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Contributor: Airlia Airlia
I'm at a loss - and I'm getting aggravated! Any and all help would be greatly appreciated. I'm down south - somewhere on the Alabama/Georgia border and I've tried looking for women without being too overt. I need discretion until I'm ok with that special lady...

Advice please!
03/30/2009
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Contributor: Miss Cinnamon Miss Cinnamon
Have you tried using social networking sites like MySpace and Facebook? Or look around for more adult dating sites. That might be a safe way to find bisexual women around your area.

"I need discretion until I'm ok with that special lady..."

I'm afraid I don't understand what you're saying. Could you please clarify a little?

Now, just curious--are you looking specifically for bisexual women, or just women interested in women in general?
03/30/2009
Contributor: Airlia Airlia
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Originally posted by Miss Cinnamon
Have you tried using social networking sites like MySpace and Facebook? Or look around for more adult dating sites. That might be a safe way to find bisexual women around your area.

"I need discretion until I'm ok with that special ... more
Well I'm not going to give my name and info when I'm looking at first because of my husband's job and because of security. But when I start a conversation and I deem it safe - I'm happy to share personal info like my name and location etc etc.

I've found that women interested only in women aren't interested in me because I'm married. Sigh!
03/30/2009
Contributor: Machina Machina
Like Miss Cinnamon said, I think myspace/facebook would be a good place to start too, but I understand why you wouldn't want to put yourself out there like that. I'm from the deep south too! When I was still on the market I would usually meet girls the same way I met guys, the only difference was that I was usually friends with the girls before we started hooking up (girls tend to need to gain a little more trust before jumping into the sack than boys do). I saw on your profile that you're my age-- I think a lot of girls (more than are willing to admit outright) in our age range are bi, or at least open to bisexual experiences. These are most often single "party girls" who like to hang out in bars and/or around college campuses. They are most likely lonely, horny, drunk, and want to fuck something. --at least that is my experience.
03/30/2009
Contributor: Cinnamon Chambers Cinnamon Chambers
I have the same issue. When I have been with women it was because we were friends and then the bi curiosity issue came up and it was acted on. I would love to have another GF..or for the last one to come see me out here....she was such a sweetie.
03/30/2009
Contributor: Airlia Airlia
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Originally posted by Machina
Like Miss Cinnamon said, I think myspace/facebook would be a good place to start too, but I understand why you wouldn't want to put yourself out there like that. I'm from the deep south too! When I was still on the market I would usually ... more
That's the thing - most of my experiences (not all) involved drunk girls who wake up in my bed and are so overcome with guilt or shame that I lose both a friend and a potential lover.

Myspace and facebook I reserve for my 'conservative' side - ie non sex reviewer, non bi side! Which makes it hard. I know I know I shouldn't lie about who I am, and my very very close friends and my husband know - but that's how far I'm willing to at the moment.

Thanks for the advice though!
03/30/2009
Contributor: Airlia Airlia
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Originally posted by Cinnamon Chambers
I have the same issue. When I have been with women it was because we were friends and then the bi curiosity issue came up and it was acted on. I would love to have another GF..or for the last one to come see me out here....she was such a sweetie.
It's hard moving away from a good thing isn't it?
03/30/2009
Contributor: Goodkittygnbad Goodkittygnbad
Sienna: I'm in the same position so I wanted you to know you're not alone. I'm married but my husband knows that I like the ladies and wouldn't mind if ever found a special one. Unfortunately, like you, I'm in the bible belt and it's hard. (I'm on the MS/AL line, shoot!)

If you find any tricks with the ladies in our area, let me know!
03/30/2009
Contributor: Backseat Boohoo Backseat Boohoo
Alas, so many hot women looking for partners, and I am still in my "I-will-start-an-actua l-relationship" rut. Oi vey!
03/30/2009
Contributor: Miss Cinnamon Miss Cinnamon
Quote:
Originally posted by Airlia
Well I'm not going to give my name and info when I'm looking at first because of my husband's job and because of security. But when I start a conversation and I deem it safe - I'm happy to share personal info like my name and location ... more
I know Facebook used to be a little more picky (I joined three years ago, when you had to be university-affiliated- -hurrah for dual enrollment classes!) but I think the rules for joining have gotten much more lenient since then and one of my friends had up to three accounts with the same name at one point. I'm pretty sure that you can have multiple accounts on MySpace too. Why not make up a fake name or two and create accounts solely for the purpose of meeting potential lovers? You won't be jeopardizing your privacy that way and you'll be able to take advantage of some of the most popular social networking tools available.
03/30/2009
Contributor: Airlia Airlia
Quote:
Originally posted by Miss Cinnamon
I know Facebook used to be a little more picky (I joined three years ago, when you had to be university-affiliated- -hurrah for dual enrollment classes!) but I think the rules for joining have gotten much more lenient since then and one of my friends ... more
I think I really am going to have to take you up on that! I can add my HNT pics (well some) so that people can see a little about me!!

Goodkittygnbad - I'll let you know if I ever find anything that works!

