I'm creating this thread to hopefully help me feel less alone. I've struggled with depression and anxiety as long as I can remember, and have been going through a very rough patch the last week or so. I think it's because I've been drinking more lately (not A LOT, a lot, but 2-3 glasses of wine a night, every night.) I am going to limit myself to one-yes, one-glass of wine per week now. Plus my cousin just got married, and while I'm happy for her, it reminds me how much I regret my marriage and wish I could go back in time and just say NO. Not to mention I wish I could have believed in and loved myself so that I could have been happy and found a better match for me.. Anyway, yeah, it's been hard. I would love some virtual hugs from you guys.
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*hugs* I have had a severe panic disorder for over a decade and even disabled because of it. You learn to cope I guess, but it sounds like you could use a new path. Good luck with everything hun!
Originally posted by
bayosgirl
I'm creating this thread to hopefully help me feel less alone. I've struggled with depression and anxiety as long as I can remember, and have been going through a very rough patch the last week or so. I think it's because I've been
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I'm creating this thread to hopefully help me feel less alone. I've struggled with depression and anxiety as long as I can remember, and have been going through a very rough patch the last week or so. I think it's because I've been drinking more lately (not A LOT, a lot, but 2-3 glasses of wine a night, every night.) I am going to limit myself to one-yes, one-glass of wine per week now. Plus my cousin just got married, and while I'm happy for her, it reminds me how much I regret my marriage and wish I could go back in time and just say NO. Not to mention I wish I could have believed in and loved myself so that I could have been happy and found a better match for me.. Anyway, yeah, it's been hard. I would love some virtual hugs from you guys.
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i take medication and go to therapy. it helps a lot.
06/25/2012
Huge hugs--you are not alone!! I am sorry you had to go through that, but you need to remember that the past experiences shape the future person!! You are in my thoughts and I hope things turn around for you asap!!
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I am so very sorry your dealing with so much. I too suffer with bouts of depression and I take medication for it. From 2002 to 2009 I lived in Fl. and It was one of the worse depressions of my life. I became suicidal because of it. I've been in remission since July 2009. I moved back to Tx. and that helped quite a bit. Next I got on medication in August 2010 (I had to stop all the medications I was on from Fl. doctors) Last but not leasts I was able to build up a support system. My pain level has gone down and my energy went up. I also have to thank all of the edenfantasys community because I am so happy now because of them. I have never met a more supportive group of people. I hope they will help you too. I will keep you in my heart and prey for you to get better. Best Wishes to you.
Originally posted by
bayosgirl
I'm creating this thread to hopefully help me feel less alone. I've struggled with depression and anxiety as long as I can remember, and have been going through a very rough patch the last week or so. I think it's because I've been
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I'm creating this thread to hopefully help me feel less alone. I've struggled with depression and anxiety as long as I can remember, and have been going through a very rough patch the last week or so. I think it's because I've been drinking more lately (not A LOT, a lot, but 2-3 glasses of wine a night, every night.) I am going to limit myself to one-yes, one-glass of wine per week now. Plus my cousin just got married, and while I'm happy for her, it reminds me how much I regret my marriage and wish I could go back in time and just say NO. Not to mention I wish I could have believed in and loved myself so that I could have been happy and found a better match for me.. Anyway, yeah, it's been hard. I would love some virtual hugs from you guys.
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06/25/2012
You are definitely not alone!
Drinking can definitely make things worse. Alcohol is a depressant - it fools us by first giving us a boost and then it takes us the other way, sometimes dramatically.
You didn't say if you're being treated but if not, I would strongly encourage you to seek help. Depression and anxiety are now recognized as legitimate illnesses; they no longer carry the stigma they once had. For most, it's a chemical thing. That means despite feeling like you can will it away, ignore it, or tough it out, it isn't something that can be controlled by any amount of willpower. On the bright side, it does mean it can be treated! Treatment takes time and patience. Meds can take several weeks before they start working, and not all meds work for everyone. Therapy takes time as well. But when treatment starts working, there's no question it was all worth it!
I hope you're feeling better soon!
Drinking can definitely make things worse. Alcohol is a depressant - it fools us by first giving us a boost and then it takes us the other way, sometimes dramatically.
You didn't say if you're being treated but if not, I would strongly encourage you to seek help. Depression and anxiety are now recognized as legitimate illnesses; they no longer carry the stigma they once had. For most, it's a chemical thing. That means despite feeling like you can will it away, ignore it, or tough it out, it isn't something that can be controlled by any amount of willpower. On the bright side, it does mean it can be treated! Treatment takes time and patience. Meds can take several weeks before they start working, and not all meds work for everyone. Therapy takes time as well. But when treatment starts working, there's no question it was all worth it!
