Men: Do you feel that you are gender confused because you enjoy pegging?

Contributor: ♥ Amanda ♥ ♥ Amanda ♥
This poll is for the men of EF. I want to know if you participate in pegging.. due you ever feel gender confused or are you comfortable with being a straight man that enjoys p spot stimulation.
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
I participate in pegging and...
49
I am not gender confused
46
Sometimes I feel gender confused
2
I am straight
38
I am gay
4
I am bisexual
11
Pegging does not relate to me
9
Total votes: 159 (72 voters)
Poll is closed
05/14/2010
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05/14/2010
Contributor: ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
I am straight and not confused. I have enjoyed prostate stimulation since my teen's. Know with the wife involved using toys on me, the pleasure is so much better.
As a plus if you look up the benefits of prostate massage it becomes a win win situation.
Just got to get her into using a harness.
05/14/2010
Contributor: ♥ Amanda ♥ ♥ Amanda ♥
Good for you dwtim. We have been pegging for a little over a year now. I am curious if men ever feel insecure. When we first started I think my partner was concerned that I would think there was something wrong with him because he liked it. Just curious if other men feel that way as well.
05/14/2010
Contributor: Miss Cinnamon Miss Cinnamon
I'm not a man (surprise!), but as a couple, we do enjoy pegging. I don't think the boy's ever been gender-confused because of it. Maybe it's just a terminology thing (and I'm operating on negative sleep here), but only a person born biologically male would have a p-spot, right? So why would enjoying p-spot stimulation cause gender confusion? I'm not saying it's impossible; it's just not something I've ever thought about before. I'm wondering if you're mixing up sexual orientation with gender identity, since they're pretty different things. Aside from my confusion, interesting thread, AKAme!
05/14/2010
Contributor: Kynky Kytty Kynky Kytty
I agree, playing with your own body in every possible pleasurable way has nothing to do with orientation or identity.

Although this forum might not be the best sample to try to find people who are confused or uncomfortable about anal play of any kind. Still interesting though.
05/14/2010
Contributor: Elodie Elodie
My boyfriend doesn't want to do it, but it has nothing to do with gender identity or fears of sexual confusion, he just doesn't want anything up his butt.
05/14/2010
Contributor: Miss Cinnamon Miss Cinnamon
Quote:
Originally posted by Kynky Kytty
I agree, playing with your own body in every possible pleasurable way has nothing to do with orientation or identity.

Although this forum might not be the best sample to try to find people who are confused or uncomfortable about anal play of ... more
Heh, I just realized that my post could've been interpreted to mean that while p-spot fun has nothing to do with gender identity, it could totally affect sexual orientation, which is not what I meant at all. It's just that the latter is a more... common misconception, shall we say? I know there are guys who like it in the butt and get worried that it means that they're gay... but not so many guys who like it in the butt and get worried that it means they were born into the incorrect gender. Just wanted to clear up my meaning there
05/14/2010
Contributor: ~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
I'm not a man obviously but I have never known a guy to be gender confused. Guys biologically are supposed to enjoy anal stimulation more.
05/14/2010
Contributor: shepegsME shepegsME
It's different for everyone, but for me I am NOT gender confused. I think the idea of a woman giving you pleasure is a very sexy and powerful one. I think all guys (even if they don't admit it) find it very attractive when a woman takes charge.
05/14/2010
Contributor: VeronicaStone VeronicaStone
Believe it or not, I'm not "gender-confused".
05/14/2010
Contributor: Toyman1488 Toyman1488
I love to play and the best part of it for me is that i have partner that is turned on by it all,It started for me when i wanted to know why the woman i was with liked it so much,and i wanted to feel what she felt,but never got the pleasure until i found my partner i am with now,it started with a finger and went to a trap on 2 1/2 yrs later! got to say i love it and i am no where near confused
about it. and frankly do not care what anyone else thinks either. "DON'T KNOCK IT TILL YOU TRY IT"!
05/14/2010
Contributor: Toyman1488 Toyman1488
Quote:
Originally posted by shepegsME
It's different for everyone, but for me I am NOT gender confused. I think the idea of a woman giving you pleasure is a very sexy and powerful one. I think all guys (even if they don't admit it) find it very attractive when a woman takes charge.
Totally agree!!!i love it..
05/14/2010
Contributor: Victoria Victoria
I think guys should feel free to explore and receive pleasure however they wish. It's a shame that men still feel self-conscious about anal play because of the fear that people might make assumptions about them, or because they have hang ups about sexuality. We have the ability and space here to show our compassion for any person that is interested in trying new things. Hopefully this kind of sharing makes people feel more assured and open minded,
05/14/2010
Contributor: Kynky Kytty Kynky Kytty
Quote:
Originally posted by shepegsME
It's different for everyone, but for me I am NOT gender confused. I think the idea of a woman giving you pleasure is a very sexy and powerful one. I think all guys (even if they don't admit it) find it very attractive when a woman takes charge.
This is exactly why I want to try pegging. Just about giving pleasure.
05/14/2010
Contributor: Liz2 Liz2
Quote:
Originally posted by Victoria
I think guys should feel free to explore and receive pleasure however they wish. It's a shame that men still feel self-conscious about anal play because of the fear that people might make assumptions about them, or because they have hang ups ... more
So well said!!
My b/f was initially totally negative on pegging but he loved to give me anal. I introduced him to anal toys, first plugs then moved on to dils. He started using a butt plug while he masturbated. We then got around to a harness but an "unrealistic" dil like the Rachel. He got into it and we moved on.... Often he will bring out a harness and a dil ready for us to play.
05/17/2010
Contributor: Boobs and Lubes Boobs and Lubes
Most of us have the craving for new and different things in the bedroom, why should we limit ourselves. One could want prostate stimulation without being attracted to the opposite sex. Nothing about a man interests me, pegging is just a way of adding another area of stimulation.
05/17/2010
Contributor: Owl Identified Owl Identified
I voted for my partner, saying yes to pegging, no to gender confusion, and yes to bisexual. I think two things about this whole dealie are a shame. One: that anyone should feel guilty for enjoying a consensual sexual act. Two: that the thought that you might be perceived as gay, confused about your gender, or presenting your gender in an unconventional way is a deterrent, as if any of that stuff is inherently negative. Shameshameshame. Oh well, we have fun nevertheless.
07/17/2010
Contributor: LiftedUp LiftedUp
I am hetero, not gender confused, and LOVE getting pegged. It's such an intense experience to get your p-spot hit like that, and it really caters to my submissive nature. It truly is one of my favorite bedroom activities, and I think it's a shame that more men are not open to such acts for fear of what "label" it may place on them.
07/17/2010
Contributor: oliverHyde oliverHyde
I don't know if I count for this discussion (genderqueer, bio-female) but I LOVE pegging and it definitely makes me gender-confused. It was strap-on play that made me first start to really question my gender identity.
07/22/2010
Contributor: Ciao. Ciao.
I'm way gender confused, but it has nothing to do with pegging and everything to do with me being trans.