BB - Oi Vey right back atcha, it's hard and you're taking the steps!

Enough with the exclamation marks, I'm off to bed
03/30/2009
Contributor: Backseat Boohoo Backseat Boohoo
Quote:
Originally posted by Airlia
I think I really am going to have to take you up on that! I can add my HNT pics (well some) so that people can see a little about me!!

Goodkittygnbad - I'll let you know if I ever find anything that works!

BB - Oi Vey right back ... more
Just watch the pits with Facebook; they tend to be a little anal-retentive about nudity. I have my father friended on my Facebook, even, but they still asked me to remove an artistic photo where I was nude, but not showing anything. I told them if I'm willing to let my dad see it, it's okay. That shut them up.
03/31/2009
Contributor: Backseat Boohoo Backseat Boohoo
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Originally posted by Backseat Boohoo
Just watch the pits with Facebook; they tend to be a little anal-retentive about nudity. I have my father friended on my Facebook, even, but they still asked me to remove an artistic photo where I was nude, but not showing anything. I told them if ... more
That should say "pics." Wow, yay go me.
03/31/2009
Contributor: Miss Cinnamon Miss Cinnamon
Quote:
Originally posted by Backseat Boohoo
Just watch the pits with Facebook; they tend to be a little anal-retentive about nudity. I have my father friended on my Facebook, even, but they still asked me to remove an artistic photo where I was nude, but not showing anything. I told them if ... more
There's also Adultspace.com, which markets itself as an adult version of MySpace. One of my more... exhibitionist friends has an account there and he has posted sex videos of himself and his girlfriend. I think that sort of content is actually encouraged on that website, but I have yet to really look at the site itself. It's there, though.
03/31/2009
Contributor: Red Red
Argh! I just typed a long thoughtful answer and the forums ate it!

womanline.com
fetlife (is kinky, but worth a try)
ok cupid

Get out locally in alternative communities - doesn't mean you're any of these things, just that you're exploring...
local LGBT events
Local poly events
local kink events (munches)

Start a yahoo group called "Bi Girls Alabama/Georgia" and get the word out to the above mentioned communities. It will grow. I was lucky enough to join such a group in my city right as it was formed - it was not a hook up group, more about discussion and understanding and such. I credit this group with most of my girlie relationships and also most of my comfort and confidence with my bisexual side.

Go dancing at lesbian bars

...

good luck!
03/31/2009
Contributor: Not Here Anymore f/k/a Happy Lady Not Here Anymore f/k/a Happy Lady
Quote:
Originally posted by Airlia
I'm at a loss - and I'm getting aggravated! Any and all help would be greatly appreciated. I'm down south - somewhere on the Alabama/Georgia border and I've tried looking for women without being too overt. I need discretion until ... more
I'd tap that!

Seriously though
I know how hard it is. It's hard enough living in the South - but your situation has to be even more difficult because you are also committed to your husband.

You might try link

Also, are you looking for a girlfriend, or just an occasional lover? If you are looking for a relationship with a woman, and this is going to sound odd, maybe you should try looking to other married women. This would prevent a "third" party.

My current partner dated a married woman with a husband that "approved", but when feelings started getting involved it left my partner very heartbroken.
03/31/2009
Contributor: Airlia Airlia
Quote:
Originally posted by Not Here Anymore f/k/a Happy Lady
I'd tap that!

Seriously though
I know how hard it is. It's hard enough living in the South - but your situation has to be even more difficult because you are also committed to your husband.

You might try link

Also, ... more
heheh why Happy Lady!!!!

It doesn't sound odd at all! I've actually had successful relationships with other married women - it prevents things from being weird, if that makes sense! And thank you for the link I'm going to try that too!
03/31/2009
Contributor: Airlia Airlia
Quote:
Originally posted by Red
Argh! I just typed a long thoughtful answer and the forums ate it!

womanline.com
fetlife (is kinky, but worth a try)
ok cupid

Get out locally in alternative communities - doesn't mean you're any of these things, just ... more
Thanks! That's a lot of information and I'm going to try it all!
03/31/2009
Contributor: TinyTease TinyTease
I wish you luck! It's really hard when you live on an island (Maui) to meet like minded people, so I feel your pain. Let us know how it goes for you!
04/08/2009
Contributor: Baby Sinead Baby Sinead
I'm in NY and still at a loss. Wish there was a dating site for bis!
05/03/2009
Contributor: ~*SurrealisticFantasy*~ ~*SurrealisticFantasy*~
Quote:
Originally posted by Airlia
Well I'm not going to give my name and info when I'm looking at first because of my husband's job and because of security. But when I start a conversation and I deem it safe - I'm happy to share personal info like my name and location ... more
"I've found that women interested only in women aren't interested in me because I'm married. Sigh!"

