Do you think using sex toys in your sex life is ok or too excessive for every day use?

Do you think using sex toys in your sex life is ok or too excessive for every day use?

Evoluchun Evoluchun
I was watching The Doctor's show yesterday and they had Dr. Ruth on there and she said that its too excessive if someone uses sex toys more than once a year with or without a partner, I want to know who agrees. I think useing sex toys spices up the bedroom more and you have fun enjoying things together. I know it has spiced up my bedroom alot because I think when your with someone for years you should try things different.... I totally disagree with Dr. Ruth and we don't use every single time but bein a reviewer we do use them quiet alot.....
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
I use it every day or every sex encounter with partner to spice things up
Envy , Sir , Evoluchun , P'Gell , Tori Rebel , Darling Jen , Sammi , JEM , Coralbell , Gunsmoke , dv8 , Nothere , JessCee , indiglo , meitman , Beaners , Beck , big b , padmeamidala , socalsusieq , Stinkytofu10 , TheSlyFox , <3BF , Gracie , potstickers , DawnStar , Katelyn , quackbuster , Msmueller , nikki0668 , nimr , peachmarie , Pumpk1nPatch , butts , Leather & Lace , Vanessa1986 , Hallmar82 , jwitt754
38  (43%)
I use them sometimes with my parnter or by myself but more than once a year
El-Jaro , fatesrelease , joja , MuffysPinguLove , kck , Femme Mystique , PassionQT , ToyTimeTim , Jenna.J.Ross , Miss Anonymous , lilly555 , slynch , emilia , BeautifulDarkness , Redboxbaby , The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary , LikeSunshineDust , Valentinka , mm098 , cryinglightning86 , PassionCpl , Sundae Sparkles , Squeaky , Scorpionwally , unfulfilled , Jasco , Kitka , Hazeleyes2012 , Living Doll , Britt&Rich , Carlie2010 , bayosgirl , Martiniman , GirlOnGirl
34  (38%)
I use once a month or so in partner or self pleasure
SexyySarah , Ciao. , domsub1993 , MissCandyland
4  (4%)
I use once a year in play with my partner or myself
I don't use toys at all
other
Alicia , Lady Venus , ...... , ~LaUr3n~ , ScottA , Airen Wolf , Maiden , NightNight , Sensual husband , MrWishyWashy , AndroAngel , PropertyOfPotter , AmethystQueen
13  (15%)
Total votes: 89
Poll is closed
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Envy Envy
I have to disagree. Without toys I can't even orgasm, and my bf lives in another state. So what am I to do then? Abstain until who knows when?
07/28/2010
Sir Sir
Not every day OR every sex encounter, but most times, a lot of times, yes. But at the same time, we're good with just our parts, no additives.
07/28/2010
Sir Sir
Oh, and also, I think that any amount is just fine, whether they're used not at all or used all of the time! As long as the people involved are happy and pleasured.
07/28/2010
Evoluchun Evoluchun
Quote:
Originally posted by Envy
I have to disagree. Without toys I can't even orgasm, and my bf lives in another state. So what am I to do then? Abstain until who knows when?
I totally agree there thats why I thought it was crazy when she said that on tv I was like what!!!
07/28/2010
Evoluchun Evoluchun
Quote:
Originally posted by Sir
Oh, and also, I think that any amount is just fine, whether they're used not at all or used all of the time! As long as the people involved are happy and pleasured.
I agree if the couple is fine with it and are happy thats all that should matter but she was talking about if people use them too much they won't be happy with who there with i was like crazy
07/28/2010
Alicia Alicia
Wait Dr. Ruth said this??? Wasn't she the one who was always on tv showing the different sex toys and stuff?? Maybe I am remembering completely wrong. But yea um..I totally disagree!!
07/28/2010
Alicia Alicia
Oh, and I chose other because I don't use them every day alone, and I don't use them EVERY sex encounter with my husband...but I use them more than once a month too...like probably a few times a week and then MOST times with my husband.
07/28/2010
Lady Venus Lady Venus
I voted "other" because it all really depends.
When I get something new we tend to use it a lot. But we don't use toys EVERY time. Probably more times without than with.
07/28/2010
El-Jaro El-Jaro
Quote:
Originally posted by Alicia
Wait Dr. Ruth said this??? Wasn't she the one who was always on tv showing the different sex toys and stuff?? Maybe I am remembering completely wrong. But yea um..I totally disagree!!
That was prolly Sue Johnson.
07/28/2010
Alicia Alicia
Quote:
Originally posted by El-Jaro
That was prolly Sue Johnson.
Oh yep! It was...I just looked her up!


I also looked up Dr. Ruth's site, and she does have some valid points about why she doesn't like vibrators for everyday use. I didn't see anything about not once a year, but she was saying that using a vibe every day or every time can cause people to be addicted to the high sensations and can desensitize themselves to their partner...which makes sense.
07/28/2010
P'Gell P'Gell
I have to disagree with doctor Ruth. We don't use them at EVERY sexual encounter, but always when I am going to be able to have an orgasm, and certainly MORE than once a year.

Dr. Ruth, God love her, has done a lot for sexual openness, but she has some beliefs that are not true for everybody. For instance, she thinks women shouldn't try for multiple orgasms, because she THINKS that those women have weak ineffectual orgasms, and that any after the first are too weak to count. WTF? She hasn't been in our bedroom (or outside our bedroom door!)

