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Contributor: Annemarie Annemarie
I've tried. I've honestly tried, with the Gigi vibrator, a couple of glass dildos, and my fingers, to find my g-spot, and I simply can't find it. I've tried some of the suggestions on websites, and those didn't work. I'm starting to lose hope in the g-spot orgasm.

Any ideas/suggestions?
05/09/2010
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Contributor: Adriana Ravenlust Adriana Ravenlust
Try strengthening your kegels?

I understand your disappointment but my G-spot didn't really come alive until after I gave up looking for it.
05/10/2010
Contributor: trios trios
You may have to wait until someone else can find it for you...
05/10/2010
Contributor: ~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
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Originally posted by Annemarie
I've tried. I've honestly tried, with the Gigi vibrator, a couple of glass dildos, and my fingers, to find my g-spot, and I simply can't find it. I've tried some of the suggestions on websites, and those didn't work. I'm ... more
I say stop listening to the guides.

I didn't find it until I did my own thing and had stopped searching. The reason I couldn't find it is because most info didn't match up with my anatomy. My g-spot is much more shallow than the literature. I don't have to go far in to find it. I had been literally going PAST it for years. Maybe you are like me?
05/10/2010
Contributor: ♥ Amanda ♥ ♥ Amanda ♥
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Originally posted by Annemarie
I've tried. I've honestly tried, with the Gigi vibrator, a couple of glass dildos, and my fingers, to find my g-spot, and I simply can't find it. I've tried some of the suggestions on websites, and those didn't work. I'm ... more
I was the same way for so long Annemarie. Do you own the G ki? It flexes to mold to your body and is really helpful. There are also many, many websites with information. The only problem, all women are different. One thing I was confused about was the area. I always thought it was up further than it actually is. Maybe you are inserting your toy to far up towards the cervix rather than the belly button. The idea is to insert less than two inches and then push the toy up like you are aiming for your belly button. And then hold it there. The g spot need stimulation to being to dilate. As it then dilates it becomes more and more sensitive. It took me almost an hour of toy play before I reached my pleasure spot. Don't worry it takes time, practice, patience, and so so much more. But it is there, and you will find it. Good luck on your journey.
05/10/2010
Contributor: Elodie Elodie
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Originally posted by Annemarie
I've tried. I've honestly tried, with the Gigi vibrator, a couple of glass dildos, and my fingers, to find my g-spot, and I simply can't find it. I've tried some of the suggestions on websites, and those didn't work. I'm ... more
It helps if you're really aroused first.

Also, what Adriana Ravenlust said. I've also noticed that mine has gotten exponentially more sensitive, and seemingly larger, as I've gotten older.
05/10/2010
Contributor: *Ashley* *Ashley*
ugh, I have the same problem!! I have hopes in trying new toys on this site to help me find it.

..To be quite honest, how will I even know if I find it!? I hear "you'll just know" and I hope they are right! Maybe its really high, or really low.. I’m not sure. I hope to find it one day though!

I’ve never tried really looking for it, just hoping I’d find it.. but no luck so far. So on the search I go!!!!

I WISH YOU THE BEST OF LUCK!!!
05/11/2010
Contributor: Newlyinclined Newlyinclined
I saw this post and can't help but chime in with a 'best of luck' and also a thank you for the tips that have been put here. Looks like I'm going to be trying again tonight!
05/19/2010
Contributor: Alegria Alegria
I also own Gigi and found her to be slightly disappointing after all the rave reviews, because she did not help me to find my g-spot. The only toy I've found that hits it effectively is Raquel, but because it's made of vixskin it's super soft, meaning its not enough stimulation to make me ejaculate. But after I used Raquel it was waaay easier for me to find my g-spot(even found it using Gigi).

