Do you mind when people hit on you?

Contributor: HannahPanda HannahPanda
Do you find it to be flattering or annoying? I'm not talking about really sleezy guys who walk up to you, or girls, just speaking about people who casually hit on you when they don't realize you're taken or not interested. Is it flattering to you moreso than annoying?
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I like it, it's flattering.
37  (51%)
I dislike it, and it's annoying.
9  (12%)
I don't really care either way.
20  (28%)
Other
6  (8%)
Total votes: 72
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Contributor: Chilipepper Chilipepper
I've never had it happen. What's it like?
12/21/2011
Contributor: Girly Girl Girly Girl
it depends ,if it's too annoying i don't like it if it's moderate flattering
12/21/2011
Contributor: - Kira - - Kira -
Flattering to a point. As in, it's flattering for the first minute or so. When I say I'm married, that's the cue to stop. When it continues past that point, it's annoying.

It's also annoying when it happens multiple times in a short window of time. Example of course being when you go out to a bar or something and you get, like, ten people hitting on you in thirty minutes. I just want a drink already! The first three were flattering. The rest of them are hinging on my ability to have a nice evening. Thus why I don't go to bars without my husband and why I refuse to let him so much as go to the restroom.
12/21/2011
Contributor: voenne voenne
I'm socially awkward and don't know really how to respond but I try to be nice even if I'm not interested.
12/21/2011
Contributor: Cherry21 Cherry21
Quote:
Originally posted by HannahPanda
Do you find it to be flattering or annoying? I'm not talking about really sleezy guys who walk up to you, or girls, just speaking about people who casually hit on you when they don't realize you're taken or not interested. Is it ... more
Its always annoyed me. For me it started when I was around 11 or 12 though, cause I got bib boos EARLY! I would have grown men hitting on me, and its definitely annoying. Still is annoying, and I don't like it.
12/21/2011
Contributor: Mike Honcho Mike Honcho
Any flirtation from the opposite sex is always welcome. It's nice to know that you grab others attention.
12/21/2011
Contributor: Subbi Subbi
Its not too bad if the othe person doesn't realize your taken because then you kinda think damn I do look good today! lol but when its some sleezy guy at the gas station its just gross and freaks me out.
12/21/2011
Contributor: aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
Quote:
Originally posted by HannahPanda
Do you find it to be flattering or annoying? I'm not talking about really sleezy guys who walk up to you, or girls, just speaking about people who casually hit on you when they don't realize you're taken or not interested. Is it ... more
it depends on how they do it. if it's a sincere flattering compliment, such as today, this boy hollered at me from across the street 'i like your outfit, and your hair.. you're pretty!' and i was feeling especially unconfident in the moment, so i smiled really big, and he said 'i like your smile too!' that made my day.