I hope you're feeling better soon!
06/25/2012
Thanks everyone. Your responses help more than you know. In answer to your question Arch600, I am not being treated now. I was on medication in the past and while it helped my anxiety greatly, nothing has helped with the depression long-term (I've tried 4-5 different meds.) I also have a deep distrust of medical professionals in general, which is why I've avoided seeing someone recently. However it's gotten so bad that even my husband has been urging me to see a Psychiatrist. If nothing else, I can eliminate my anxiety by going back on the med I was on before (Celexa/Citalopram.) And that's better than nothing. I'm also wanting to do the GAPS diet (research it-Gut and Psychology Syndrome) but it takes a TON of effort and planning, which I can't stomach right now. I'm hoping medication gives me the motivation to do it, and maybe I can fix the root of this problem once and for all.
06/25/2012
I have suffered from severe depression and anxiety my whole life. If it were not for psychiatric drugs and therapy, I do not believe I would have lived to see my 21st birthday.
I agree with a lot of what Arch600 said. From my experience, one of the most important parts of treating these kinds of things successfully is finding the right psychiatrist/psycholog ist/therapist for you. One you feel listens to you and takes you seriously.
It took years for me and my doctor to find a combination of medications that worked right for me. So it really needs to be some one you trust.
It can be a hard and slow process, but a hard and slow process is better than feeling like crap indefinitely, yeah?
I agree with a lot of what Arch600 said. From my experience, one of the most important parts of treating these kinds of things successfully is finding the right psychiatrist/psycholog ist/therapist for you. One you feel listens to you and takes you seriously.
It took years for me and my doctor to find a combination of medications that worked right for me. So it really needs to be some one you trust.
It can be a hard and slow process, but a hard and slow process is better than feeling like crap indefinitely, yeah?
06/25/2012
You aren't alone, hun. I'm in the same boat, but I'm single. I feel extremely lonely since the only people I talk to are my parents, the doctors I have to see all the damn time, or the people here on EF. If you are taking medication though, like I am, please don't drink. I don't want you to risk hurting yourself.
I understand exactly how you feel about your cousin's wedding. All of my siblings are happily married except for me. I'm the lonely sick one that's stuck at home with mom and dad. I'm so happy for them, just like you are happy for your cousin, but it really does hurt to think about why our lives can't be that great either.
If you ever need to talk, you can message me anytime. Here's a group hug and a love shower, since I know you can definitely use it! Please stay safe!
I understand exactly how you feel about your cousin's wedding. All of my siblings are happily married except for me. I'm the lonely sick one that's stuck at home with mom and dad. I'm so happy for them, just like you are happy for your cousin, but it really does hurt to think about why our lives can't be that great either.
If you ever need to talk, you can message me anytime. Here's a group hug and a love shower, since I know you can definitely use it! Please stay safe!
06/25/2012
anxiety...... disorder? I'm guessing? Anxiety itself is just an emotion, got kinda confused for a second. I was diagnosed with anxiety disorder in junior high, it's gotten a lot better with my improved diet and some therapy. Drugs made it much worse! I'll never take a depression/anxiety disorder medication again.
06/25/2012
I've had problems with depression and anxiety most of my life. I have been on meds for them in the past, but am not currently. One of the worst things you can do to yourself is to think about what you would do over in your life. The 'if only' stuff has got to go! You're only setting yourself up for more depression if you're looking back on all the things you wish you could change. You can't change where you've been, trust me, there have been tons of times I've wished I could. The only thing you can do now, is change the path you're heading down NOW! You wished you hadn't married your husband, well, either put everything you can into having a great marriage now, or figure out a way to move past it. Don't get caught up in the mind cycle of the past stuff. Focus on what you can change and move forward from there. I think counseling is an awesome way to help deal with those things, and there's no shame in that!!! I would try to limit what you're drinking and it's great that you've seen that and are going to change it. If you need someone to talk with, I'm here....I'm so sorry that you're struggling, but trust me, you've not at ALL alone in your feelings!!!
06/25/2012
I went to therapy for 3 years and took medication for about 6 months. I was never officially diagnosed, but it was figured that I had depression and GAD. I stopped having therapy about 3 months ago and stopped medication about 6 months ago (meds did nothing, but therapy helped a lot). I'm coping pretty well.
I hope you feel better soon. I never thought I would feel better... it took some time, but I got there eventually.