Just stay relaxed and enjoy the fun. I think its easier to find if you quit looking and just go with what feels good.
06/07/2010
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
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Originally posted by trios
You may have to wait until someone else can find it for you...
Threesomes - have it right. My wife was never able to 'dig around' to find it - but it's a relatively simple matter for me to find it - and by her reaction, she prefers my approach.
06/07/2010
Contributor: Naughty Student Naughty Student
It sounds like you may be trying too hard, just focus on what feels good as you experiment with thrusting, probing, circling areas of the vaginal canal. Eventually you'll find a spot that feels really good when you stimulate it with a certain pressure and voila!
06/08/2010
Contributor: Annemarie Annemarie
Thank you all for the tips and advice!

I *think* I've found it, though no orgasm yet. We'll see how it goes.
06/08/2010
Contributor: Samanti Samanti
Quote:
Originally posted by Adriana Ravenlust
Try strengthening your kegels?

I understand your disappointment but my G-spot didn't really come alive until after I gave up looking for it.
Oh that is so horrible, really? i am having this exact same problem. i really hope that i will give up sooner. I keep trying. Hey mind if i ask you, what feeling do you get if you do hit your G spot?
06/10/2010
Contributor: Samanti Samanti
So G Spot toys arent really going to help huh?
06/10/2010
Contributor: Liz2 Liz2
Relax the g spot is there, you said you think you found it. I hate all the clinical literature, never made me feel sensuous but the knowledge helps.
Just relax, enjoying your body, get your natural lube flowing and stop trying so hard..... I need a clitoral orgasm to awaken my g spot and ready it for play. A decent g spot toy certainly helps. I use the NJoy Pure Wand and the NJoy Eleven, yea expensive, but the weight adds so much and gets my g spot into overdrive. The Gigi vibe also helps.
I feel now that I am almost in charge of my sensuous g spot and I can almost control when and if I squirt......Certainly worth the journey!
06/10/2010
Contributor: omgmegg omgmegg
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Originally posted by ~LaUr3n~
I say stop listening to the guides.

I didn't find it until I did my own thing and had stopped searching. The reason I couldn't find it is because most info didn't match up with my anatomy. My g-spot is much more shallow than the ... more
I had the same problem, only in reverse...I wasn't going high enough to find it!
06/16/2010
Contributor: LucyLemonade LucyLemonade
I'm having issues finding mine, so you're not the only one!
07/06/2010
Contributor: Blinker Blinker
When my G gets hit just right, I kick my right leg out. I'm sick of wounding my boyfriend
07/06/2010
Contributor: Samanti Samanti
Okay, So here is the deal with me.... I have hit my g-spot several times, I have even been able to find out that I can squirt, however, I have not been able to get complete satisfaction out of g-spot sex. Has anyone heard of Nina Hartleys guide to g-spot sex? Well that video was pretty awesome and it really showed an educational/ steamy view to finding the G-spot. Sadly I am still not able to get full satisfaction, I truthfully think that this Magical Spot is really only something that SOME women can achieve orgasms from. Don't be upset if you can't find it. It took me 6 years of searching to finally find it, and it disappointed... Feels good, sort of makes you feel like you gotta pee, but doesn't allow you to cum the way playing with your clit does.
07/17/2010
Contributor: PassionQT PassionQT
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Originally posted by Elodie
It helps if you're really aroused first.

Also, what Adriana Ravenlust said. I've also noticed that mine has gotten exponentially more sensitive, and seemingly larger, as I've gotten older.
I'm almost 40 and it's taken me this long to figure out that I can have g-spot orgasms, but it is a matter of finding the right toy to do the job. I've only really experimented with one that didn't have an attached clitoral stimulator (I'm addicted to rabbit styles), and it's too rigid to keep using, so I'm searching for the perfect one and realize it's probably going to take a few tries until I get it right, which is why being a member of this community is extremely helpful!