but guys just vulturing me makes me want to hurl. i'm not much of a fan of macho men for many reasons, and lean towards feminine men for the same. my boyfriend never hit on me, and i dont go for guys who 'hit on' other girls. it's disgusting to me.
12/21/2011
Contributor: LAndJ LAndJ
I think it's a huge compliment, as long as it's not done in a creepy way and they realize they need to stop when I say I'm not interested.
12/21/2011
Contributor: T&A1987 T&A1987
i don't get hit on, so it's never come up.
12/21/2011
Contributor: Taylor Taylor
I usually like it. Sometimes it makes me feel awkward and uncomfortable depending on how they go about it though lol
12/21/2011
Contributor: Miss Morphine Miss Morphine
Sometimes it's flattering and others it's creepy or awkward.
12/21/2011
Contributor: TheSlyFox TheSlyFox
Quote:
Originally posted by aliceinthehole
it depends on how they do it. if it's a sincere flattering compliment, such as today, this boy hollered at me from across the street 'i like your outfit, and your hair.. you're pretty!' and i was feeling especially unconfident in the ... more
Exactly!
12/21/2011
Contributor: klyte klyte
Quote:
Originally posted by Chilipepper
I've never had it happen. What's it like?
Sometimes flattering, it really depends on how you look at it! I like for a guy to just.. give me the compliment and leave me to my way.
12/21/2011
Contributor: shySEXXaddict shySEXXaddict
Quote:
Originally posted by HannahPanda
Do you find it to be flattering or annoying? I'm not talking about really sleezy guys who walk up to you, or girls, just speaking about people who casually hit on you when they don't realize you're taken or not interested. Is it ... more
i find it flattering if its coming from the right person and they dont say something stupid.I actually had a guy recently tell me he friended me on facebook and i should write a message to him and if im lucky he might right back with his digits!I started laughin cuz it made me mad..how arrogant!needless to say i never wrote to him and he still sent his number..but i havent called it.so it can be annoying
12/21/2011
Contributor: philly philly
I like it. It means i'm accepted and doing something right
12/21/2011
Contributor: Pink Jewel Pink Jewel
Flattering
12/21/2011
Contributor: Sinfully Sinfully
I normally dont mind it can either be flattering or unflattering it just all depends how its done and who it is.
12/21/2011
Contributor: The Mother of a SiNner The Mother of a SiNner
Quote:
Originally posted by HannahPanda
Do you find it to be flattering or annoying? I'm not talking about really sleezy guys who walk up to you, or girls, just speaking about people who casually hit on you when they don't realize you're taken or not interested. Is it ... more
doesnt matter one way or the other
12/22/2011
Contributor: Avant-garde Avant-garde
Quote:
Originally posted by Chilipepper
I've never had it happen. What's it like?
Same here. lol. I am not even sure how I would react or if I would even notice.
12/22/2011
Contributor: Dirminxia Dirminxia
I find it a bit flattering, but usually I don't give it much thought.
12/22/2011
Contributor: K101 K101
I really don't mean to sound like a prude, but when someone gawks at my body, I get quite offended. I mean sure, they're looking because they are interested in some way, but it really feels like I am being violated. My partner and I and the 12 year old were talking about this last night. I went in the gas station and when I came out my partner was laughing because apparently they'd caught some old man staring at me and A (12 year old) said "He was looking at her down below and ugh! It makes me SOOO mad!" LOL. That was kind of sad that people have no shame. When I catch someone behind me taking a look at my booty I will make a clear point of turning around so they cannot look or like I told them last night when A got upset, if I'm sure someone is trying to look at my chest I look at them with a not so kind face and I jerk my jacket shut.

I just don't appreciate someone staring at my butt or chest in a sexual way. It makes me think "who the F do you think you are? What do you think I AM? An object? Something to hang up and stare at, violate with your eyes?" That may be a strong reaction, but I do have my reasons. It just almost feels disrespectful like they have some right to just think about you in that way. It just bothers me.

I only get upset if I am totally sure that someone's really mean mugging my butt or chest. Those are MY body parts and I don't want others looking at me like that when I have a partner. What PISSES me off is when someone knows us both and will stare at my butt or chest knowing that we're together and monogamous. It truly infuriates me.

It's not flattering to me, it's insulting. Now, if someone says I am pretty or even the occasional "she's beautiful" is nice and I don't take any offense to that. It doesn't make me feel violated. It's the hard "I would F you" looks that make me feel violated.
12/22/2011
Contributor: K101 K101
Quote:
Originally posted by shySEXXaddict
i find it flattering if its coming from the right person and they dont say something stupid.I actually had a guy recently tell me he friended me on facebook and i should write a message to him and if im lucky he might right back with his digits!I ... more
LOL! I totally would've felt the same way about this. What a douche bag.
12/22/2011
Contributor: unfulfilled unfulfilled
I don't get hit on, but I'm not out and about to get hit on either. IF I'm alone, its at Wal-Mart and one could look into my cart and realize I have kids (diapers,kids bubblebath etc.)I don't care if my best guy friends make a comment about me being cute b/c I've known them forever so that's ok and they're just being nice.
12/22/2011
Contributor: zeebot zeebot
It really bothers me.
12/22/2011
Contributor: Ms. Spice Ms. Spice
I love it but that's because I'm an attention whore. I get hit on a lot so I just smile and go along with it. sometimes it even turns into a successful first or seconds date
12/22/2011
Contributor: Liz2 Liz2
Actually I don't mind and I provoke it. I am a flirt, my boyfriend knows it and he either enjoys it (he has, is with me) or he ignores it.
It is annoying when a guy under the influence will just not get lost.
12/22/2011
Contributor: AndroAngel AndroAngel
I'm a flirt. I won't string someone along if they seem genuinely interested and don't know I have someone, but if they know I'm with my lover and they still flirt, I assume they know they aren't actually going to get anywhere. Sometimes I don't even notice that I'm being hit on until someone else points it out... I can be a little dense, I guess. But really, I don't care if people hit on me, it's an ego boost, and I like to think of myself as art when I take the time to look stunning, I should be looked at and appreciated, even though like any art, there's a no touching policy.
12/22/2011
Contributor: El-Jaro El-Jaro
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Originally posted by Chilipepper
I've never had it happen. What's it like?
I don't know either...

I think it happened to me once at a Walmart.
12/22/2011