What are your preferred pronouns?

Contributor: sasshole sasshole
I'm curious as to what people's preferred pronouns are, i always get misgendered and called her and it's a bit invalidating.
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
they/them
27
hir/ze
5
he/him
44
zir/ze
1
other
16
Total votes: 93 (83 voters)
Poll is closed
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Contributor: Willowe Willowe
ze/hir, but most people still call me her. At least my friends that I'm out to seem to do a pretty good job of remember to use the right name and pronouns.
09/01/2012
Contributor: Ryuson Ryuson
I go by she! I always like it when people tell me if they want me to use a different pronoun when we meet, that way I can use it from the get-go and not have to guess.
09/01/2012
Contributor: sodapin sodapin
He/him, but for some reason I really like they/them :S I think it's because of my past experiences of new people calling me "he" and my friends/family "correcting" them by saying "no, she".
09/01/2012
Contributor: sasshole sasshole
Quote:
Originally posted by sodapin
He/him, but for some reason I really like they/them :S I think it's because of my past experiences of new people calling me "he" and my friends/family "correcting" them by saying "no, she".
awh well i'm sorry to hear that : (
09/02/2012
Contributor: sasshole sasshole
Quote:
Originally posted by sasshole
I'm curious as to what people's preferred pronouns are, i always get misgendered and called her and it's a bit invalidating.
ah i forgot to put her and she as an option ;__; silly me.
09/02/2012
Contributor: Billie Bones Billie Bones
I like they/them. Really neutral and gives me a lot of space for gender fluidity day to day.
09/04/2012
Contributor: Sima-pusya Sima-pusya
he/him
09/04/2012
Contributor: thisisadeletedaccount thisisadeletedaccount
They/them, though I'll answer to other gender neutral pronoun forms, too.
I'm currently learning Spanish and I frequently mess up my own pronouns, wavering between masculine and feminine forms. I feel like I should learn to refer to myself in the feminine in Spanish since I'm generally read as female, but I often lapse into male pronouns without noticing.
09/04/2012
Contributor: RedKyuubi RedKyuubi
they/them
09/08/2012
Contributor: radioboy radioboy
Quote:
Originally posted by Willowe
ze/hir, but most people still call me her. At least my friends that I'm out to seem to do a pretty good job of remember to use the right name and pronouns.
I use he/him now, but when I did use ze/hir very few people would actually use it, even if they knew those were my preferred pronouns. It's really great to see that you're getting the pronouns you prefer from the friends you're out to
09/08/2012
Contributor: nori nori
she/her and or they/them on occasion.
09/08/2012
Contributor: Leather & Lace Leather & Lace
They/them
09/08/2012
Contributor: Non-Binary Unicorn Non-Binary Unicorn
I prefer singular they/them/their also. Anything gender-neutral suits me well.
09/09/2012
Contributor: Boyqueen Boyqueen
I prefer either her/him or singular they/them. When out in public or amongst cis people I tend to use he/him since it's easier, but with my trans* friends I prefer they/them because they understand it.
09/12/2012
Contributor: TheirPet TheirPet
Singular their.
09/12/2012
Contributor: violets violets
they/them. Sometimes he/him if I don't feel like explaining gender neutral pronouns to people
09/30/2012
Contributor: adam71 adam71
Male pronouns
10/05/2012
Contributor: caseyb caseyb
Quote:
Originally posted by Non-Binary Unicorn
I prefer singular they/them/their also. Anything gender-neutral suits me well.
10/05/2012
Contributor: Kristopher Sean Kristopher Sean
he/him
10/11/2012
Contributor: Mwar Mwar
How is "hir" pronounced as opposed to "her?" If someone could give me the phonetics of that, that'd be awesome!
10/11/2012
Contributor: Willowe Willowe
Quote:
Originally posted by Mwar
How is "hir" pronounced as opposed to "her?" If someone could give me the phonetics of that, that'd be awesome!
It's pronounced like "here" or "hear", if that helps any.
10/11/2012
Contributor: Missmarc Missmarc
Quote:
Originally posted by sasshole
I'm curious as to what people's preferred pronouns are, i always get misgendered and called her and it's a bit invalidating.
they/them
10/11/2012
Contributor: Mwar Mwar
Quote:
Originally posted by Willowe
It's pronounced like "here" or "hear", if that helps any.
Thank you!
10/11/2012
Contributor: Noira Noira
Quote:
Originally posted by Willowe
It's pronounced like "here" or "hear", if that helps any.
My problem with gender neutral pronouns is that they don't make sense based on the English language. Ze and hir seem fairly acceptable online, though I really think they look ugly. I have a fondness for se instead, it's just that z that makes me cringe. Hir sounds just too much like 'her' for my taste, so I prefer zir/sir/cir/pick yer poison. IRL I use they/them, and just make efforts to use gender neutral nouns and names. My sibling, my coworker, etc.

If someone told me they had a preferred pronoun though I'd try use it.
10/11/2012
Contributor: Genderfree Genderfree
Pronouns...

It's quite interesting. I'm studying linguistics, and in China, they don't have gender modifiers. Basically, it's impossible to miss someone's pronouns!

I go by he/him exclusively! However, if someone misses, I am never offended. After all, its not their fault that our language uses pronouns!
10/14/2012
Contributor: tiniest bird tiniest bird
they/them or he/him

personal experiences have put me off of zie/hir, but of course i use them for those who prefer them.
10/14/2012
Contributor: jsnyder87 jsnyder87
Quote:
Originally posted by tiniest bird
they/them or he/him

personal experiences have put me off of zie/hir, but of course i use them for those who prefer them.
Male pronouns only
10/20/2012
Contributor: buttcleavage buttcleavage
Quote:
Originally posted by sasshole
I'm curious as to what people's preferred pronouns are, i always get misgendered and called her and it's a bit invalidating.
Im thinking about using the pronouns co.
10/20/2012
Contributor: Jaxxie Lifeless Jaxxie Lifeless
male pronouns
10/21/2012