Sadly, I pay child support and alimony.

We need a choice for pay and receive. Second marriage...Mr pays...Mrs receives.

Neither.

And by "receive child support" I mean I get post-minority support from my dad for college.

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The Mrs. should be receiving.

Needs to be an other option....I don't pay child support, but my husband does. He isn't suppose to be still paying and he shouldn't have had to pay in the first place as they each had custody of one child each. But in order to have custody of the son, he had to agree to paying for the daughter. As he wanted his son....he agreed. A judge should have never said that was okay. He shouldn't still be paying because his daughter turned 19 in July and is on her second year of college. Once the child turns 18 and graduates, you are done with child support unless your papers include college, his didn't. If your child is still in high school when they are 18, you still pay. She graduated a while ago, but the judge still hasn't signed the paper work to stop payments from coming out. He pays and gets a check every couple of weeks for the amount he paid in one week. The system is horribly flawed if it's taking a judge this long to sign the paper work. Hubby can't do anything about it. The Judge has to sign the papers to end everything. It's really ridiculous what they are doing to us. It may not seem like much, but that a little over $50 a week covers a lot of expenses with our two small children. We need that cash. Luckily, it's not going to the ex....it's going to child support and they see the balance is zero and send a check back to us.

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My ex-husband SHOULD be paying me support for our 8 year old and our 4 year old, but the judicial system is a giant piece of poo. I've filed 3 times, and they continue to adjourn and dismiss because he can't seem to be served with the court papers. Yet he has no problem collecting unemployment every week since March 2011. I wish it were different, but SADLY, I'm financially on my own without any extra coming in.

I pay child support, but my ex and I are trying to work things out to get back together. I should have never left him to start with and get married to someone else.

I should receive child support but my daughters sperm donor does not pay it.

I avoided this thread for a while because this is a sensitive issue topic for me. My husband used to pay child support, doesn't anymore.

When he went to court, they had a month of overtime work prior. They based his child support on this even though he stated that his checks would be nowhere near that for probably years. A few weeks later, when work dropped off, we netted about $100-$200 a week out of his paycheck after child support. We had a car repossessed, had to move in with my mother in a very small condo, couldn't pay any of our bills, and his credit was ruined. Why was his credit ruined? Because when his check wasn't enough to pay the full support amount he got in arrears which hits your credit. Not enough to have the repo on there, but that's there too.

He went back to court no less than THREE times trying to get it reduced based on his actual pay scale. Judge turned it down every time. They had him fill out forms on our income versus expenses which clearly showed he could not even afford to live. Judge literally said "I don't care."

What good does it do a child to have their father living on the street? Had he had visitation, there would have been no where for the child to go and visit. Which, of course, would have meant his visitation rights would have been taken away. If it weren't for my family, he literally would have had no job (no car to get to work - couldn't afford it - and worked too far away for a bus), no place to live, and likely very little food to eat.

After living like that for two years, I RESENT the child support system. I also saw it do the same thing to my dad. While my dad was an ass and didn't want to pay on principle, I also know he could hardly afford the one bedroom apartment he had after he paid (which was usually late - partly because he was an ass and partly because he didn't always have the funds).

I get that both parents need to fund things for the child, but no parent in their right mind would spend so much on their child that they would have nowhere to live, no way to get around, and no food to eat. Why should child support amounts be such that it would cause this for a person??

My husband and I have a child together now. If ever we divorced, rest assured I would never in my life go through the judicial system for support. If he wanted to still be around for my son, then we could split bills or something. I wouldn't want my son to have to visit his dad in squalor because he couldn't afford to live after paying us. If he wanted to disappear, so be it. I'd rather tough it out on my own that get near that fucked up system.

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