I hope you feel better soon. I never thought I would feel better... it took some time, but I got there eventually.
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Hon, I'm so sorry you are suffering.
Originally posted by
bayosgirl
Thanks everyone. Your responses help more than you know. In answer to your question Arch600, I am not being treated now. I was on medication in the past and while it helped my anxiety greatly, nothing has helped with the depression long-term
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Thanks everyone. Your responses help more than you know. In answer to your question Arch600, I am not being treated now. I was on medication in the past and while it helped my anxiety greatly, nothing has helped with the depression long-term (I've tried 4-5 different meds.) I also have a deep distrust of medical professionals in general, which is why I've avoided seeing someone recently. However it's gotten so bad that even my husband has been urging me to see a Psychiatrist. If nothing else, I can eliminate my anxiety by going back on the med I was on before (Celexa/Citalopram.) And that's better than nothing. I'm also wanting to do the GAPS diet (research it-Gut and Psychology Syndrome) but it takes a TON of effort and planning, which I can't stomach right now. I'm hoping medication gives me the motivation to do it, and maybe I can fix the root of this problem once and for all.
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It can take a number of meds to find the right one. I think it took about 6 or 7 meds (antidepressants only, not counting antianxiety meds) for me to find that Zoloft works the best for me. It took several years and at least 3 doctors.
I have to be honest with the "diet." It takes medical testing and invasive biopsies of your small intestine to find out if you are really "gluten intolerant."
I WILL NOT engage in any discussion in this on this board. I've seen SO many negative tests in people who have been told they have this, it's the new fad.
REAL MEDICINE and good therapy will help you. I'll PM you.
It will get better. With a good doctor and good medical and health care.
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My Dr. tried to put me on meds when I was 14. I have been depressed enough to attempt suicide before as well as to sleep through entire days at a time. I worry so much that I sometimes wish I could turn my brain off entirely! When I'm up, I'm really up. When I'm down, I only move out of bed because my daughter needs me to. Hope you feel better soon!
Originally posted by
bayosgirl
I'm creating this thread to hopefully help me feel less alone. I've struggled with depression and anxiety as long as I can remember, and have been going through a very rough patch the last week or so. I think it's because I've been
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I'm creating this thread to hopefully help me feel less alone. I've struggled with depression and anxiety as long as I can remember, and have been going through a very rough patch the last week or so. I think it's because I've been drinking more lately (not A LOT, a lot, but 2-3 glasses of wine a night, every night.) I am going to limit myself to one-yes, one-glass of wine per week now. Plus my cousin just got married, and while I'm happy for her, it reminds me how much I regret my marriage and wish I could go back in time and just say NO. Not to mention I wish I could have believed in and loved myself so that I could have been happy and found a better match for me.. Anyway, yeah, it's been hard. I would love some virtual hugs from you guys.
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06/25/2012
HUGS! If you're able to get outside for a little bit of sunshine a day the natural Vitamin D from the sun acts as a mood lifter. Also, EPA-DHA found in fish and/or fishoil supplements also help lift ones mood.
06/25/2012
I've been diagnosed with dysthymia (life-long chronic depression), severe anxiety, social agoraphobia ... pretty much the sucky parts that make being social a very frightening part of living (but I somehow end up on stage, doing presentations, attending conventions, etc). Medications and life-long talk therapy are part of my existence to just minimally function day-to-day.
Yes, finding the right docs are VERY important - they're like shoes: yeah, they do their job, but are you comfortable with them?
Medicating yourself with alcohol is not going to help matters. I've lost relatives to alcoholism because they self-medicated themselves that way.
Wishing you can go back in time and make different decisions? Yeah, I do that, too. It's not productive, that's for sure. It can also make you feel worse for what you're having to deal with today. Time travel on that sort of scale is still fiction, I'm afraid.
I know you're not at the point yet, but you'll find it will help once you finally make a decision about the marriage thing. My own indecision about ending my marriage lasted two years - I was so stubborn in NOT making a decision that I ended up on a bridge and ready to jump off because my will couldn't do it anymore. Don't let it get to that point for you - work through it and set a goal of Making A Decision.
Yes, finding the right docs are VERY important - they're like shoes: yeah, they do their job, but are you comfortable with them?
Medicating yourself with alcohol is not going to help matters. I've lost relatives to alcoholism because they self-medicated themselves that way.
Wishing you can go back in time and make different decisions? Yeah, I do that, too. It's not productive, that's for sure. It can also make you feel worse for what you're having to deal with today. Time travel on that sort of scale is still fiction, I'm afraid.
