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Contributor: SecretToyLover2 SecretToyLover2
I've always been curious who is open with their family about EF and/or their sex toy usage. And if so, how do they feel about it? Answer the poll and tell me how your family feels in the answers below.

My mother and father finally know that my husband and I use sex toys. It came up in conversation with my aunt, and she opened her big mouth to them thinking they already knew. They totally aren't okay with it. They find it to be a bad thing because they are strict catholics, and their upbringing was a lot different. They almost see using sex toys as being unfaithful to one another as husband and wife.
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
I am a female.
71
I am a male.
17
My family knows about EF
18
My family knows about my sex toy usage
23
My family knows because I told them
18
My family knows because they accidentally found out
6
My family knows because someone else told them
2
My family doesn't know - I'm too ashamed to tell them
5
My family doesn't know - It's none of their business
59
My family doesn't know - I really don't know whether to tell them other not/Other
3
I am married
27
I am engaged
8
I am single
24
I am dating
21
My family thinks that it is gross/shameful/inappropriate
7
My family thinks it is funny
13
My family doesn't know what to think, but they aren't mad
7
My family is super pissed, I don't know why
My family just finds it really weird
7
I think my family would be mad if they knew
8
I don't think my family would care, but I choose not to tell them
14
Who knows what they would think
17
My family would be okay with it if I was married/engaged
My family isn't okay with it, regardless
3
My family feels upset because of their upbringing
5
My family feels upset because of their religion
3
My family feels upset because... IDFK
Other (explain)
6
I feel ashamed that my family doesn't agree with me
1
I feel sad that my family doesn accept me
2
I feel upset that my family has a problem with this
3
I feel happy that my family is cool enough to let me make my own choices
9
I feel relieved that my family is staying out of my business
23
I feel great that I have a family open to my lifestyle
11
Other (explain.)
6
Total votes: 447 (93 voters)
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Contributor: SparklyGlitter SparklyGlitter
I dont think that it is my familys buisness, but i think its great that some people can be close
02/20/2012
Contributor: SecretToyLover2 SecretToyLover2
Quote:
Originally posted by SparklyGlitter
I dont think that it is my familys buisness, but i think its great that some people can be close
I don't find it to be any of my family's business either. There's a few people I've been close enough to tell (like my aunt, who opened her mouth not knowing how my parents are). But I sort of wish that they would see eye to eye with me, or at least let me be. I'm married for pete's sake. I think it should be my choice. But at the moment they wont even speak to me.
02/20/2012
Contributor: bayosgirl bayosgirl
Quote:
Originally posted by SecretToyLover2
I don't find it to be any of my family's business either. There's a few people I've been close enough to tell (like my aunt, who opened her mouth not knowing how my parents are). But I sort of wish that they would see eye to eye with ... more
I'm sorry they're acting that way. That's totally unfair and bizarre. You're a grown woman, you have a right to use whatever toys you want.

As for me, my parents don't know and I want to keep it that way. They wouldn't go to the extent of shaming me (that was reserved for the premarital sex I engaged in!) but they would be disgusted and make me feel bad.
02/20/2012
Contributor: rawsonbr rawsonbr
It's not something I talk about with them.
02/20/2012
Contributor: SecretToyLover2 SecretToyLover2
Quote:
Originally posted by bayosgirl
I'm sorry they're acting that way. That's totally unfair and bizarre. You're a grown woman, you have a right to use whatever toys you want.

As for me, my parents don't know and I want to keep it that way. They ... more
My parents were the same. When I was dating my husband, and we were about 18 years old, they found out we had had sex. It was my husband's first time. I'm the only one he's ever done things with. But he was the 4th man I had sex with, and probably the 6th man I had "done stuff" with. I was a teenager who thought love was sex... Stupid me. Anyhow, they knew about the other few guys and to them, it was their last straw. They shamed me back then the same way they're doing it now.

They are disgusted. They've told me that. They say it "isn't natural" and isn't what God intended for me. I don't see this as any sort of sin. I am married and it's not premarital. My husband is okay with it and so am I. Even if I wasn't married, it still seems fine to me. It's healthy to have sexual pleasure, and if I could have gone back I would have ignored all those boys and owned a vibrator!
02/20/2012
Contributor: js250 js250
This is a personal issue for my husband and I, not my family. One person knows, however, she doesn't care. I am not hiding it as much as guarding our right to privacy.
02/20/2012
Contributor: KyotoAngel KyotoAngel
I'm a woman, my mother and boyfriend know but the rest of my family doesn't (I don't think they'd care but we don't get to see them much anyway).
02/20/2012
Contributor: Shellz31 Shellz31
My family knows cause I'm open enough to let people know and it actually got them into purchasing toys for themselves.
02/20/2012
Contributor: shySEXXaddict shySEXXaddict
Quote:
Originally posted by SecretToyLover2
I've always been curious who is open with their family about EF and/or their sex toy usage. And if so, how do they feel about it? Answer the poll and tell me how your family feels in the answers below.

My mother and father finally know ... more
My family knows i use then.in very open sexually.hell for my birthday one year my mother whos a prude got me a gift certificate to our local porn store.i was so proad of her for walking in there just too make me happy
02/20/2012
Contributor: unfulfilled unfulfilled
Quote:
Originally posted by shySEXXaddict
My family knows i use then.in very open sexually.hell for my birthday one year my mother whos a prude got me a gift certificate to our local porn store.i was so proad of her for walking in there just too make me happy
That's a pretty awesome mom.
02/20/2012
Contributor: unfulfilled unfulfilled
Noone in our families know I use sex toys to supplement in the bedroom. My hubby showed his mom the black magic super bullet one day because he was massaging his back with it when she came over, but she just thought it was a back massager. She was clueless to the fact it can be used as a sex toy.