Hubby was actually rubbing it yesterday and it did feel like I had to pee! I asked him to remove his fingers to see if I had a full bladder, and I didn't, so I guess that was the g-spot. It's a tricky little spot, dormant for some, very active for others. Mine just kind of sleeps and wakes up every now and then, but play with my clit the right way and it's usually a go!
07/17/2010
Contributor: Pleasure Piratess Pleasure Piratess
I know this won't work for everyone, but I finally found mine with Lelo Ina. It was shallower than I thought it would be and I really have to push the toy up towards my pubic bone for it to hit just right though
07/26/2010
Contributor: Dusk Dusk
Can't help you there, I can't find mine either. My ex got it just right, but darn it my current partner isn't having much luck either
07/26/2010
Contributor: Love Buzz Love Buzz
if you or your partner pushes down on your abdomen whilst using a toy or a finger (usually the come hither type movement) to sweeping across the front wall is supposed to help, as does having a full bladder.

That may seem crazy to some as having your g spot hit or pressed against can make you feel like you need to pee, but as the bladder and g spot are so close anatomically it really does help. A full bladder helps to stretch out the front wall making finding that slightly raised bump that's so elusive just a little easier to find.
07/31/2010
Contributor: joja joja
Honestly, I think a lot of the difficulty women have is that they expect to find this magical orgasm button inside them, which the g-spot is not. Stick your finger in your vagina a couple knuckles deep (that's 2-3 inches at most) and touch the upper (in a laying down position) wall. Feel that textured, spongy area? That's your g-spot, regardless of whether your mind is instantly blown with pleasure or not.

Just give yourself some time, don't stress it, make sure you're very aroused, and massage that area with a toy or with the "come hither" motion. Don't push yourself to have amazing squirt-tastic g-spot orgasms yet. Just enjoy it.
07/31/2010
Contributor: Sera Sera
Quote:
Originally posted by Annemarie
I've tried. I've honestly tried, with the Gigi vibrator, a couple of glass dildos, and my fingers, to find my g-spot, and I simply can't find it. I've tried some of the suggestions on websites, and those didn't work. I'm ... more
I don't know either!
08/02/2010
Contributor: Naughty Student Naughty Student
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Originally posted by joja
Honestly, I think a lot of the difficulty women have is that they expect to find this magical orgasm button inside them, which the g-spot is not. Stick your finger in your vagina a couple knuckles deep (that's 2-3 inches at most) and touch the ... more
Exactly! I guess there is sort of a learning curve to the g-spot.
08/12/2010
Contributor: paralax paralax
Quote:
Originally posted by Annemarie
I've tried. I've honestly tried, with the Gigi vibrator, a couple of glass dildos, and my fingers, to find my g-spot, and I simply can't find it. I've tried some of the suggestions on websites, and those didn't work. I'm ... more
some people just can never find it. it is sad. but a fact.
09/09/2010
Contributor: Winifred Winifred
I think mine is very shallow also! Ir just takes alot of practice and investigation in a way lol
11/25/2012
Contributor: captainsgirl captainsgirl
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Originally posted by ♥ Amanda ♥
I was the same way for so long Annemarie. Do you own the G ki? It flexes to mold to your body and is really helpful. There are also many, many websites with information. The only problem, all women are different. One thing I was confused about was ... more
great advice
01/14/2013
Contributor: Hummingbird Hummingbird
Quote:
Originally posted by joja
Honestly, I think a lot of the difficulty women have is that they expect to find this magical orgasm button inside them, which the g-spot is not. Stick your finger in your vagina a couple knuckles deep (that's 2-3 inches at most) and touch the ... more
But how are you supposed to feel it if you're using a toy? Finger yes, I can understand finding it with them but how do you tell with a toy? Also, if you're stimulated via a clitoral O does that mean you can still have a G-spot O too right after. I so love this question and no longer feel alone in my quest. I think I might have found it once or twice but am not sure. What if it was the A spot? I understand there's quite a few ways to orgasm, how do I know which one I'm having, well except the clit one that is, that one is obvious.
01/15/2013