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Anyone else keep a secret identity on EF? And if so, why?

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Contributor: ToyGurl ToyGurl
I personally keep MOST of my life private on here, except, of course, my sex life. I have told many of you where I work (Women's Health Center and Planned Parenthood) and most of my followers know I am getting married in July to a handsome air force man. But other than that, I don't get too much into my life. I don't say exactly where I live, use my personal name, etc. I mainly do this because I want to make sure I don't bump into people from school/work/etc. God forbid family! The only people who really know I use EF is all of you, my roommate, fiance, and a few friends. That's about it.

On the other hand, being secretive is a little fun. This site is so much like Facebook, yet, you don't really need to use your face. I find that to be so awesome.

So, does anyone else keep a secret identity? What kind of secret identity do you keep? What is your reason?

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Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
Yes, my identity on EF is secret
70
No, I am open about my entire life
3
I prefer to only share my sex life
18
I share some of my personal life other than sex
47
I don't share anything but reviews
I just shop here, no reviews
2
I keep a secret identity to avoid running into people I know
34
I keep a secret identity because it's fun
16
I have no idea why I keep a secret identity
9
I keep a secret identity because my partner doesn't know I shop here
Other
15
Total votes: 214 (93 voters)
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Contributor: Wondermom Wondermom
I share some things, but I try and keep fairly anonymous so it doesn't get back to hurt my other side of my life in the homeschooling world. I also do my hardest to keep my sons name secret to protect the innocent.
06/02/2011
Contributor: Miss Zombie Miss Zombie
I share some things. I really don't mind doing it here though. However, my EF life is definitely kept a secret from people I know IRL. There's no way in the world I would tell anyone other than my husband. The people I know aren't in any way understanding enough to hear me talk about sex toys.. lol
06/02/2011
Contributor: El-Jaro El-Jaro
um..."Other"?
06/02/2011
Contributor: Bunnycups Bunnycups
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Originally posted by Miss Zombie
I share some things. I really don't mind doing it here though. However, my EF life is definitely kept a secret from people I know IRL. There's no way in the world I would tell anyone other than my husband. The people I know aren't in any ... more
Ditto.
06/02/2011
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
I don't use my real name or my face, not because I might run into someone I know. If there were on Eden, too, what would I have to be embarrassed about?

However, I have worked in the nursing field and so many of the people in this field are so conservative. We are even supposed to take a "morality oath" which is SO nonspecific, that they could include anything in it and try to take your certification and registrations if they wanted to.
06/02/2011
Contributor: kjkitty kjkitty
I am just so used to keeping information private on the internet. Although everyone on this site seems so safe, I am still programmed to keep stuff private on the internet because of "weirdos" out there. I guess it never occurred to me to do otherwise.
06/02/2011
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
I don't use my, My Man or my children's real names, nor any images in which I could be closely identified. I do videos, and I'm sure people who know me would recognize me, but I'm not worried about that all that much. It's more for my professional stuff, although I'm not able to work much in my field right now, due to my health.

I figure if someone were to recognize me from a sex toy web site, they are doing the same thing I'm doing and there would be no issue.
06/02/2011
Contributor: Ansley Ansley
I'm becoming more and more comfortable with putting who I am out there. I do plan on making a living in the sex industry in some way, just not sure yet. Until I figure it out, I want to stay on the downlow.
06/02/2011
Contributor: Antipova Antipova
I keep as many details private as I can, and I keep specifics very non-specific. I have told a couple of friends about EF, and they've read my reviews, but we talk sex anyway.

I keep most details concealed, though, not because I worry about someone I know coming across me, but rather because all of this forum is stored forever. I don't want someone to be able to back-track me and find out lots of personal information. That's part of the reason I chose a name that crops up a lot on the internet. Julie Christie is much more interesting to would-be stalkers than I am!
06/02/2011
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Anonymity is key for privacy.
06/02/2011
Contributor: ToyGurl ToyGurl
Quote:
Originally posted by Wondermom
I share some things, but I try and keep fairly anonymous so it doesn't get back to hurt my other side of my life in the homeschooling world. I also do my hardest to keep my sons name secret to protect the innocent.
That's a really great reason to keep a secret identity. Your avatar fits perfectly for being anonymous btw!
06/02/2011
Contributor: ToyGurl ToyGurl
Quote:
Originally posted by Antipova
I keep as many details private as I can, and I keep specifics very non-specific. I have told a couple of friends about EF, and they've read my reviews, but we talk sex anyway.