I know you're not at the point yet, but you'll find it will help once you finally make a decision about the marriage thing. My own indecision about ending my marriage lasted two years - I was so stubborn in NOT making a decision that I ended up on a bridge and ready to jump off because my will couldn't do it anymore. Don't let it get to that point for you - work through it and set a goal of Making A Decision.
06/25/2012
You're definitely not alone. I have general/social anxiety and seasonal affective disorder. I'm one of those people who do things 'naturally' and it helps me pretty well. *big hugs*
06/25/2012
I have not been diagnosed and do not take medication so I did not vote. But I know I have periods of depression as well as anxiety. Most of the anxiety is brought on at work since I deal with a lot of people, often very rude, face to face. The depression comes and goes but can last for a long period of time. I guess my coping methods are usually talking with family and especially friends and exercising. Well going for walks with my dog is mainly the only exercise . Though I have my own coping methods, I am not against getting professional help and/or trying medications. Different things work for different people.
Keep strong bayosgirl and if you need to talk I know so many people on here, including me, would be willing to listen
Keep strong bayosgirl and if you need to talk I know so many people on here, including me, would be willing to listen
06/25/2012
I used to take ADD medication when I was a kid.
06/25/2012
i have alot of freinds and family with ADD AND some with depression and it can be hard just being realetd to them
06/25/2012
I'm self-diagnosed, does that count? But I think statistically 16% of the population suffers from some sort of depression.
06/25/2012
Just to clarify, I don't use alcohol as self-medication. In fact, when I'm upset I purposely DON'T drink. The only reason I drink wine is because I genuinely like the taste. I love discovering wines from all over the world and pairing them with food. I have never been drunk, nor do I ever want to be. But it looks like this passion is going to have to be on hold for awhile, at least till I get better, because it does seem like it might be affecting my moods long-term. Oh well-I'll enjoy that one glass a week that much more.
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Okay, thank you for clarifying. I like a good glass of wine, too, but with depression ... yeah. It's kinda tricky if there's a family history of it.
Originally posted by
bayosgirl
Just to clarify, I don't use alcohol as self-medication. In fact, when I'm upset I purposely DON'T drink. The only reason I drink wine is because I genuinely like the taste. I love discovering wines from all over the world and pairing
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Just to clarify, I don't use alcohol as self-medication. In fact, when I'm upset I purposely DON'T drink. The only reason I drink wine is because I genuinely like the taste. I love discovering wines from all over the world and pairing them with food. I have never been drunk, nor do I ever want to be. But it looks like this passion is going to have to be on hold for awhile, at least till I get better, because it does seem like it might be affecting my moods long-term. Oh well-I'll enjoy that one glass a week that much more.
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You can pull through this, hon.
06/25/2012
Depression and anxiety have ruined my life for the last ten years
06/25/2012
I have bipolar and everything that comes along with it. I am on medication for it. Here is my hug to you sorry you are going thru this. Keep your head up.
06/25/2012
Hugs! And sorry you are feeling that way I am not diagnosed with depression or anxiety but I know myself well enough to know I have both on and off. My hope is you find your happy place and a way through this to a future you are happier with.
06/25/2012
I was diagnosed both with depression and axiety. I no longer take medication because I'm hypersensitive to them and get all the side effects for no benefits.
My coping mechanism is depersonalization/dere alization, a comorbid disorder. That's no very healthy, but thinking I do not exist nor does reality helps me...
My coping mechanism is depersonalization/dere alization, a comorbid disorder. That's no very healthy, but thinking I do not exist nor does reality helps me...
06/25/2012
Sorry for the double post, my computer posted my answer twice.
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I was diagnosed with depression a while ago.
Originally posted by
bayosgirl
I'm creating this thread to hopefully help me feel less alone. I've struggled with depression and anxiety as long as I can remember, and have been going through a very rough patch the last week or so. I think it's because I've been
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I'm creating this thread to hopefully help me feel less alone. I've struggled with depression and anxiety as long as I can remember, and have been going through a very rough patch the last week or so. I think it's because I've been drinking more lately (not A LOT, a lot, but 2-3 glasses of wine a night, every night.) I am going to limit myself to one-yes, one-glass of wine per week now. Plus my cousin just got married, and while I'm happy for her, it reminds me how much I regret my marriage and wish I could go back in time and just say NO. Not to mention I wish I could have believed in and loved myself so that I could have been happy and found a better match for me.. Anyway, yeah, it's been hard. I would love some virtual hugs from you guys.
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You are not alone.
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