributor: alistair alistair
we don't usually sext but usually do straight up phone sex
02/13/2012
Contributor: Zombirella Zombirella
Quote:
Originally posted by I like to try harder
When you can't be together with your partner physically, what do you use to keep the excitement there? Feel free to elaborate on your answers and what works for you.
I need the "other" option! We don't do any of those things. We might send the occasional dirty text but it's not a constant back and forth thing. The longest we had been apart was 9 days and toys were out of the question since I was on vacation with other people. But I would just be happy with talking to him on the phone and using a toy when I needed that kind of attention until I was back home with him again.
02/13/2012
Contributor: CrystaCat CrystaCat
We like sexting~ When he is gone seven days at a time, it gets him even more excited to come home!
02/13/2012
Contributor: urhappypill urhappypill
My girl and I are in a Long distance relationship for 10mnths now... everyday, we're at skype, seeing each other play our heart out... now the intensity of our play rose when my girl bought a vibe from eden... she's so damn hot with that vibe inside her... it's a gi-ki vibe.. did get the name right? lol!
02/13/2012
Contributor: karay123 karay123
None of the above. We just live for the weekends until our house sells and we're all back together!
02/13/2012
Contributor: Ilovelingerie Ilovelingerie
We use skype sometimes and I send him sexy emails, sometimes we use sexting too.
02/15/2012
Contributor: Vanille Vanille
IM, Sexting and Email. Video would make us both frustrated because you can look but can't touch, and that's no fun. Besides, neither of us have the privacy for that.
02/15/2012
Contributor: MaeGal MaeGal
All last summer my boyfriend was all into FaceBook IMs. We do sext a lot, too.
06/17/2012
Contributor: hall5885 hall5885
Quote:
Originally posted by Silverdrop
I picked 'sexting' but only because 'phone sex' wasn't an option.
I choose that for the same reason.
I must be able to hear their voice otherwise it doesn't seem real at all.
06/17/2012