I am pretty much exclusively attracted to women, and I'm male-bodied so I'm pretty much hetero as far as anyone keeping score, but I love getting pegged (and even love wearing a strapon to use on my female partner). Anal stimulation for me has nothing to do with sexuality and simply has everything to do with alternate sources of pleasure and changing roles in the bedroom.

As an aside, gender confusion might not be the right way to describe gay/straight/queer feelings about pegging, it's more of a sexuality confusion thing than gender specifically. Sorry, just my little peeve on terminology relating to gender/sex/identity.
07/22/2010
Contributor: Timaree Timaree
Prostates do not have a sexual orientation. This topic is ridiculous. Read the definitive answer here: link
08/04/2010
Contributor: Owl Identified Owl Identified
Quote:
Originally posted by Timaree
Prostates do not have a sexual orientation. This topic is ridiculous. Read the definitive answer here: link
Cheers to that link!
08/11/2010
Contributor: guy4guyz420 guy4guyz420
im gay proud of it and am NOT gender confused. Enjoy Pegging
10/04/2010
Contributor: Bobbear41 Bobbear41
Quote:
Originally posted by ♥ Amanda ♥
This poll is for the men of EF. I want to know if you participate in pegging.. due you ever feel gender confused or are you comfortable with being a straight man that enjoys p spot stimulation.
I am bisexual and not gender confused. I have been fucked by both real cocks and strap ons. When I have my lover's cock or strap on in my ass I don't feel like anything other than a guy who is lucky enough to have lovers to penetrate me anally. I also enjoy anally penetrating my female lovers but have no desire to penetrate another man.. It does truly take all kinds..
01/08/2011
Contributor: That Guy That Guy
I really don't get what pegging has to do with gender confusion. At best, it might be marginally related to confusion about one's orientation, but even that insinuation I find a bit absurd. In any case, I'm not the least bit confused about my gender.
01/31/2011
Contributor: Fuck it. Fuck it.
I voted for my ex. He wasn't gender confused, or even worried that he might be taken for that. He just knew what he liked.
02/25/2011
Contributor: slynch slynch
Not confused.

Love women.

Love getting pegged by my wife.
02/27/2011
Contributor: That Man from Mars That Man from Mars
Unless you can have a sexual orientation involving dildos (dildosexual?) I don't think it's possible to affect your orientation.
06/05/2011
Contributor: aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
Quote:
Originally posted by Victoria
I think guys should feel free to explore and receive pleasure however they wish. It's a shame that men still feel self-conscious about anal play because of the fear that people might make assumptions about them, or because they have hang ups ... more
props, victoria. great post, and i totally agree.
06/15/2011