I keep most details concealed, though, not because I worry ... more
Great idea! I actually have a seperate card that I'm using for EF just in case, and the people I have a card with let me use my nickname on the card rather than my real name. Of course it's a realistic name such as "Andy" for Andrew.
06/02/2011
Contributor: ToyGurl ToyGurl
Quote:
Originally posted by P'Gell
I don't use my, My Man or my children's real names, nor any images in which I could be closely identified. I do videos, and I'm sure people who know me would recognize me, but I'm not worried about that all that much. It's more ... more
Great point. I never thought about that. The only issue is that most of my family sees using sex toys as something VERY wrong unless you are married with a ring and a piece of paper. Actually, most of my family thinks masturbation is something very ungodly. If they knew I was on this site, several people I love may look at me very differently.

I'm also quitting my job soon since I finished school, and going on to do the job I've been working to get which is very professional. I don't want any backtracking to my account. That would just be trouble.
06/02/2011
Contributor: Retro Retro
Quote:
Originally posted by Wondermom
I share some things, but I try and keep fairly anonymous so it doesn't get back to hurt my other side of my life in the homeschooling world. I also do my hardest to keep my sons name secret to protect the innocent.
I do the same thing. I have no problem discussing my sex life or toys/products out in the real world or on here but I keep things vague.
06/02/2011
Contributor: NarcissisticLust NarcissisticLust
I share, but I also don't want to run into anyone I know here. Also, I am an education major and, although sex and career are completely separate, if employers knew I was an active member of EF it may be frowned upon. *Exasperated sigh,* society is so unfair.
06/02/2011
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
Quote:
Originally posted by ToyGurl
I personally keep MOST of my life private on here, except, of course, my sex life. I have told many of you where I work (Women's Health Center and Planned Parenthood) and most of my followers know I am getting married in July to a handsome air ... more
I am pretty open about much of my life but I maintain a shield around my children for obvious reasons. I am also very open in my real life about my involvement with EF.
06/02/2011
Contributor: BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
Quote:
Originally posted by El-Jaro
um..."Other"?
Oh JR!
06/02/2011
Contributor: BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
I keep my identity mostly secret here. Not because I feel like I have anything to hide from you, but to keep people I know IRL from finding me here. A lot of my friends know what I do, but only 5(?) of them know my moniker. There are actually more people from EF that know my real name than IRL friends that know my identity here.

I'm not worried about running into people HERE that I know in real life because if they're here talking about their sex life and sex toys, than we have more in common than I originally thought! Truthfully, I think I would be more surprised to see them here than they would be to see me.
06/02/2011
Contributor: ToyBoy ToyBoy
Since I am home for summer I'm stuck living in the close-minded bible belt, and this kind of thing is about as frowned upon as it gets. Plus I'm looking for a new job, and this wouldn't help.
06/02/2011
Contributor: Kdlips Kdlips
nope im open
06/02/2011
Contributor: Dusk Dusk
I keep a secret identity because I worry one day I could lose my job (also Education) for the things I have done and said online. I think of my field as one that tries to be inclusive of different lifestyles, but it still depends where I am and who I'm working for.
06/02/2011
Contributor: ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
Pretty much a open book here, anyone with my email will know who I am if they looked. Being in a new state helps a bunch, but I am not scared of anyone seeing what I do here. I am waiting for the day when someone comes into work and says "Hey I know you, I love your reviews/videos."
06/02/2011
Contributor: Inwitari Inwitari
I don't like to give out too much information about myself on the net, I also don't give out too much personal info. in my regular life. I like to keep the two separate to avoid any problems.
06/02/2011
Contributor: daniel and frances daniel and frances
Quote:
Originally posted by ToyGurl
I personally keep MOST of my life private on here, except, of course, my sex life. I have told many of you where I work (Women's Health Center and Planned Parenthood) and most of my followers know I am getting married in July to a handsome air ... more
ef and blogging are private due to our situation.
06/02/2011
Contributor: Jobthingy Jobthingy
I dont care so much about my face. no big deal to me. I dont use my real name because it is quite original and I dont like gogglebots getting a hold of it.. So Jobthingy it is
06/02/2011
Contributor: BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
Quote:
Originally posted by Jobthingy
I dont care so much about my face. no big deal to me. I dont use my real name because it is quite original and I dont like gogglebots getting a hold of it.. So Jobthingy it is
hi and
06/02/2011
Contributor: Jobthingy Jobthingy
Quote:
Originally posted by BBW Talks Toys
hi and
right back atchya babe
06/02/2011
Contributor: null null
Although several of my friends know I have an account here, we don't share screen names. I draw the line somewhere between knowing I own sex toys, and knowing exactly which orifices they go into and how...
06/02/2011
Contributor: Cedarlooman Cedarlooman
I keep it a secret for job reasons and many of my friends wouldn't necessarily disagree with what I post here, but we don't talk openly about it. I also have a lot of very personal things that I feel more comfortable sharing knowing that it is anonymous except for the few people who do have met me irl.
06/02/2011