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Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Discussions with friends reveal some really deep feelings and differences of opinion on this one, so here goes.

On RELIGIOUS HOLIDAYS, do you refrain from having sex (love making)?

One friend says that on Christmas and especially Easter, she could not have sex with her husband, as it would seem too crude and self satisfying on such a "holy" day.

Another friend says that "holy days are THE time for consummating a marriage, since it reflects the ultimate expression of a HOLY bond between two people" ("to join as one").

So, how do YOU feel about this?
12/23/2011
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Contributor: karay123 karay123
I would not refrain from sex.

It should be said though that as of lately, I'm realizing more and more that my personal beliefs are pushing me away from Christianity. Like, almost entirely.
12/23/2011
Contributor: Ghost Ghost
I'm not religious, so the "holiness" of the day is not a determinant of whether I'm going to partake in carnality.
12/23/2011
Contributor: namelesschaos namelesschaos
I'm not religious but never the less I'm of the opinion that there is no reason to refrain from sex on days of joyous celebration. in deed sex can be an excellent and very appropriate celebration of joy.
12/23/2011
Contributor: Kynky Kytty Kynky Kytty
I come from a religious family and I've never heard of that. No, I don't refrain from it, but I don't usually have TIME for sex at Christmas.
12/23/2011
Contributor: Cherry21 Cherry21
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
Discussions with friends reveal some really deep feelings and differences of opinion on this one, so here goes.

On RELIGIOUS HOLIDAYS, do you refrain from having sex (love making)?

One friend says that on Christmas and especially ... more
f-that! I'll have sex any day!
12/23/2011
Contributor: Taylor Taylor
I've heard from a couple of married couples I know that they have given up sex for lent before, but other than that I have not heard of anyone doing this.
12/23/2011
Contributor: Kallisto Kallisto
No, I have not done that. It honestly has never occurred to me.
12/23/2011
Contributor: Subbi Subbi
I'm not religious so it doesnt matter to me lol
12/23/2011
Contributor: RonLee RonLee
I am no longer a believer but when I was, I'd occasionally fast as well as refrain from sex for religious reasons. And for someone with as high a sex drive as I have that was a big sacrifice. Thinking back, I can't believe how dumb I was.
12/23/2011
Contributor: Chilipepper Chilipepper
The libido just can't get into gear when surrounded by pastel colors, cartoon bunnies and chicks, and plastic colored eggs. Which is ironic because the symbolism is part of the fertility festivals taking place around that time of year.
12/23/2011
Contributor: Moein Moein
We have no restrictions at all for having sex at holiday nights. It is a human needs like food and water that shouldn't banned.
12/23/2011
Contributor: wetone123 wetone123
Never heard of that...
12/23/2011
Contributor: True Pleasures True Pleasures
As a Lutheran, I've never heard of that. Any day is free game.
12/23/2011
Contributor: GeekWife GeekWife
Honestly, I think sex makes a great gift on holidays, and my husband agrees. Easter... maaaaaybe. But Christmas isn't technically a "high holiday" in Christianity (Epiphany Sunday the week after is, and Good Friday/Easter most definitely is), so I don't see the problem.
12/23/2011
Contributor: Cherrylane Cherrylane
I'm not religious at all. The celebrating of religious holidays for me is more just going along with family tradition. So... it doesn't affect my sex life at all haha.
12/23/2011
Contributor: T&A1987 T&A1987
i can't comment about sex, but i used to refrain from masturbation. not anymore though. with the rapes, murders,thefts and other atrocities happening on christmas, like every other day of the week, I'd hope jesus wouldn't care about some guy releasing stress.
12/23/2011
Contributor: Hot 'N Sexy TexasMama Hot 'N Sexy TexasMama
Very conservative Christian here - but the day has nothing to do with whether we'll have sex or not...if we want it...we'll have it.
12/23/2011
Contributor: Nazaress Nazaress
Holidays are the BEST time to have sex. It's like giving another present.
12/23/2011
Contributor: CreamySweet CreamySweet
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
Discussions with friends reveal some really deep feelings and differences of opinion on this one, so here goes.

On RELIGIOUS HOLIDAYS, do you refrain from having sex (love making)?

One friend says that on Christmas and especially ... more
I am very much Christian non-Catholic (ok... I'm Southern Baptist). My husband is Catholic. We mutually agree that by far the majority of rules about sex are completely man-made or grossly and incorrectly interpreted rules imposed and based on the thoughts and morals of people who lived thousands of years ago. As such - no. Christmas and Easter have no change or bearing on us for getting our freak on - including mutual oral sex. Neither do the dates or religion for that matter infulence the way I dress (Thong bikini's, mini-skirts and heels, jeans with glitter and flash on the ass, Etc.) or anything else we ware.
12/24/2011
Contributor: SexyTabby SexyTabby
I have faith but my beliefs wouldn't include not having sex on any given day. The religious holidays are days marked on a calendar to be honored. How each person honors the day is purely up to the individuals. Love is a major role in many religious beliefs but many of the rules that come with religion are written by people who would use religion to manipulate society into doing what they feel is correct or what would be in their best interests. I read between the lines and do what's right in my heart not what someone or some religion dictates is right or wrong.
12/24/2011
Contributor: Rossie Rossie
I'm not religious, and I've never heard of such a thing. In fact, I'll make it a point to include some nice lovemaking on all special occasions and holidays.
12/24/2011
Contributor: TameTemptress TameTemptress
No, we don't refrain.
12/24/2011
Contributor: Breas Breas
I've never heard of this before.. ever. I grew up in a very religious family, and a lot of my friends back in the day were from many different religions... How interesting.
12/24/2011
Contributor: slynch slynch
We don't refrain, which is good for me considering that Dec 25 is my birthday.

Birthday lovin'!
12/24/2011
Contributor: unfulfilled unfulfilled
I'm semi-religious, but don't refrain. I've never heard of that.
12/24/2011
Contributor: AndroAngel AndroAngel
Since I don't view sex as a dirty act, I think there is no better way to honor a holy day than with sex.

Especially Easter, which was originally a fertility holiday that was celebrated by having lots of sex. (before being co-opted by Christianity.)

I'm not a member of any particular religion, I just believe in a greater power that should be celebrated, so I pick and choose the holidays that make the most sense to me. (Solstice and equinox celebrations, spring and harvest festivals, lantern festivals, etc.)
12/24/2011
Contributor: Ms. Spice Ms. Spice
I'm an atheist, and I don't refrain from having sex on any holiday. I don't believe in abstaining from something so important for whatever reason
12/24/2011
Contributor: shinypinkstars shinypinkstars
I've never heard of it being a problem.
12/24/2011
Contributor: catgirl9 catgirl9
I am not religious, so any day is a good day for sex.
12/24/2011