She designed the Oricillator (I KNOW I spelled that wrong) but ONLY for women who are "pre-orgasmic" according to her, once you can have an orgasm, you are supposed to STOP using the vibrator. Kind of a waste of $150.00 vibe for my liking.

Shit, I just realized I voted wrong. I meant the SECOND one.
07/28/2010
El-Jaro El-Jaro
She's also in her 70-80's. She might be getting more conservative in her later years.
07/28/2010
...... ......
By myself I use them every time. With my husband I use them sometimes.
07/28/2010
P'Gell P'Gell
It's the Eroscillator. (OK, looked it up and spelled it right that time. That was bothering me.)

And it is the ONLY sex toy she evidentially approves of. Of course, if she gets a Royalty every time they sell one......
07/28/2010
P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by El-Jaro
She's also in her 70-80's. She might be getting more conservative in her later years.
Yeah, you do have to look at the culture she was brought up in. Did you know she spent years in a Nazi Concentration Camp as a young girl? I applaud her for working on Recovery so well, putting her life to good use (talking about SEX!), and being one of the first people who would actually say "ORGASM" on television!
07/28/2010
Tori Rebel Tori Rebel
I use toys pretty much daily myself, and probably about half the time when I'm with a partner (either a vibrator on me or a pspot toy in him).
07/28/2010
Darling Jen Darling Jen
I honestly think she's completely crazy for saying that. If her advice wasn't so extreme I would say, "Well, maybe she doesn't realize..." But because it's so far out in the deep end, I think she's just a nutcase.
07/28/2010
Chilipepper Chilipepper
She's stuck at where she had started - she broke the mold all those years and the 'sexual revolution' had gone on to entirely different areas while she's covering the same areas she's always covered. She's not crazy, she's just not caught up with what's been happening in her own field. It happens to a lot of experts and trail-blazers. That's why you never rest on your laurels.
07/28/2010
ScottA ScottA
You don't want the toys to get in the way of the relationship, but if you're working together and talking, etc. that can be easily dealt with.
07/28/2010
P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by Chilipepper
She's stuck at where she had started - she broke the mold all those years and the 'sexual revolution' had gone on to entirely different areas while she's covering the same areas she's always covered. She's not crazy, she's ...
You hit the nail on the head, Chili!
07/28/2010
Sammi Sammi
Too excessive if they're used more than once a year? Wow, I think I'm wallowing in excessiveness here
07/28/2010
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
Quote:
Originally posted by El-Jaro
That was prolly Sue Johnson.
Sue Johanson is the one who taught people how to properly use and care for toys on the air. Dr. Ruth is simply a therapist specializing in sexual health...but I'm surprised to hear her say that using toys is obsessive and wrong. She always said that usng whatever you had to be intimate with your partner was amazing and totally correct! Odd.
07/28/2010
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
Quote:
Originally posted by Alicia
Oh yep! It was...I just looked her up!


I also looked up Dr. Ruth's site, and she does have some valid points about why she doesn't like vibrators for everyday use. I didn't see anything about not once a year, but she was ...
It is very easy to resensitize yourself though, simply turn down the vibrations and try something new. There isn't any nerve damage that's done (thank you to my Dr. for clearing up that myth) it's just literally changing what you expect from your orgasm. patience and relaxation are key...unless there IS nerve damage or a hormone issue making it difficult for you.
I use a variety of vibrators of differing intensities and it helps to keep it all fresh.
07/28/2010
SexyySarah SexyySarah
This one was hard to choose from because I don't use it everyday, but I use one like 2-3 times a week. And we usually use it to enhance our sex, but not everytime.
07/28/2010
fatesrelease fatesrelease
We don't use them together EVERY time we have sex but we aren't afraid to pull out a toy if we are in the mood!
07/28/2010
Evoluchun Evoluchun
Quote:
Originally posted by Alicia
Wait Dr. Ruth said this??? Wasn't she the one who was always on tv showing the different sex toys and stuff?? Maybe I am remembering completely wrong. But yea um..I totally disagree!!
I thought kinda strange either way cause she is always so open about talking about sex but who knows
08/02/2010
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Who cares what Dr. Ruth says? More daytime drivel that passes for information. I stopped listening to the so-called experts a long time ago. These are the same people who tell you the g-spot doesn't exist and vaginal orgasms are a myth.

You'd expect a woman to know better - but I assume that the ones touting all this misinformation simply haven't had as much sex as they claim - or that they and their partners are extraordinarily inept lovers.

Enjoy your toys and let the so called experts to wallow in their ignorance.
08/02/2010
Femme Mystique Femme Mystique
Quote:
Originally posted by Evoluchun
I was watching The Doctor's show yesterday and they had Dr. Ruth on there and she said that its too excessive if someone uses sex toys more than once a year with or without a partner, I want to know who agrees. I think useing sex toys spices up ...
I definitely disagree with her. We use them some times, but not every time.
08/02/2010
PassionQT PassionQT
Quote:
Originally posted by SexyySarah
This one was hard to choose from because I don't use it everyday, but I use one like 2-3 times a week. And we usually use it to enhance our sex, but not everytime.
Same here. If I want to cum, I'll pull out a toy. Often, I just enjoy the intimacy of sex and don't worry about my toys. Either way, I don't feel there's anything wrong with using them as often as you want.
08/02/2010
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Unique posters: 56