Sometimes I feel like being Bi is about the most awkward niche to be in for this very reason, at least if you desire to be involved with both a man and a woman. Not to mention being bi in the south, at least I'm up here in Seattle where at least 80% of the general population is at the very least gay/lesbian/bisexual friendly. I was born and raised in North Carolina and still go back "home" once a year so I'm frequently enough reminded of how intolerant some people can be. o_O; I like to remain faithful that one day everyone will just be allowed to love for love's sake though.
05/05/2009
Contributor: Airlia Airlia
It's nice (or maybe sad) to know that everyone else has the same problems. SurrealisticFantasy I hope for the same one day!
05/06/2009
Contributor: deceased deceased
Well, I am not Bi, but it seems that all the women 4 women postings on Craigslist in my state are. They are all young, horny and looking for femme bi women. They usually are married with a deployed husband so they do not consider it cheating (lol). Those of us who are dykes and butches go to Walmart or Kmart and hang out in the fishing/camping/sports aisles or in sporting good stores. We also can be found looking at powertools in Sears and City Mill and Home Depot. If you want a really good hot fuck, you will find yourself a butch daddy who knows what they are doing. It won't be anywhere near the MAC counter at Macy's.
06/15/2009
Contributor: ~*SurrealisticFantasy*~ ~*SurrealisticFantasy*~
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Originally posted by deceased
Well, I am not Bi, but it seems that all the women 4 women postings on Craigslist in my state are. They are all young, horny and looking for femme bi women. They usually are married with a deployed husband so they do not consider it cheating (lol). ... more
I'm attracted to all different kinds of people, but for me I find myself generally more drawn to feminine girls - I appreciate both the unique femininity of a woman as well as the strong masculinity of men. But for me, it's the delicate curves and sensual girliness of women that really draws me, so while I have been attracted to more butch girls, I *typically* find myself more magnetized to the femme girls. I don't personally think that physical qualities (i.e. butch vs. femme) have really anything to do with who's the better "fuck", per se.

As to whether they're bi or lesbian, I could care less, personally.
06/15/2009
Contributor: Ilovesweetladys Ilovesweetladys
Quote:
Originally posted by Airlia
I'm at a loss - and I'm getting aggravated! Any and all help would be greatly appreciated. I'm down south - somewhere on the Alabama/Georgia border and I've tried looking for women without being too overt. I need discretion until ... more
hi sienna i live in mobile,ala and would enjoy meeting another woman in my bed, my husb travels about 20 days out of the month so i have lots of time and privacy in my life! I would really love to hear from you or other ladys needing the sweet soft touch of another woman, so drop me a line okay ?
09/22/2009
Contributor: Red Red
@Kuuipogal - I freaking love you for saying the following:

"Those of us who are dykes and butches go to Walmart or Kmart and hang out in the fishing/camping/sports aisles or in sporting good stores. We also can be found looking at powertools in Sears and City Mill and Home Depot. If you want a really good hot fuck, you will find yourself a butch daddy who knows what they are doing. It won't be anywhere near the MAC counter at Macy's."

I officially have an EdenFantasys crush on you
09/22/2009
Contributor: deceased deceased
Mahal nui loa Red, but it's true. You can find femmes at Sephora, and if you are a butch they are glad to give their opinion on "which cologne smells better on which arm". etc. You want a butch, you better find a local bar softball team, or go to the free weight area in your gym. If you are a femme, the butches will find you. I've hooked up in the public library, at Ross, etc. I've never been to a bar, we don't have women's bars in Hawaii, and I look enough like a dude that I wouldn't be let in anyway......

Just keep your eyes and ears open and flirt with all the women. Start with sincere compliments. Some women are straight until they wake up one day and just aren't.
09/23/2009
Contributor: Undressed Reviews Undressed Reviews
Quote:
Originally posted by Airlia
That's the thing - most of my experiences (not all) involved drunk girls who wake up in my bed and are so overcome with guilt or shame that I lose both a friend and a potential lover.

Myspace and facebook I reserve for my ... more
I understand. I'm bisexual, engaged, and living in the south, which makes even the possibility of being with other women really unlikely. Especially because I prefer getting to know the other person a bit. Sliding into it "naturally". Awkward, rushed, and forced relationships of any kind are NOT appealing to me.

Maybe you should make a separate FB or MySpace account for your "naughty" side. Not lying or anything. Just putting forward another side of yourself. You could also try OKCupid. I don't really like that website, but some people love it. It might work for you.

Good luck!
09/27/2009
Contributor: SummerICE SummerICE
Quote:
Originally posted by deceased
Well, I am not Bi, but it seems that all the women 4 women postings on Craigslist in my state are. They are all young, horny and looking for femme bi women. They usually are married with a deployed husband so they do not consider it cheating (lol). ... more
lmao! good point!
10/20/2009
Contributor: ladyfriend535 ladyfriend535
Quote:
Originally posted by Airlia
I'm at a loss - and I'm getting aggravated! Any and all help would be greatly appreciated. I'm down south - somewhere on the Alabama/Georgia border and I've tried looking for women without being too overt. I need discretion until ... more
I'm also looking for females in my area to share some times with. facebook & myspace are too personal with sharing information. I have tried fling & ok cupid & im not fond of either of them. still looking, so hope fully someone will find some useful hints to meeting more women, because im not having much luck near stl, mo.
10/20/2009