I wouldn't be embarassed to talk to them about it if the conversation came up, but we don't talk about our sex lives.
02/20/2012
Contributor: froggiemoma froggiemoma
No, my family doesn't know about my toy collection.
02/20/2012
Contributor: - Kira - - Kira -
My mom knows we use toys but not that we have a large collection. She doesn't know I do reviews. She's always thought my toys were cool and asked me what was good and such. I don't tell her about reviewing simply because she'd look up my reviews and I don't need her knowing every detail of my orgasms.
02/20/2012
Contributor: Allstars316 Allstars316
My family doesn't know what I do in my pvt time.
02/20/2012
Contributor: Beck Beck
My family knows and thinks it is hilarious. They call me the rubber dick queen! I show my mom all my beautiful glass toys, metal toys, and any other one that is pretty. My dad thinks it is hilarious that I got my hubby to do some videos and they have even seen them. I try to tell my mom that she needs to open her mind into this kind of stuff and really learn to enjoy everything she can, but she won't.
02/20/2012
Contributor: padmeamidala padmeamidala
Quote:
Originally posted by SecretToyLover2
I've always been curious who is open with their family about EF and/or their sex toy usage. And if so, how do they feel about it? Answer the poll and tell me how your family feels in the answers below.

My mother and father finally know ... more
my family does not know about EF. I don't talk to my mom and my Dad has passed away. My sister and I don't talk much and my brother wouldn't be interested in my sex toys/life.
02/20/2012
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
Quote:
Originally posted by SecretToyLover2
I've always been curious who is open with their family about EF and/or their sex toy usage. And if so, how do they feel about it? Answer the poll and tell me how your family feels in the answers below.

My mother and father finally know ... more
I would assume they know since facebook disregarded my partitions and announced my like list to everyone in my family on facebook >.<

I don;t really care what they think or really know since we don't have any contact with them.
02/20/2012
Contributor: mistressg mistressg
My family has no idea, and it's none of their business. I know they would do nothing but shame me and talk about me amongst themselves and treat me as though I was doing something shameful and disgusting. Knowing that I own a vibrator would be enough for them to treat me like trash, and act like I have a scarlet letter on my back. No need for them to know. I don't care what they do with themselves or others sexually, there is no need for them to know my business.
02/20/2012
Contributor: Ryuson Ryuson
(Review Program Mentor)
My mum knows that I 'Review for an online community.' Because it's my mum and she pries so little it sometimes feels like she doesn't care, she just said 'okay.'
02/20/2012
Contributor: True Pleasures True Pleasures
Only my husband knows about my sex toys, and that's the way I'd like to keep it. Not even my adopted brother, whom I'm very close to, knows.
02/20/2012
Contributor: blacklodge blacklodge
I've told my mom. She thinks it's wonderful. She's even told a few of her very close friends about it. I order stuff for her all the time, too.
02/20/2012
Contributor: JEM JEM
My family is very open. My sister and her husband know. My sister who is a bit of a prude finds it funny but will never try anything from the site. I've teased her about getting her a gift certificate for her birthday on several occasions! Her husband on the other hand is fascinated by it. He has read all my reviews and I think he secretly wants me to get them a gift certificate!

I also have tons of cousins who all know. They all find it pretty neat.
02/20/2012
Contributor: catgirl9 catgirl9
My family does not know and I don't ever plan on telling them. They wouldn't care, but I'm still not going to tell them.
02/21/2012
Contributor: GONE! GONE!
No and I hope they never find out!
03/11/2012
Contributor: Caus Caus
I believe some things should be kept out of family conversation but if they're really laid-back about that sorta thing then more power to you. I'm sorry your parents are so against what you and your partner do in private.
03/11/2012
Contributor: Zombirella Zombirella
Quote:
Originally posted by SecretToyLover2
I've always been curious who is open with their family about EF and/or their sex toy usage. And if so, how do they feel about it? Answer the poll and tell me how your family feels in the answers below.

My mother and father finally know ... more
My mom knows because she found a vibrator but she only knows about the one. I don't tell and I'm not sure really how anyone else would react. I would be comfortable telling two of my aunts if they asked or cousins (female).
One of my fiance's aunts and uncle knows and we were just showing them this site last night. But they are really laid back and open/non judgmental. I think both of my grandmas would probably be "disappointed" and the one would tell me I'm a "sex addict" because I make perverted jokes with my mom nd she hears and says I'm obsessed with sex... and my dad would probably say I have something wrong with me lol. But honestly I wouldn't care if they thought I was weird or something if anyone found out but it would be awkward.
03/11/2012
Contributor: mlmac mlmac
My family does't know. It's just something we would never discuss.
03/11/2012
Contributor: Lady Bear Lady Bear
my family doesn't have a need to know since we don't discuss this stuff. Pretty sure they would be fine with it (probably think its funny)
03/11/2012
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by SecretToyLover2
I've always been curious who is open with their family about EF and/or their sex toy usage. And if so, how do they feel about it? Answer the poll and tell me how your family feels in the answers below.

My mother and father finally know ... more
Never seen this many answers to a question!!! Oh..and my family only knows since when visiting, my mother in law decided to clean up the house and found our million toy stashes. She giggled and said "I have never owned THAT many toys"...which made us feel great. SHE is human too. Go figure.
03/11/2012